How to make a man want a serious relationship: 13 infallible tips

We all know the story. A girl meets a boy. Things are going great, until, at some point, what they want from a relationship doesn’t quite match up.

She wants a commitment. But as soon as she leaves a toothbrush at her house, he starts to distance himself.

Don’t worry. You can give a new twist to your relationship with what I will tell you next.

In this article I am going to list the 13 most important things you can do to get a man to commit.

This will happen like this, because men really want committed relationships, when they consider that it will be better than what they currently have.

And that is what you must show him.

How to Get a Man to Commit: 13 Proven Keys to Getting It Done

1) Let him be your hero

It’s great that you’re independent. But it is also very important that your boy does not feel that he is an unnecessary addition in your life.

The simple truth is that men like to feel important and needed.

It’s a difficult balance to strike. Being independent enough for him to respect and want you.

But also let him take the initiative for you and make him feel like the right man for your relationship.

Because men have an intrinsic desire to be your hero and this has nothing to do with being your Bruce Willis.

Let me explain you.

In recent years, scientists and relationship psychologists have been talking about a new theory called the hero instinct.

This basically means that men have a deep-seated desire to step up for the woman in their life and protect her. They want to offer her something that no other man can offer and, in return, earn her love and respect.

In other words, he wants to be your hero. This is built into your DNA.

I know it seems a bit silly. In this day and age, women can take care of themselves.

But men have a biological drive to feel like one and the best thing you can do is let it be for you.

The best part is that women can trigger this instinct in them. There are phrases that you can say and small requests that you can make to him, so that he feels like the hero of your life.

And when his hero instinct kicks in, a man is much more likely to commit to a deep, passionate, and long-lasting relationship.

2) Don’t suffocate him

As we said before, men are attracted to independent women in their fair measure. Otherwise, if you are too demanding with a boy, you can cause rejection.

Early in a relationship, it’s normal to want to spend as much time together as possible. However, be careful not to lose yourself in the relationship. He remembers that the woman he fell in love with was independent and outgoing.

Make sure you maintain a strong social life outside of the relationship. Keep seeing your friends and family.

See him as part of your life, not as your whole life. Not only will your friends thank you, he will too.

Also, this gives him permission to do the same, and in this way your relationship will become much healthier. Additionally, maintaining this entitlement will make it much more likely to be compromised in the long run.

Relationships thrive when you feel in balance with most areas of your life.

There is a lot of truth in the old saying “absence makes love grow”. If you’ve had a fun weekend with your friends, he’ll probably be excited to see you when you get back.

3) Because you are worth it

Remember, this guy fell for you in the first place, because he likes you.

He probably watches you when you get dressed, and when you get undressed. She has seen you ready for a night out on the town and when you wake up in the morning.

You have to be confident in how you look and how much he is attracted to you. Don’t seek security from him because of how you look all the time. If not, this suggests a need, which will work its way into his brain over time.

Telling him that you need to lose weight or that you would like your breasts to be bigger are other important things to avoid.

What makes you more attractive in his eyes is that you feel confident in how you look. If you keep pointing out that you’re not as attractive as you could be, it will only make him start to believe it.

4) If he is emotionally unavailable, try this

Most men struggle to open up and tell you what they’re thinking.

The reality is that men are not good at processing their emotions. That’s why they can walk away unexpectedly when it’s time to commit.

And the reason is simple.

Male and female brains are biologically different.

One big difference is that the limbic system, the part of the brain that regulates our emotions, is much larger in female brains than in male ones.

That is why women are generally more in touch with their emotions. Unlike men, who can have a hard time dealing with complicated feelings, like falling in love with a woman.

Most men don’t think about relationships logically. At least not in the way that women do.

What really matters to men is how the relationship makes them feel.

The simple truth is that your man wants to feel like he has found the best woman for him. This makes him feel that he is a winner.

5) Trust him

If a man thinks that you are constantly watching him, looking for clues about an affair, he will think that this is not the right relationship for him.

For the relationship to work, it is absolutely vital that your man knows that you trust him completely. If you don’t trust him, he’ll find someone else who does.

