How to fill the soul when it is sad

“You feel sad, alone, dejected… sometimes things are not as you would like them to be. Things are not going well at work, he is not happy with his partner; He sometimes argues too much with his parents. You begin to worry because sadness is settling in your head like a bird finding its nest. He doesn’t know how to get rid of that sadness that floods him every day and every night.

When he is sad he decides not to leave the house, not to talk to anyone. and all he does is get into his own thoughts. And he thinks over and over again: “I need to change all this, I can’t go on like this when something happens to me. Yes, sometimes life is sad, but I can’t let it take over me…”

Sometimes you feel deep sadness…

Sometimes you feel a deep sadness that invades your soul, difficult to explain.. Maybe it’s that things are not going well for you at work, with your partner, with your children or worst of all… there is a little bit of each thing in your trunk of sorrows.

Really you can’t help but feel bad and although everyone tells you “you have to cheer up”, “you have to go out”, you can’t and you just think “Of course it is easy to give advice, I would put you in my place”.

You can’t, you don’t feel like it, grief drowns you, it overcomes you. So, How can you change it if the situation drags on?, Can we really learn to feel better when we are sad? And how do we do it? Perhaps it is easier than you think or, on the contrary, it is a task that takes time, a time of dedication to acquiring new habits.

“You can’t stop the bird of sadness from flying over your head, but you can stop it from nesting in your hair.”

-Chinese proverb-

Advice guide to fill the soul when it is sad

Next, We offer you a guide of advice to fill your soul when sadness invades you. The fundamental condition is in wanting to do it…

Surround yourself with people who really make you feel good. and stay away from those who make you feel bad. The important thing is you. Don’t you know people who have the ability to comfort you with a couple of words, who are capable of making you laugh with nothing? Learn and enjoy them. Friends can be a balm that heals your wounds. Find what you really like. Fill your life with things you really like… Are you fond of cooking, reading, traveling, dancing…? They are great ways to disconnect from your sadness. When the mind is occupied with something else we forget about sorrows.Do you play any sport. It is proven that sport awakens the endorphins of happiness. People who practice some type of sport are less prone to sadness. Treat yourself. A small treat can help us feel happier and more content.. Have chocolate or a sweet, buy something you like, etc.Go out and enjoy. When you are sad, don’t stay at home ruminating on your sorrows, get dressed, look pretty and go for a walk. You will see how you come back with different spirits. Pajamas are sometimes our worst enemy.

“Tell me friend: life is sad or I am sad”

-Loved nerve-

Don’t demand so much of yourself or others. Learn to not demand so much. When we set too high expectations for something or someone, we are easily disappointed.Learn to resign yourself, but with happiness. You begin to understand that life is full not only of good moments, there are also bad ones and you should not overestimate them. When they pass, forget about them and continue. Try to change what you can and what you don’t like about your life. If something is in your hand, be brave and change it. Are you unhappy with your partner? You don’t like your job? She tries to break away from what you don’t like and start over.
Don’t think so much. We all think too much. Sometimes we feel sad about things from the past or things that have not yet arrived. The past is past and the future is yet to come. Focus on the present.

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Sadness is something innate in all of us. However, Learning to not let that sadness settle in our heads is a challenge that we must all undertake.

Love and compassion

Different scientific studies affirm that meditating on love and compassion eliminates sadness. But what do these two concepts consist of? From the buddhist psychology it is maintained that love It is the aspiration that all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness. The compassion It is the aspiration that all beings be freed from suffering and its causes. This theory of more than 2,500 years is now showing that science has very positive consequences at the brain level.

“There are those who are happier naturally, but their happiness is incomplete, vulnerable. Happiness as a way of being is a skill that requires effort and practice over time. This is how you develop qualities such as inner peace, mindfulness and love.”

-Matthieu Ricard-

Matthieu Ricard I consider him the happiest man in the world. A biologist and Buddhist monk for more than 40 years, he is an expert meditator. Through MRI and evoked potentials, he analyzed his brain while he meditated. The results were surprising. While he meditated he generated a unusual activation of the left prefrontal cortexan area known as the core of positive emotions (happiness, compassion, love…).

It is proven that getting out of sadness and walking towards happiness can consist of training. So there is no time to waste!