How to know and what to do when a man finds you intimidating

Are you interested in a guy, but feel that he finds you intimidating?

Well, you’re not alone. In fact, this happens a lot.

Today, women are smart, successful, beautiful, powerful, and capable of fending for themselves.

Sometimes it seems as if women have redefined their role in society and men have been left bewildered without being clear about the role they should play now.

All that strength and independence can be intimidating for men and frustrating for you.

In this article, in addition to helping you understand what it means when he says he’s intimidated by you, I’ll also give you clues as to whether he’s intimidated but doesn’t say it.

Then we’ll explore the reasons why he might see you that way.

Finally, I’ll give you some tips to less intimidate men. Unless you are one of those who have fun making them nervous.

What does it mean when a man says that you intimidate him?

Whether you’re talking about a friend, a romantic partner, or a guy you’re interested in. Doesn’t it happen to you sometimes that you feel like they speak two different languages?

What is the most confusing thing a man can tell you?: That you are “intimidating”.

What the hell does he mean by that?

When a guy finds you intimidating, it can mean a number of things.

If you are dealing with an honest and direct person, they may be baring their heart.

The reality is, they may be intimidated by you for any of the reasons we’ll cover later.

This confession can also be his way of testing the ground to see if you are interested in him.

If you react and reassure him, he’ll likely see it as a green light from you.

However, if you don’t bother to assuage his fears, he will either be more cautious or stop looking for you altogether.

It is also possible that he is used to interacting with women very different from you.

Maybe he’s only met very quiet girls.

Or you may not have much dating experience.

Telling you that he is intimidated by you may be his way of letting you know that this is unfamiliar territory for him.

It is also a possibility that your last relationship ended badly.

He then tells you that if he’s intimidated by you, it’s most likely not about you at all. He may be afraid to get into a relationship only to ruin it again.

How do you know if a guy finds you intimidating?

Sometimes we suspect that a man is intimidated by us, even if he doesn’t say so directly.

Here are some things to watch for if you think a guy is intimidated by you:

He flirts, but never asks you out.
He seems very nervous around you. It’s normal to feel nervous and act awkward around someone you like, especially if they intimidate you. He smiles at you but hasn’t come over to talk to you yet. Smiling is not just friendly; it is also a sign of interest. If you see him constantly smiling at you even though he hasn’t made a move yet, he may be gaining the confidence to talk to you. He is delaying because he is intimidated. He doesn’t look you in the eye when he talks to you. Finally a conversation starts but he…avoids all eye contact with you? He might be wary, but he’s probably just intimidated. Act jealous and/or competitive. Being bullied by someone doesn’t feel good, especially for the more “macho” types of men. If he is intimidated by you, you may notice that he acts jealous or puts you down. You may also notice that he is trying to outsmart you or embarrass you if he can. These behaviors can be upsetting, but they can also be your way of dealing with your feelings of insecurity.

When are men intimidated by women?

There are many reasons why women bully men. If a guy has told you that he’s intimidating (or if you think you are), it could be for one of these five reasons.

1) You succeed

Men have historically been the providers. However, this has changed over the years as more women entered the workforce.

Today, women have more jobs than men! Despite this change, some men still cling to the idea that they should earn more than their partners.

Consider these statistics: Only 3.8% of women earned more than their husbands in 1960.

Now about half of the women bring home a higher salary than their husbands.

This can trigger many emotions in men, such as feelings of inadequacy, shame, and guilt.

Women are not just working more and earning more money. They are also moving up the corporate ladder. In fact, a whopping 87 percent of the world’s midsize companies have women in senior management roles.

The good news? There are many men who would be proud to be in a relationship with a successful woman.

If a guy makes you feel bad because you make a lot of money, I assure you that you can find something better.

2) You are smart

Being smart is a good thing, right?

Well, depending on how you look at it, it’s not that great if it interferes with your love life.

Research shows that while many men say they are attracted to intelligent women, they often end up feeling intimidated and less attracted.

They may not even realize what is happening, but this unconscious reaction can derail a new relationship.

