Even the smallest lies put the most valuable people at risk.

Nobody likes lies, no matter how white or small. It doesn’t make us feel good that they decide for us what we should or shouldn’t know, how we should do it, and from whom we should learn something.

There is nothing more heartbreaking than lies and hypocrisy, since both make us feel small and vulnerable, as well as distrust the world and create a shell of ice that breaks us inside. Therefore, with small lies you lose great people because a thousand truths and hundreds of feelings that we believed to be sincere are called into question.

And it is that Through deception, the bad habit of managing and fragmenting other people’s experiences and feelings is fed. something that turns us into victims and is intolerable when it comes to guaranteeing well-being and comfort in a relationship.

I like that they tell me the truth, I’ll see if it hurts or not

When a feeling as important as trust is broken, something dies inside us. It is truly sad when good relationships and friendships are destroyed because of something that could have been avoided.

In fact, when we realize or reveal a deception, we generally think that no matter how hard reality may be, we could have endured it much better than the betrayal of our trust. And this is generally very true.

The lie always causes more pain than the truth if it is discovered. Furthermore, we must not forget that the fact that the truth comes to light is very likely because, as we well know, lies have very short legs.

In any case, it should be added here that we cannot demand sincerity and then be offended when hearing the truth as long as it is said with respect. This is important because sincere people are often labeled as “bad,” thus belittling acts of good faith.

Sincerity is the basis of all trust

We all have the explicit and implicit belief that The quality of a person depends on his ability to be sincere and to show yourself clearly to the world and to the people around you.

In fact, we presuppose in the same way that the basis of all sincere affection is precisely total and absolute acceptance, without “buts”, without conditions and without excuses. That is In principle we understand that we do not have to lie or hide anything from those we love and those who love us.

But perhaps the more affection there is involved, the more expectations there are. The simple fact of believing that we are going to disappoint the hopes that others place in us sometimes makes us make the mistake of believing that small lies can be justified.

However, as we have been saying, this is not the case. As much as it costs us to understand it We must stop and think about how we deceive moreif not by being sincere or doing it despite momentarily compromising the ideal that others maintain of us.

We all make mistakes and we may think that what we are trying to hide is just another mistake. It is our responsibility to consider all possibilities and be tolerant of others in the same way we would like them to be tolerant of us.

After all, It is relationships of sincere affection that are capable of supporting any truth and the reality that accompanies it. However, lies destroy and devastate trust, something that takes hundreds of experiences to build and a second to break.

So we must be careful at this point, which is if possible the most important or at least one of the most important in our relationships and positive exchanges. Let’s not forget that lying, no matter how hard it is, is a great opportunity to grow and choose better those around us.

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