How to make good things happen to you: 7 keys for positive changes to come

We live in a growing and rapidly developing culture. The advancement of technology facilitates many tasks, which in theory gives us more free time and a better quality of life.

However, existence has become so complex today that a large number of people suffer high levels of tension, anxiety and stress orat the opposite extreme, boredom, lack of prospects and depression.

In general, our society tends to prioritize and overvalue everything that involves doing, controlling, having and competing, and undervalues ​​or spends very little time stopping, listening, observing and attending to the human.

Contrary to what we claim, this is leading us to a too general feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction.

The current human being wants and needs to meet forgotten aspects of himself and the world around him. Cultivating receptivity can be an open window to broader landscapes, more alive and full of meaning. Cultivate receptivity and listening may be the answer to how to make good things happen to you.

These are some of the guidelines to achieve this proposed by Aurora Morera and Juan José Greco, from the Institute of Psychosocial Care and Training:

1. Think about what the good things really are

Everything alive comes from the reconciliation of a creative aspect and a receptive aspect..

He I Chingclassic book of chinese wisdompresents these two aspects of reality as its first two figures and defines them as the two basic principles that form and allow life:

“The Receptive is the primary, shady, soft principle of the Yin. All owe their birth to him. While the Creative engenders and all beings owe their beginning to it, the Receptive is that which stops, which welcomes the celestial within itself and gives it body. Its essence is an unlimited concordance with the creative.”

The creative and the receptive show us two different forms of movement and stillness.

The movement of the creative is moving forwardtowards the goal, and its stillness implies stopping.The movement of the receptive, on the other hand, is opennessand its stillness means closing, closing…

“Feminine” energy is representative of the receptivewhile the “masculine” is creative.

Men and women contain and need both forms of energy if we want the processes to be complete and alive.

In this sense, so that the actions we undertake are in accordance with reality, with ourselves and with what we value, attentive and receptive observation is just as important as directed action.

However, our society is competitive and the competitive dynamic tends to compare, choose and define what or who is better or worse.

In the rush to do, own, control and escape vulnerability, our culture has placed us in a very universe yang: rival, ambitious, active, linear in his conceptions. It would be said that he chose the masculine as the best and the feminine was in the background.

The pervasive need for success and for structures to succeed, those patterns that operate as rigid mechanisms, condition our behaviors.

The masculine has imposed its creative vortex, and with it it presses, frames, defines… The receptivity of the feminine has been run over, destroyed.

2. We must be willing for things to change

You may be wondering how to make good things happen to you and that, at the same time, it scares you to see yourself in that state of uncertainty that implies being willing or open to whatever comes.

To escape anxiety that causes us to open ourselves to the unknown or to the new, we have almost exclusively adopted the masculine forms, which consist of move from activity to stillnessor vice versa.

We rarely practice that form of receptive action that is opening up to what is, allowing us a broad awareness of what happens inside and outside of us and an accompaniment of the processes in gestation.

When you are highly focused on desires, goals, and results, all too oftenAttention is not paid to the processes, forms and the passing of things.

In a way, both men and women have been determined to close the receptive and the feminine. And we’re all losing a lot in this competitive fight that is waged both within us and in our social reality.

Recognizing both modes of energy and giving them their place in the creative process is a fundamental step towards mental and social health in our time.

When we engage in an obsessive activityto a compulsive search or to a desire to abandon and disconnect, we are often trying to fill a void, to escape a fear.

In our culture, emptiness has a different meaning than it has, for example, in oriental cultures. When we contact the void we are afraid, because we consider it something similar to nothingness and deathand that for us means failure.

When an oriental person contacts nothingfor example through meditation, considers that it is the space where “there are no things”, but it does process, course, chance…

3. In the receptive attitude a new world awaits

We tend to define ourselves by the roles we play or we wish to representfor what we possess or for the knowledge we accumulate. However, being a person is much more than what is created and expands to what is not created, to what is not controlled, to the void, to the new possibility.

That immensity overwhelms. We are afraid of the unknown, not being able to foresee the consequences. Our body gets stressed every time it is subjected to an unknown situation. In the vast world of the unknown, if we identify too much with our immediate mood, fear makes its presence felt.

