How to start a conversation with a girl naturally

Know how to start a conversation can give you the chance you so desperately need to win a girl’s heart.

Establishing a connection isn’t about sound bites or clever jokes; instead, it’s about making her feel special and developing the things you have in common. You can do this via Whatsapp, an online dating app and in person.

Three Top Subjects to Start a Conversation with a Girl

While it might seem like there are a lot of subjects you could mention, almost every opening line falls into one of these three categories. Understanding these categories and when to use them will help you be successful when trying to talk to her:

• Her – Most people love to talk about themselves, but it can be hard to bring that up right away.
• You – While it may be tempting, talking about yourself does not encourage her to continue the conversation.
• Everything around you — you talk about your environment, which includes the people around you, the food and drinks you are consuming, the location, the weather, and many other things. This is the safest topic to broach when you want to start a conversation.

How to start a conversation with a girl in person

It’s not easy to walk up to a girl and just start talking, but if you know how to start a conversation, everything will become easier.

Even though it may seem intimidating, face-to-face conversations are actually some of the simplest to start. That’s because you two are in the same environment.

See how to do it:

1. Use your senses

What are you seeing, feeling, hearing and tasting? Chances are, if you are standing or sitting close together, she is experiencing something similar. You can use these environmental experiences to start a good conversation. Take time to look around you and watch the movement. It could be something like:

• The food
• the ambient music
• An experience, such as a common show or movie
• something in nature
• The unusual weather (at these times the famous “I think it’s going to rain”, “It’s hot today, right?” can help you…)
• Someone you both know, like a party hostess

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2. Think of something positive about what you are experiencing

In general, it’s better to start a conversation with something positive rather than a negative remark. Instead of commenting on the bad food at the party, talk about the beautiful view from the venue.

You should also make it personal for her if you can, as this will help draw her into the conversation. This depends a lot on the situation, but here are some examples you can try:

• You can ask her if she has ever been to a restaurant that serves similar food.
• If she liked such a movie
• If she’s heard this band that’s been playing before
• If she likes rain
• How she met the host of the party

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3. Starting with a question Question is a great alternative

A question is sure to get her attention, as it will invite her to continue talking. Here are some examples of how you can create a question to start a conversation:

• “I really enjoyed this sushi… What do you think is the best place to eat sushi in town?”
• Bruna’s house is amazing, isn’t it? How did you meet her?
• What did you think of the movie?

But be careful not to be the guy who talks too much… The best way to avoid an awkward silence is to listen carefully to what she says and ask questions based on that.

How to start a conversation with a girl online

Although the context is very different from personal conversations, starting a conversation online is easier in some ways.

You have fewer shared experiences with her, but the ones you do have are easier to refer to. You can also start a conversation about her as there are things she can share on social media that would lead to a good conversation. See how:

1. Pay attention to what she shares

When you want to start a conversation with a girl on Instagram, Facebook or social network, take the time to see what she’s shared about her life online.

Does she have pictures of her cat? She went to the cinema?

Think about the things she shared that also relate to her life. This will be very specific for the two of you, but here are some ideas:

• Volunteering for a cause you both care about
• Talk about an experience you’ve also had
• Sharing a pet, hobby, or other common interest
• Share a meme or story you think is funny

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2. Create a connection by asking the right question

Then, just like in a personal conversation, you need to find a way to ask a question that triggers a back-and-forth exchange.

Try to think of questions that are not short-answer questions. Avoid “yes” or “no” questions and opt for more open conversation starters like these:

• I saw that you are a volunteer for the organization “such”. Cool! What projects are you involved in?
• Did you like the new movie that came out in the cinema? I saw, too. How did you find that compared to the first one?

3. Keep the conversation going

Before asking her to chat, think of some ways to keep the conversation going. A great idea is to give her a genuine compliment.

Nonetheless, stay away from physical attributes and focus on the things she has done or is doing or the qualities you have seen her express. If she’s been kind to someone, watch this. If she did something amazing, praise her for it.

I hope these tips help you win your love. Good luck!

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