Lack of trust destroys the foundation of any relationship.

If you always ask him where he’s been or who he’s been with, you’re not the person he wants to spend his whole life with.

Remember that he chose you and wants to be with you. If he changes his mind, you’re not going to avoid it by constantly asking him questions.

6) Be her number 1 fan

You should believe in your man 100%.

You clearly think he’s special. So it is only natural that you expect everyone to share this opinion.

It is up to you to convince him that you are the person who can help him make his dreams come true.

This means you’ll support him, as he changes careers, returns to education, or starts a business. It is not up to you to be the voice of reason.

What you need is a strong, loyal and consistent believer to stand behind you as you go through the big changes in your life.

The same should happen with him. It has to support you in all the dreams you want to achieve in your life.

The feeling that they are a team allows each to pursue their own individual desires.

7) You don’t always need to have the last word

There is nothing more unpleasant for a man than being with a woman who always wants to be right.

Of course, sometimes you will have to make a point. But this should not happen all the time.

Save your opinions for the important things. Don’t worry so much about the little things. Otherwise, you can become the judgmental woman that no man wants to be with.

How do you think you make your man feel, when you treat him like he’s stupid?

Also, don’t lose sight of the fact that he can go out and find another woman who appreciates him for who he is.

Saying, for example, “I told you we should have left half an hour earlier” will never be constructive criticism.

On the contrary, let him figure out the consequences of his actions himself and maybe next time he will decide to leave half an hour early on his own.

After all, he is an adult.

8) Do not always be so available

It is a reality that men love what they cannot have.

This is the main reason why you have to make him feel like he doesn’t have you completely yet. In this way you will make him want to have you all to himself and make a serious commitment to you.

Some things you can do to make him feel like another man can win you over is to start new activities or projects. Especially, where there are many people you can meet.

You can start going to the gym, take a pottery course, go to a literary cafe or go for a walk alone.

You will see how this will arouse his interest in knowing what you are doing again in your life. And he will want to be careful that no other man can conquer you.

In this way, he will show you that he is serious and that you are the woman he wants to be by his side. You will see how in a short time he will take a step forward to advance the relationship.

9) Know yourself

“Black or blue dress? How about? Black is thinner. Blue goes with my gold shoes. What do you think?”

Do you really want to know what he thinks about it? It’s okay, I’ll tell you. He is thinking: “Stop asking me these questions and just pick a dress!”

Men like to participate in decision making, but only the decisions that they consider important or relevant.

The dress you wear to dinner may be important to you, but it’s not to him.

The woman he first fell in love with had been able to choose a dress for herself.

As much as men like to be in charge sometimes, they don’t want to get involved in the “details” of your life.

10) Respect their privacy

When you’re with a man, you learn things about him that you didn’t know before.

The way he likes to be played “right there”, or what really drives him crazy.

This is one of the best things about being with someone in a committed relationship. It’s not just about sex, but about the level of intimacy they manage to achieve.

However, it is absolutely necessary to respect that privacy. It only works because there is a deep level of trust between the two of you. If trust is lost, it is almost impossible to get it back.

That means things that are private should stay that way.

You shouldn’t share bedroom secrets with your girlfriends.

He is trusting you, showing you himself in a complete and transparent way. Your part of the deal is to keep the intimate details just between the two of you.

The same goes for discussions. It’s better to keep fights behind closed doors.

If you want to yell at him and yell at him, that’s fine. But you shouldn’t do it in the middle of a mall.

You will find it demeaning and humiliating. Men hate being degraded more than anything else and especially in front of other people.

If there are things you need to tell him, do it in private.

11) Delight him in the bedroom

Making a man commit is not just about sex. But we all know that a relationship would be incomplete if sex were not part of it.

It’s not about you being his sex doormat and catering to his every whim. This just won’t make you commit.

On the contrary, it will make him stop respecting you and you will be leaving yourself aside. A relationship is made up of two people and each of them is just as important as the other.

Remember that they make love for the satisfaction of both. He…