Healing is a slow process of transformations

Healing is a slow process of changes, advances and also setbacks. The field of psychology is very different from the medical field; X-rays, MRIs, and blood tests are of no use here. The emotional pain caused by depression, for example, is not visible or tangible; Therefore, this type of “healing” requires other times and other forms of observation.

Psychological healing is very different from physical healing, but, even so, both are decisive for human well-being, so that each of us enjoys an authentic quality of life. Despite this, it is striking how A part of the population walks through their daily lives with their spirits broken, broken in hope.fractured in terms of self-esteem and motivations.

Because the pain of the mind is not seen and rarely has indicators observable under a microscope or contrast tests. Emotional suffering distorts the vision we have of ourselves and the world that surrounds us. Everything becomes more difficult, we lose human potential and even the quality of our relationships is affected.

Somehow, We all have some pending account in terms of psychological healing. Fears, insecurities, phobias, excessive thinking, resentment, unresolved disappointments… All of these are small injuries to our mental muscle that would undoubtedly require greater attention and self-care.

We are always on time in this matter of well-being, it is always a good time to start a transformation…

Healing is a slow process of setbacks and valuable advances

Understanding that healing is a slow process of advances and setbacks is a fundamental rule in psychotherapy. Every patient must understand that to deal with an anxiety disorder, depression, or an eating disorder, for example, there are no straight paths that will lead us to immediate success.

In psychology there are no magic formulas, there are, yes, psychotherapeutic treatments with which the person must commit, assuming that that journey is not always easy. The same thing happens in almost any emotional circumstance. Facing a breakup, grieving a loss, or managing the stress of difficult times means accepting that there will always be ups and downs.

There will be days when we take two steps forward and other days when we return to where we started. However, we should not understand the latter as a failure. Because on the journey of healing and personal growth, steps back are important. This is how we know ourselves better, as well as how we chart better routes on the journey of improvement and well-being. Let’s dig a little deeper.

Time does not heal anything

There is a popular idea, a bad recommendation that tells us that Time heals everything. We must be clear: The mere succession of days neither helps nor alleviates nor makes one forget nor resolves anything. It is what we do ourselves during that time that creates changes in our mental focus.

What’s more, studies like those published in the journal Perspectives on Psychological Science and carried out at Arizona State University, tell us that people We lack that mechanism by which one can heal their problems or emotional pain by letting the days pass. It’s a mistake.

Quite the opposite, Letting time pass without receiving psychological help aggravates suffering and can lead to major depression.

To overcome any circumstance you need to launch a transformation

Transforming, at least in the psychological field and the field of personal growth, does not always mean making a 180º change. It basically means the following:

Every transformation involves first knowing what our strengths are. and what are those others that we must reinforce and improve. It would be, in essence, about shaping a better version of ourselves.Transforming is adding value, but never becoming something we are not. Someone who is shy will not be able to give way to a more cheeky, extroverted and talkative version. He will be able to gain in security, assertiveness and self-esteem. Likewise, We must understand that healing is a slow process in which transformations are never automatic or easy. One varies small aspects: managing emotions better, taking care of the quality of thoughts, letting go of fears and resistances, deactivating false and irrational beliefs…

Healing is a slow process for which only you are responsible.

When it comes to overcoming that bump, to heal that wound that hurts so much when you breathe, you can’t hold others responsible. Your family and friends may support you, but they will never be able to make that journey for you. In psychotherapy, the professional is a “serpa” who travels with you on that ascent so that you can reach the summit of a mountain. However, it is you who makes the effort, you who must overcome obstacles and get up every time you fall to the ground.

Healing is a slow process in which you take the reins. No one can do that work for you and taking it on, facing it is an exercise in exceptional personal maturity. It will take time, there will be relapses, but, without a doubt, you will make great progress and, in those moments, the satisfaction you will feel for having achieved it will be immense. The wounds will close again and you will be able to look at the horizon with renewed hope.

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