How To Consciously Masturbate To Increase Pleasure |

Sex is much more than pleasure. Sex also affects our self-esteem, self-confidence, courage, creativity, sensuality, initiative… And is it worth having sex with yourself? Clear! Ever! The woman who handles her sexuality well, who can allow total surrender, can begin to activate the powerful neural connections that make her safer and more motivated to explore life’s paths. So let’s talk about how to masturbate so you can take even more care of yourself, your pleasure and your self-esteem!

By the way, when sex is well done and stimulated, we can have an adrenergic discharge (the body’s secretion of the neurotransmitters adrenaline and norepinephrine) that occurs at the moment of orgasm. That is, orgasm brings a good mood, discharge of emotions and can even help to reduce Premenstrual Tension (PMS).

How to consciously masturbate

In addition to masturbation being an act of self-love, it is also essential for you to start stimulating your body and discover your erogenous zones. Do you know your clitoris and how much you like to be stimulated there? Do you know your G-spot? Do you know which parts of your body are most sensitive?

Although very delicate, the neural network of the vulva and clitoris is immensely powerful when played correctly. And the best way to activate this system is to touch yourself.

However, many women do not know how to please themselves. So here are five tips on how to consciously masturbate.

1 – Conscious masturbation to start

Most women start touching themselves first, then get turned on. And that can be an important issue. Rubbing the vagina without being excited can calluse the nerve endings in the region, which are delicate. Then, the vulva goes to sleep, that is, the person feels less and less pleasure, which decreases libido and makes orgasm difficult.

The tip is: start masturbating consciously. Before touching yourself, look for a mental stimulus that triggers your desire, be it a memory or a fantasy.

2 – Using lubricant can be very good

Often, the natural lubrication of the vagina is not enough. Therefore, using water-based lubricant, vaginal moisturizers or coconut oil can be very good. By the way, coconut oil is a more natural option that can even hydrate the mucosa and protect it from bacteria.

But be careful: coconut oil cannot be used together with a condom, as it risks breaking the protection!

By the way, if you touch it “dry” it can grossly rub and callus the nerve endings. When we are not properly lubricated, it is possible to cause mini vaginal cracks. And those cracks can open doors for bacteria.

Using saliva as a lubricant is also not legal because it can cause rapid oxidation of the skin and impair correct lubrication at the “hourly hour”.

3 – Arousal can start out of bed

Female desire can (and a lot!) be stimulated well before sex or masturbation.

It’s great to be able to feed your mind so that masturbation can occur in a healthy way. The less mental stimulation you give yourself, the more you have to work on physical friction, which can harm your intimate sensitivity.

The idea, then, is that masturbation also happens in the mind. And how to do it? Choosing the feature that will most add to your excitement. For some women it will be reading erotic stories, others will prefer to have steamy conversations online, some will fantasize about stories in their mind, watch romantic movies… Find the best way to excite your mind and try to start that stimulation before touching yourself.

4 – Go beyond the hands

Although many women only use their hands to touch themselves, it can be nice to offer yourself other stimuli. For example:

vibrators (but in moderation, ok? Overuse can hurt)

clitoral stimulation with the hand, while introducing a dildo into the vagina at the same time

creams that cause hot/cold sensations

pleasure wand

5 – Discover the trigger that increases your pleasure

While you masturbate or have sex with someone, your brain feeds your body information about what you’re feeling. The problem is that this information is not always real.

For example, have you ever driven for hours on the road, and when you got out of the car, it felt like you were still moving? Or have you ever been on a spinning ride at an amusement park, and when you got out you still found yourself spinning? That’s what happens!

Negative triggers can make sex negative, without actually being negative. For example: let’s say you felt used by a person who didn’t seem to appreciate you in the step. And that person took her hand and put it on her genital, to touch her. And if you now block yourself in similar situations with other people, it could be the brain giving negative signals even if the current relationship is great. A negative mental trigger has been activated.

The opposite also happens: when we find a trigger for a positive relationship, this can also serve as a trigger for the next one to be good. Example: let’s say you had wonderful sex, listening to the sound of rain. Every time you hear this same noise, you may have the impression that the act has become just as wonderful, because your brain emits signals for this.

Therefore, it is necessary to be aware of this in order to learn to “manipulate” sexual activity, especially during masturbation, where you are in charge of the activity from start to finish. Take something you like and amplify that feeling to enjoy it when needed. Like a specific song, a way to touch a part of the body, a fantasy. Form your own positive trigger in masturbation and amplify that good feeling during your relationships as a couple, so that they are more pleasurable.

6 – Clean your vagina of harmful memories

Few people know this, but the experiences lived by a woman can accumulate in the uterus and vaginal canal. Therefore, when you experience some fear, hurt, trauma or difficulty, all of this is recorded forever in the form of cellular memory in these organs.

It is possible that a woman cannot have an orgasm because her uterus is full of harmful memories regarding sexuality. And as much as she doesn’t consciously remember these records, they continue to reverberate.

For example, when a girl spends years listening to phrases like: “Close your legs!”, what can be registered in her is the unconscious belief that her vagina needs to be closed, muffled, hidden.

Or a woman who came from a family that advised about sex only after marriage. In this case, she may be forced to repress her sexual desire. Over time, this cellular memory registered in the womb begins to reverberate with the feeling that making love or masturbating is wrong, dangerous, sinful.

It is also very common for a woman to have suffered a type of abuse, often without realizing it. When you feel “pressured” to go to bed with someone (either to please, for fear of losing the person or other issues) your body understands that it is a violation and can stop and not allow surrender to pleasure.

In addition to these situations mentioned above, other events in life may also have been recorded in the form of cellular memory in your body, affecting your pleasure in bed. For example: harassment, betrayal, situations in which you felt diminished or ridiculed, etc.

You can work on the impacts of these events on your mind and also on a memory clearing of your womb.

That’s why I guide every woman to do an experience known as “Reconsecration of the Womb”. This method is done in a single experience. In it, we perform pompoarism and breathing practices, to improve your genital health and also “pull” the memories installed in your uterus and vagina.

The womb reacts to the Reconsecration and begins to contract to expel the memories. The process is so strong that most women experience cramps during the experience, due to expulsion contractions.