The first impulse you get after rejection is usually not the best way to go. When the person we like doesn’t show the same feelings for us, our first impulse is usually to try to prove our worth to someone. But if we doubt our own worth, then it seems that someone else has the power to determine it for us.

If this experience has caused you to doubt your own worth, then you should forget about this person immediately.

When the person you like doesn’t like you, you have to understand that not only does it have nothing to do with you, but it also doesn’t have the power to harm you. That was always one of my difficulties. How could something that had nothing to do with me still impact me so negatively?

Trying to prove your worth to the person you like is an impossible task. You can’t force someone to love you, and sometimes, that feeling of holding back is exactly what draws you in.

Instead of trying to prove your worth to them, follow these 3 pieces of advice:

1. Make a list of how lovable you are

When the person you like doesn’t feel the same way about you, it’s good to remember the things you like about yourself. You’re kind, and even if you forget that sometimes, I’m sure there are things about you that you like. If you’re having a hard time rebuilding your self-esteem after rejection, just think about all the things what your friends have said about you and write them down – because those nice things they said are totally true. True friends are sincere!

This exercise may seem like a kind of self-help, but it’s important to regain your self-esteem when you’ve just stumbled on a rock of rejection.

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2. Recognize that it wouldn’t be as good as you thought it would be.

When the person you care about doesn’t reciprocate that feeling, you may experience some sense of loss. Clearly, the relationship you were hoping for with this person is not going to happen. The best way to get over it is to recognize that it was a relationship you built in your head.

It makes it easier to let go of the future you were hoping for when you realized you’re grieving over something that hasn’t happened yet.

A relationship will always be different from what you imagined, and even if you feel like your fantasy had some potential, it wouldn’t be scripted exactly.

You can channel the feelings you had for a person back to you, your friends and family, and consecutively continue towards what you want. The only difference is that this person will not be there with you – and it is their right to have made that choice.

3. Go for the relationship you want!

If you like someone, it means that you are totally receptive to love. This is beautiful and amazing, and it’s actually rarer than you might think. Especially these days.

Not everyone is open to giving and receiving love, but from the moment you are, you know you really might want a relationship and go for it!

When you know you’re open to connecting with someone, you make the idea of dating and flirting that much more passionate.

Don’t think that just because that person didn’t want to be with you that no one else will. Something didn’t line up between you and the person who rejected you – and it’s no one’s fault, that’s normal. Be open to taking advantage of new opportunities to come!

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As you continue to meet people, you will find that there are many ways to share your time, space and heart with someone.

Take advantage of this “negative” experience to improve even more and be that wonderful person that you are day after day with more perfection!