Emotional healing: when we learn to laugh at something that made us cry

Looking back at the past is not going to be an easy task if you have not been able to overcome it with the necessary fortitude and, in fact, you will only know that you have achieved it when you see yourself laughing at something in which you had drowned. . That feeling of integrity that you feel when you leave a complicated situation and see it in a different way is called maturing..

When you are going through a difficult moment, the amount of darkness may prevent you, in some way, from seeing the exit to head towards it. Perhaps, then, you prefer to stay still and without opposing your fears, without facing all the imaginary beings that you sense as a great threat.

However, if you remember other situations in which you have felt this way, even if the circumstances were not the same – they never are, just as we never cross the same river – you will understand that the difficulties that now seem gigantic usually have equally large weaknesses. Thus, the moment you find them you will be able to look back and feel how you can smile with pride at your own experience, at your own fears.

Perhaps, when reading this, you have remembered the phrase that says that “You don’t mature with age but with damage.” The truth is that he is still partly right: suddenly those wounds, which are now scars, no longer sting and are the most palpable proof you have of how you have grown and what they have taught you.

Laugh at what hurt us

The blows will have joined you forever and depending on the hardness of each one, more or less resistance to them will be required of you.: They will go with you wherever you want to go, you will not be able to escape from them and they will be recorded in that book that is said to be your life. They will do it without exceptions, but you will end up with past pages: those that you have already read and that you can only read again if you want.

Furthermore, not only do you have the advantage of deciding whether or not you want to read them again: the most important thing of all is that it is only in your hands the power to remember them in the most appropriate way, with the attitude that you consider they deserve.

That’s why I tell you that Laughing at what once hurt is maturing, because maturing also means learning about yourself and being sure of who you are.. You have found your turning point when you felt most lost and that is more than enough reason to smile: you have freed yourself from a past that had you tied and now you know how to undo new knots that come your way.

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Errors that become stones on the road

Some of the biggest blows that life shakes you are those potholes resulting from the mistakes that originate from your decisions: There are situations that require you to choose between several options that matter a lot to you, putting yourself “between a rock and a hard place.” Either option takes you towards one path or another and it is likely that the final one will be the wrong one.

Personal mistakes become small stones with meaning, a meaning that is good for you to understand so that they do not appear again later, in future paths. The stones challenge you to stumble and fall again and again, until you are forced to get up to continue: this will involve a great effort that will mark you.

Maturing is also Look at mistakes as learning opportunities and as tools to experience your life to the fullest.. It is true that failing hurts, sometimes a lot, but it is much worse when it hurts for not having tried something. Trying, failing and trying again is part of your inner discovery.

Maturing is freeing yourself from who made you cry

While it is true that what made you cry could have been the trigger for your action, it is also possible that it is not and that the damage comes from something or someone external. Sometimes, for example, you may have found yourself in a toxic relationship that you had a hard time getting out of and that has destabilized you emotionally.

Or, on the contrary, you may be in one of those times when it is difficult for you to cut the threads that bind you to other people whom you love and who have given you the best of who they are: For any circumstance you need to assimilate the goodbyes and stop crying for what was and is not.

Elvira Sastre says that A life without courage is an infinite path back: Growing up has a lot to do with being brave in every step you take, especially the hardest ones, so that you never lack enough strength in the face of setbacks. Thus, there will only be one-way paths and memories, like small pieces of baggage of your essence that have grown over time.