15 things I learned when I fell in love with a man younger than me

I must admit that I have been taken aback many times for dating younger men.

Surely it happens to you that you tend to attract a specific type of guy, well in my case it’s younger men.

My friends always joked about this topic with me.

And the truth is that to this is added that at a social level there are still people who can see a man with a young girl without flinching but when an older woman passes by with a younger boy they start to whisper.

Although I believe that age is simply a number. I couldn’t help but wonder if the age difference was really something to seriously consider when it came to having a good love relationship.

Is it good, bad or just different?

These are the 15 things I’ve learned about dating a man younger than me.

First the good…

1) They tend to be more adventurous and fun

Younger men are in the prime of their lives and tend to be outgoing, adventurous, and fun to be around.

Even a more timid or structured young man working as a computer programmer will generally be more adventurous at 35 than at 55.

All that testosterone has to go somewhere, and it often turns into a wild ride, which might be just what you need.

As Laura Lloyd writes for Brides:

“Not only is a younger guy more likely to keep up with the latest hot happenings in his area, but the activities you engage in together as a couple are likely to be more fun and adventurous than you’re used to.”

2) He will appreciate your maturity and stability

Younger men who are attracted to older women often find something in them that they don’t find in women their age.

More precisely, they find more maturity, wisdom and emotional stability.

If you find a younger man who appreciates you, it could be a change of the romantic game for you.

In fact, it could make a positive difference to those men your age who seem to take you for granted.

In my relationship with a younger guy he was always grateful for me.

He was constantly telling me how grateful he was that I didn’t play the younger girls’ games.

3) Not all young people are immature or reckless

Some young men aren’t just the kings of the party who want to get drunk and get laid.

This is a stereotype that on several occasions turns out not to be true. In many cases, age is not the factor that determines maturity.

YouTuber NoelletheFirst says that dating or marrying a younger man is actually a great idea due to her own positive experience being married to a man who is around seven years younger than her.

Although she “dismissed him at first,” Noelle says he changed her expectations and it ended up being a very good relationship.

“In the end, it never really made a difference. My husband is a very responsible, non-partier type of person, even though he has party hair… I was getting his MBA at the same time he was running his own business. As for personality, we flatter each other.

I’m a bit more of a carefree artist and he’s a bit more stable and emotionally calm… The fact that he’s younger than me? We hardly ever think about it.”

4) Sex is on fire

Another big (some would say biggest) advantage of dating a man younger than you (by a decade or two), is that the sex is often on fire.

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Younger guys are full of sexual desire, and assuming you have strong physical chemistry, you can be sure that the mattress will get plenty of exercise.

If you’re looking to spice up your intimacy, then a younger guy might be what you need…

And surely there are many things that you can teach him in bed too.

As Jené Luciani writes for Shape:

“Men reach their sexual prime in their twenties due to a rise in testosterone, while women generally reach theirs in their 30s and 40s. Add the fact that younger people have more stamina and you may May you find yourself in orgasm paradise.”

Orgasm heaven? Sign me up please.

5) Not ruling someone out based on their age increases your chances of finding love

When you judge based on age, you end up weeding out a lot of worthy suitors who might otherwise make an excellent match.

Age can be a useful indicator of many things, but it doesn’t tell you everything.

Shallon Lester is a YouTube commenter who admits to “chronically dating younger guys” and is widely criticized for it.

Admit many of the positive aspects of younger dating and that you can miss out on great love opportunities if you let other people tell you who to love.

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The points in this article will give you an idea of what it means to date a younger man.

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The bad..

7) You can become a playboy

Younger kids often don’t have the kind of livelihood that makes them financially reliable or stable.

This can cause him to become a taker and treat you like Mom’s Bank.

This directly leads to reduced romance and increased dependency and weird vibes.

Unless you have a unique fetish for a man draining you financially, it can be humiliating and frustrating to have a younger guy with a shaky career squeezing you out.

Even if you feel a strong attraction to this younger guy, it can fade quickly if he is always asking you for money.

Also, if you are like me you will appreciate a man who is well planted and with his objectives clear. In the end, economic health is the result of a person with clear things and an attitude of abundance towards life.

8) You may not have good control of your emotions

I know this from my own younger years. I didn’t always have the best emotional control.

When I was younger, in my 20’s, I would have major ups and downs quite unpredictably and at the slightest trigger.

I’ve heard stories from friends whose guys were unstable with them, disappeared, were passive-aggressive, manipulative, and more.

There are younger men who live as if the world “owes them something” and who expect the woman in their life to serve them like a king.

I personally say, no thanks.

9) Could be irresponsible

Younger guys can often have great personalities, fun interests, and really fun friend groups that they can include you in.

But they also have a habit of being irresponsible.

Sometimes they want all the fun without the responsibility.

Of course, that can be true for many people in general, regardless of age and especially men.

We also know that many stereotypes have some truth.

Younger men can often live up to those stereotypes to be honest.

Relationship writer Alyssa Girdwain says that:

“Some people, especially boys, have a lot of problems to solve in the field of maturity.

If you’re thinking of taking things with a younger man beyond a casual fling, find out if he can take responsibility for his actions.”

10) Their age can make you feel uncomfortable and insecure

Actually, this problem is more your problem than his, but it’s still real.

If her age makes you feel uncomfortable as a “crib burglar,” then it can get tricky.

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Fortunately, I have friends who are very supportive and open-minded. Not everyone is so lucky, there are friends who could judge you.

The important thing is that you know that you decide based on what makes you happy.

No one should live their life, and love, based on the opinion of others.

It can still be awkward when people close to you, including your own family, think that you can’t be serious with a younger guy or that it’s just a sexual thing or a fetish.

When you have real feelings for him, but no one seems to believe you, it’s very frustrating, so in this case, I advise you not to let it sabotage the chance you have with him.

11) He is not as committed as older men

Men in Western society used to settle down and get married in their 20s, but that is history.

There are many more expectations and freedoms that young people want to take advantage of before committing to family life.

Some don’t even want to have a family or children.

The older guys are not only more experienced in life, they are also from generations that had different values regarding family and commitment.

For this reason, you should be careful around younger guys if you’re looking for something legit.

As Lloyd writes:

“If you’re looking for a serious, long-term relationship, it might be more difficult for you to establish it with a younger guy. While an older man may want to have children and settle down, a younger man may want to continue to nurture the wild side of himself, be in an open relationship and not be into the idea of commitment.”

12) Moments of life and fertility

This point is important to mention since sooner or later it will be something that will appear in the couple.

If you’re much older and intending to have a family relatively soon, it’s important to consider the fact that he probably isn’t even thinking about it.

If you are over 35, probably being a mother is something that you have already wondered about and even worries you about.

Here you should seriously think about how you feel about this matter, what you want and if he can provide it now or in the not so long term. Talk to him about what you both expect so you don’t have surprises and disappointments later.