How to recover the spark in the couple: 5 simple ideas that you will love

Losing the spark in the couple is something that occurs more often than you think.

Especially if they have been in a love relationship for many years.

What if I told you that losing passion in bed isn’t just about routine?

Hard to believe, right?

But there are many reasons that intervene when connecting with him in privacy.

Here I will help you find out what made you lose your fire in bed.

Also, I will tell you 5 ideas to revive the passion that will drive you crazy.

Here we go!

5 simple ideas to revive the passion

Feeling that you are sexually estranged is not a pleasant feeling.

It generates concern and discomfort in the couple.

But if they detect it and you want to reverse this situation, there is hope.

All they need is a little self-motivation.

Your ultimate goal: turn him on, but also turn yourself on.

Thus, both will be ready to resume that fire in bed that was forgotten.

Don’t worry, I’m not going to give you typical “get back on a date” advice.

That is a truism that you alone can solve and try.

Here I will share simple ideas for you to add to your day to day with peace of mind.

Go ahead and try them and rotate them. They will surely serve you!

1) Remember

If you have been together for a long time, memory can be an ally to win him over.

Go ahead and remind your ear of passionate situations that you have experienced together.

Or reveal that underwear that you loved that special night.

Every sexual act is a physical act, but also a mental one.

So, your mind will help start the engines of passion.

Activate it!

2) Sexting

One trick you can use in conjunction with memories is sexting.

Surprise him at the office with risqué messages.

Or remind him of that fiery night with suggestive phrases.

If you dare, send him photos or videos.

Or, share new positions or sexy ideas that you find in your search engine.

This will intrigue you and will surely stimulate your imagination.

3) Education

Do you work in bed with your laptop?

If so, I can give you an idea to put this work situation to a more useful use.

Put work aside and look for hot videos or new ideas to experiment together.

Invite him to investigate with you. Feel free to search for whatever comes to your mind.

They don’t need to try everything they find, rather it’s an excuse to get turned on.

They may know something new, or not, but without a doubt, they will like to see your curious side.

4) touch

If the situation or the moment is opportune, do not forget to turn on their senses.

Any sensory act can lead them to bed.

The French poet, Paul Geraldy, already said it:

«The most beautiful moment of love, the only one that truly intoxicates us, is this prelude: the kiss.»

Precisely, touching, caressing, kissing, is the prelude to love, and the prelude to making love.

If you have excuses to remember these sensations, do it.

It might be a simple goodnight kiss, or a massage when you see him working.

You can even be suggestive, asking him to scratch your back as an excuse.

And then surprise him with risque caresses while doing it.

Any excuse is valid for them to meet again in everyday life.

This will remind you why you are together and help you connect.

5) Routine is your friend

Everything we do every day is part of a routine that sometimes overwhelms and exhausts us.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t use it to your advantage.

I am not going to demand that you leave responsibilities aside.

That is possible to do only for a day or a special moment; let’s be honest.

Instead, I give you ideas to give a special touch to what they do every day.

And to seduce him without him noticing.

Here are some examples:

Change your underwear: If you change in front of him and you usually wear those comfortable cotton panties, encourage yourself to wear something sexy from time to time.
Raise the temperature in daily conversations: It is not necessary to always talk about debts or chores. What if you ask him about his sexual fantasies before going to sleep? Of course, you won’t have these types of conversations at any time, you know better than anyone when the dialogue could turn into fire, if given the opportunity, of course.
Activate his senses: caress him or kiss him when appropriate: as I suggested before, look for the moment so as not to lose contact with each other. You can even stimulate him by using that perfume that he loves to go to sleep or before sitting down together to watch a series. In order to maintain the sexual connection, it is essential that they do not lose each other. They must feel.

Routine kills the spark. Myth or Reality?

It is very common to hear that “routine kills sex in a couple.”

And I myself have been the victim of repeating it lightly.

I will not deny it, there is some truth in this sentence, of course.

However, I invite you to ask yourself a question to discover what has happened in your relationship:

“Is routine the only culprit?”

I know you can be honest with yourself. It is time to reflect.

I’m not going to leave you alone in this, doing the same thing every day is overwhelming.

And much more if you must add children, household chores, work, shopping…

The list can go on forever. Undoubtedly, the day to day wears.

But the truth is that there are several factors to take into account in addition to the routine itself.

Do you think there is a true will to do things together with your partner?

Do you prefer to prioritize tasks or other things before your love relationship?