Paradoxically, You have to fight to be receptive, not to try to control everything, to surrender to listening without judgment. We have to look at our own thoughts and reactions face to face, without letting ourselves be dragged by them and see a little beyond the walls that our perception of things imposes.

Being in a receptive attitude often implies facing anxiety in the face of the unknown and somehow go through that fear of encountering something terrible, beyond all the things or papers from which we identify ourselves.

Perhaps we fear discovering that we are nothing, that we have nothing and this fear causes us to fill our observation with concepts, words, the need to understand and control. The great paradox is that the more we escape from the void in this way, the more empty we feel…

By cultivating a receptive attitude we accept and penetrate this nothingness, this emptiness. We stop squeezing and We give ourselves internal space and we also leave space for the otherlisten to the other, and we allow ourselves to look, listen, notice… widely.

So the desert begins to bloom. The void makes alive, it fills… In this case, “nothing” is equivalent to reality, to integration, to collecting everything there is, to deep listening, to possibility, to allowing life to unfold in all its breadth.

A life that escapes from this encounter is obsessively engaged in the search for excitement and pleasure, in the daze, in unrestrained activity or in the search for security and power, but it is meaningless.

Pleasure and triumph in themselves are not filling. After achieved, one feels empty by not involving the receptive part in life, well contact with the world, with reality and with being is lost.

4. Learn to keep your mind calm

The human being is considered an essentially social creature., since it is precisely within the group where it originates and where it learns the sociocultural content that characterizes its culture. This Learning is the work of the receptive attitude.

In childhood we are fully receptive and curiosity and vulnerability favor this openness to receive from the environment what we need.

In adolescence, the young person wants to become an individual and seeks creative alternatives.. It is a stage where often receptivity is blocked and any value that does not come from equals is rejected.

Maturity implies that the human being is no longer dependent or needs to oppose, being able to open up to learn and receive, as well as to give and create.

The education our parents received had more receptive connotations as respect for elders was maintained and to the “wisdom of time”.

Modernity has opted for an extreme “here and now” and receptivity to inner knowing has been transformed into attitudes for success.

Curiously, today in companies it is observed that the biggest source of conflicts and work failures are problems in personal relationships and it is recognized the need to learn to listen and be heard as basic attitudes of conflict resolution and job satisfaction.

One goal of personal development is to learn to keep a calm mind in the midst of agitation and to vibrate with vitality and attention in the midst of rest.

The broader the vision we have of ourselves and our environment, the easier it will be achieve what we set out to do, but, above all, we will have more chances of consciously choose what is valuable to us.

The more we move away from receptive contact with realitythe more diminished or disturbed our perception, the less we learn from new experiences and it is more difficult to know and achieve what we need and what we propose.

Without a receptive attitude it is not possible, either, to value and enjoy what we have already achieved.

5. Listen to stop repeating the same mistakes

When we look at ourselves and the world in a receptive way we can find that there are things we like and others we don’t like. And we accept that all that is there.

We also see our judgments what we think about how things “should be”, and accept that they are our judgments. Many come from family and cultural schemes not even chosen by us.

Sometimes we don’t know what to do with it all. Or we feel in the middle of chaos. Not knowing, not knowing, produces anxiety and arouses doubts.

We tend to look for a solution, a way out of this uncertainty. To name it, to judge it, to judge ourselves, to choose hastily to escape the pain of meeting our real vital moment.

That is why we often resort to familiar names, to family outings, and yet, in our fantasy, we expect different things to happen. In our drive for immediate action we do nothing but repeat over and over again what we already know.

Finding a creative outlet necessarily involves listening, broadly and receptively, to what is happening and what is happening to us. Takes time. It requires space.

requires a look that welcomes without judging, without pushing. It is a non-linear look, but broad and complex.

The receptive respects and enjoys what has been achieved and incorporate the new. And let life flow in its course, encompassing it. Accept the life and death of all process. She stops clinging to the dying old and drenches herself in the known and the unknown. Let out and release, let in and welcome.

And he knows that although now he does not know and cannot understand what is unknown, all this will gradually reach its form in creative alchemy.

6. Learn to value what we have already achieved

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