If you are a smart woman, this situation can be especially frustrating. After all, you are proud of your intelligence.

Well, your partner must be too, and otherwise it’s because he’s not up to you.

Anyway, you already know that you are an intelligent woman, it is not necessary that you constantly show it. That could make you feel less.

Knowing how to listen to others is a great virtue and also allows you to learn new things and open up to others.

3) You are “out of their league”

Being out of someone’s league can mean many things. It can mean that you are brilliant, beautiful, or successful.

It can also be something as (absurd) as being too tall.

It all comes down to the same thing: the perception that you are too good for him.

If a man thinks you’re out of his league, he’ll feel like he doesn’t have a chance with you.

Or he may be worried that you’ll end up leaving when you realize you can do better.

This is one of the most frustrating reasons why women bully men.

You are interested in a man and he is interested in you, shouldn’t that be enough? Unfortunately, the answer to this question is no.

Being “out of reach” is like being overqualified for a job.

Even if you desperately want it and feel like a perfect fit, you may still be turned away because the company thinks you won’t be satisfied.

There are even cases of extremely beautiful women who men do not approach because they directly see her as unattainable.

4) You seem unapproachable

You probably don’t even know what you’re doing, but you may be giving off “unapproachable” vibes.

Maybe I have seen you very serious. Or maybe it seems like you want to be alone.

There are many reasons why you may reject men before you even talk to them.

After all, 97 percent of communication is nonverbal.

The conclusion? Your body language means a lot.

Pay attention to these things you may be doing with your body language that make you seem unapproachable:

You stand with your arms crossed You avoid eye contact You are always on the phone You rarely smile You have nervous habits, such as playing with your hair, fidgeting, and tapping your foot You “hide” behind things, such as your bag or a drink You slip smoothly into a room (instead of walking in with your head held high)

5) You are the queen of self-sufficiency

I confess, this has been one of my points to work on for a long time.

Are you one of those multitasking girls who can handle everything?

Well, you should know that not only is it great for someone to help you, but also for the other it is a great opportunity to feel useful and needed.

We already know that you are capable, but what is the reason for not counting on others and lightening any weight?

In the romantic field, being totally independent, secure and self-sufficient can make a man feel that you don’t need him and that there is no room for him by your side.

Men need to feel a bit like the hero of your daily life, it’s something latent in their DNA. They’ll be attracted to you being independent, but showing them that you appreciate their help will make them more deeply engaged.

You don’t have to be submissive or demanding, just be open to him helping you and feel that it is important to you that he is there.

How to intimidate men less

We’ll start by saying that being intimidating is not something you should feel bad about.

In fact, it probably means you’re living an amazing life, whether it’s because you have a great job, you look fabulous, or your intelligence is off the charts.

However, if this is getting in the way of your love life, you may want to do something about it.

The best part? You don’t have to change who you are to attract more men by being less intimidating.

It’s a matter of adjusting some behaviors.

Think of it this way: Men aren’t necessarily lying when they say they like challenging and successful women.

However, they may not like some of the behaviors they may have.

I’ll share some tips for identifying these behaviors in a moment, but first, some important considerations.

Successful and intelligent women tend to approach their love lives with the same energy that they approach their jobs.

This energy can be perceived as more “masculine” than “feminine”.

At the end of the day, even the most liberated men want to feel like men.

As the saying goes, opposites attract.

In the case of relationships, this means that strong women may attract more passive men.

If that is the type of man you prefer, you are aligned.

However, if she’s more interested in traditional “alpha” men, or their more new age version, you’re in for a challenge.

What the professionals say

According to relationship coach Sam Wunder, there are women who also go out of their way to impress men. This can mean everything from opening doors to reaching for the check.

But this could make the situation worse.

According to Wunder, the key to attracting men may be allowing yourself to be more vulnerable. It is not about being less than what you are. Letting down your guard and opening your heart is necessary in love, insists the coach.

With this in mind, here are a few things to help you out.

What can you do to be more approachable when a guy finds you intimidating?

1) Use positive body language

Are you constantly on your phone in public?

Do you stand with your arms…