Well, in that case, it is time to understand what is happening.

It is clear that, in addition to external factors, such as obligations, there are internal ones.

And it is these internal factors that you must identify in order to rekindle the spark.

In other words, the myth of the routine has its percentage of reality, but not completely.

You have to understand that external factors go hand in hand with internal ones.

Try to identify what is happening with him before blaming only the routine.

Why don’t we have more sexual encounters?

If you wonder what the typical problems are when it comes to losing passion, here they go:

1) They don’t spend time alone

Giving each other space and time to be together is important.

How do you think you will achieve intimacy if you don’t even share situations or activities?

Think about it, is there a space that doesn’t overwhelm you that you could use to “be together”?

2) They don’t communicate like before

Being attentive to each other and to what happens to them is essential.

But for this to happen, you need to talk to each other from time to time.

And by talking I mean chatting, getting to know each other, discovering their day to day.

I don’t mean looking for excuses for fights and arguments.

Remember that the first step to approach him is to show interest.

If the person next to you doesn’t feel valued by you, it will affect their self-esteem.

And when it comes to igniting the passion, the better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be.

3) Tolerance is tested

If you have been in a relationship for a long time, you will undoubtedly know what I am talking about.

There comes a point in the relationship where you have already dealt with every situation and you know him well.

And at this point of extreme trust, there are usually frictions that generate frustration.

And even intolerance. In fact, they can easily explode at nonsense.

Is this avoidable? Yes it is. It’s just a matter of perspective.

And it’s not just about seeking willpower to avoid confrontation.

But rather it is a matter of understanding that he is different from you, and that is not bad.

You remember? Surely you have chosen it because you were attracted to these qualities.

Those that may unsettle you today.

The question to ask yourself is: Does what he says or does really bother you?

Or are you only depositing in those stress situations that originate from another problem?

When we have an excess of confidence in the couple, we tend to unload on the other.

This habitual behavior is because we believe that the other will always be there.

But not respecting or being careful in dealing with the other will create a gap between you.

4) They prioritize responsibilities

If they are a consolidated family or a stable couple, it is normal for them to prioritize obligations.

Dates and love encounters usually occur only at the beginning of a relationship.

But when stability is achieved, these situations are usually given up for lost.

This conflict is the most common. Surely this phrase resonates with you

“He doesn’t have time for me anymore.”

Or, perhaps, they are both so alienated from each other that they involuntarily drift away.

And worst of all, they haven’t realized this yet. Until now!

5) There is no space to be with yourself

Just as important as spending time together is spending time alone.

Yes, you read me right. Individual time for yourself (and for himself too).

If you’re not good with yourselves, it’s hard to enjoy each other in intimacy.

The psychologist and author Gabriel Rolón indicates that,

«There is no better tool to recover emotional balance than pleasure… Pleasure is the escape valve from anxiety. The more pleasure you have, the lower your anxiety will be and the calmer your psyche will be.”

Doing activities that you like or enjoying a sport is important.

The more you can prioritize yourself, the better off you will be with yourself.

This will not only facilitate the connection with your partner, but it will also do you good.

Being with the other, without stress or anxiety getting in the way, is very important.

6) They are not concerned with how they look or feel

Have obligations taken complete control in your relationship?

Surely they are no longer interested in how they look or feel when they live together in your home.

I am not telling you that you should be at home with a sexy outfit 24 hours a day, NO!

But if getting comfortable makes neither of you feel “attractive,” it will show.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t expect you to dress up for a date in the comfort of your own home.

But they do pay attention to both personal hygiene and how they feel at home.

Being well with yourself is the first step to healthy and full sexuality.

And also so that the other feels attracted to you.

Habits that maintain the couple connection

Active senses: touching, smelling, kissing, caressing from time to time is crucial for the couple. Do not forget. Surprise: Surprising each other with small gestures from time to time is a sign that you are thinking of each other and shows interest. They communicate and support: communicating honestly and being aware of what is happening in each other’s individual lives is very important to staying connected. Especially if they have different working lives. Being the pillar of mutual support in a couple maintains the connection and prevents a lack of trust. Humor: Sometimes the best way to end an argument is humor. Don’t forget to share moments with him that make you smile, from doing activities together to changing your focus in a situation or facing a problem with laughter, try it. I assure you that it will relieve you. They value each other: The Greek philosopher Plato said that love is not about passion or sexual ties, but about the admiration one has…