How is a Family Constellation session

We can change jobs and groups of friends, but our family will always be our family and that’s why it’s the deepest bond we have. However, living with these people is not always easy. A session of family constellation touches exactly these points.

In our health, in our love relationships, in our work and in the way we deal with money, we are also impacted by our family system. The constellation enters bringing order to our lives, unlocking our ability to access abundance in all areas. Know what it is and how the constellation works.

What happens in a Family Constellation session?

More than therapy, the family constellation it is a work that seeks reconciliation with all ancestors and also their excluded issues (money, sex, love, etc.) so that we do not have to repeat patterns of suffering and scarcity.

We say that, for life to flow, we need to live according to the Orders of Love, the three systemic laws that we must consider:

Belonging — All family members have the right to belong

Hierarchy — Those who came first have priority in the family system.

Balance — Every exchange in relationships must be balanced.

For our lives to be successful, we need to respect these laws. And how to respect them?

How is the Family Constellation session?

The systemic family constellation serves to work on any problem of family, love, professional relationships, health issues, money, emotions, illnesses, among others.

There are some better known ways to use the family constellation, but I will address here the two techniques I work with: Face-to-face with Personal Representatives or Online with Puppets.

Face to face with representatives

The technique works like a “theater without script” where the constellant (who brings the theme) chooses from the group of people who participate in the day (representatives) a person to be the problem and a person to represent himself.

The people who come in to perform feel sensations in their bodies and the therapist helps to organize the system. The customer just sits and watches, without interference.

Dolls in the Family Constellation

The constellant (who brings the theme) will choose the dolls that will represent their questions and place them on a rotating table. The therapist will help the client see the patterns and reposition the dolls. With the dolls, I use tarot with systemic phrases to help with the process.

In both models, the goal is to bring order respecting the 3 systemic laws: belonging, hierarchy and balance so that love can flow again.

Family Constellation Phrases

We don’t like to tell stories because the client often hides behind the story he thinks happened to him and doesn’t take action. In the constellation we use several short phrases that resonate with the client even after the session. Some examples are:

I see you. You are big, I am small. Me for you. I take your life for the price it cost you and me. I’m going to do some good with the life I’ve been given.

Honor mother and father

There is a lot of misconception about what it is to honor father and mother. A lot of people think it’s doing everything their parents want or accepting unhealthy relationships.

In fact, quite simply, honoring your father and mother is agreeing with the parents you have. They are perfect for you because they are the only parents possible.

Those who want their parents to be different from who they are still don’t know how to agree with life the way it came to you. This is the most important thing.

Another point is learning to grow. When you become an adult and responsible, pay your bills, have your family and your projects, you are honoring your father and mother in the best way.

Benefits

The constellation, in addition to releasing energetically what is disturbing your life, it brings a key turn in the way of thinking, so that you can have the maturity to act differently the next time you are faced with an issue.

She is able to release traumas, sadness, depressions, fears bringing a new way of seeing life.

family constellation course

Most family constellation courses are a combination of theory and practice. You learn the laws, read the books, participate in as many constellations as possible as a representative so that you understand and experience the technique and then start to constellate other people.

I myself started my process with family constellations in 2012. I participated monthly as a representative in several groups and made many of my own constellations. As my life was transformed with the technique, I deepened myself until I became a constellator.

Does the online family constellation session work?

All holistic therapies, including the constellation work online. We need to understand that we are all energetically interconnected and our physical location is independent for us to be connected and be able to access the client’s information field.

Is it related to Spiritism?

There are people who are confused because the representatives feel in their bodies what is happening in the client’s field, but the constellation does not incorporate the spirits.

It captures what is in the invisible, because we are all interconnected, but it has nothing to do with religion. It is a technique that respects the beliefs of all people and can be done by people of all religions or no religion.

Is the technique dangerous?

Family constellation, like any other holistic technique and/or therapy, is not dangerous. What is dangerous are the unskilled professionals that exist in all professions.

You need to choose your therapist very carefully, someone who gives you confidence, who works with integrity, who knows what he is doing. If you choose well, you will feel calm to look at any theme that will come up.

Like any therapy, we often come into contact with subjects that move us deeply.

Hence, my recommendation is to seek post-constellation follow-up either with a psychologist or a holistic therapist to talk about what you felt when opening a topic. I myself like to do a post-constellation session to better accompany my clients.

Is the session free?

The constellation is not free, it is a job that requires many hours of study and practice and, like any profession, it has a value.

Weekly I do a live at 1 pm on my instagram to offer systemic knowledge for free so that you turn several keys in your head in the way of thinking and understand even what themes you will need to constellate to organize.