How to heal my inner child to be an adult with good self-esteem

We all carry within us the child we were. Caring for the inner child is vitally important for emotional improvement and maintaining healthy self-esteem. Almost all of us have had emotional wounds in childhood and, if we do not solve them at the time, the inner child will be damaged. Now we can try to understand what is happening to him to heal him.

When you feel a negative emotion, ask yourself why you feel that way and try to understand yourself. To find a way to improve those negativities. Let your sadness, your fear, your anger flow…; because they are necessary emotions for our body. With them and through them we also express what happens and has happened to that inner child.

3 exercises to heal our inner child

Imagine your childhood stage. What were you like when you were approximately 8 years old? Try to visualize what you were like physically And, if you find it difficult, you can look at a photo to refresh your memory and capture as many details as possible.

Now do a visualization and imagination exercise. Imagine yourself as a child, in your room alone, what did you do when you were in your room alone? Imagine that stage of childhood, go back in time and remember every detail. What furniture was in your room, what colors, what did you play, etc. The more real details you install in your imagination, the greater effect the exercise will have.

Now imagine yourself as you are now.

1. Caress your inner child

What is this for? To heal you from the wounds of the past. Your adult person can talk, caress the child they were, using their imagination.

Approach that hurt, sensitive, fearful child and ask him what’s wrong. Now you can understand him, kiss him, hug him, give him protection, support, love… Do it, treat yourself as you would have liked to be treated as a child. Give him love and understanding, hold him tight and Tell him that from now on he will be safe, that you will take care of him and accept him as he deserves.
Play with him, have fun, let your spontaneity come out. Keep imagining and visualizing that you are taking your child wherever he or she wants. Where did you want to go when you were a child? What whim did you want and couldn’t have? What affections were you missing? Which ones did you have?

Now you can give him whatever he wants. When your inner child feels motivated and happy, return to the room. Leave him there safely and say goodbye to him, telling him that every time he needs it you will go to help him, understand him and give him love.

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2. The reflection of your inner child

This is an exercise that you can even make part of your daily routine or do every time you need to reconnect with your inner child. To do this you must try to be private and in a quiet and peaceful place. To start, find a mirror and look at yourself in it. Gradually try to imagine that the image that appears in the reflection is the face of your inner child.

When you have managed to consolidate this image, You can convey sweet and kind thoughts, such as that you are proud of all the things this child has achieved.that you are working every day to heal his wounds and that he is important to you.

Let these thoughts flood you and allow you to build a more loving and self-compassionate image.

3. The magic of surprise

Finally, you can try to evoke the feeling of surprise that we tend to constantly experience during childhood. For this, Seek to ask yourself questions about everything that surrounds you and try to give them answers in absurd and unexpected ways, just as if it were your inner child who was answering them.

Giving yourself permission to escape adult rationality and once again enter the world of imagination and wonder can become a valuable tool to heal your inner child, reawaken your curiosity about the world and give free rein to your creativity.

The effects of imagination

If you have carried out the exercises and put your imagination into motion, You will realize that the most insecure, cruel and fearful parts of you may come from your inner child. Try to take care of it, love it and accept it, and you will notice emotional improvement, while your self-esteem will be reinforced.

Adults who have a healthy inner child don’t hold back when they feel like doing something un-adult. Like, for example, going through a park and riding a swing, since they won’t mind if people are surprised. And even laugh at them.

Adults with damaged inner children hold back when they want to do childhood things. They want to give a correct, serious, adult image. They don’t realize that All humans have the need to be children again from time to time. And it’s not bad, it’s not immaturity, but they are letting their inner child have fun.

Adults who have children can once again entertain their inner child when they play with them, who hasn’t heard that “the father likes video games more than the son…”. On the other hand, adults without children are more repressed when it comes to doing things typical of childhood. They no longer hit the ball, nor laugh at any nonsense, it’s like in adulthood you have to be correct and everything else is immature.

The truth is There is nothing healthier than letting your inner child be spontaneous.. Don’t repress it, adulthood also needs to bring out that fun part from time to time.

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