Don’t treat someone who treats you as an option as a priority.

We should prioritize only those people who value us, however, sometimes we don’t. When this happens, the price to pay is always high, as we remain stuck in the expectation that selfishness will turn into gratitude and mutual interest. So don’t treat someone who doesn’t deserve it as a priority.

When we value those who do not value us, we mortgage our well-being to the wills of others; covering our eyes to the evidence and not listening to our emotional needs, prisoners of other people’s selfishness.

In any case, even if it is fleeting and intermittent, we are capable of realizing that there is something that is not working as it should in our relationships, that people change and that Over time we show our less friendly and more interested side. So keep your eyes wide open and don’t treat those who will use you as a priority.

Those of us who learn over time

There is a text that is attributed to several authors (Borges or Shakespeare among others) that reflects in a wonderful way what we learn throughout life. It is a good exercise to review phrase by phrase and see what it means and what we can change or understand to improve our relationships. This will help you not treat as a priority those who are here today and gone tomorrow.

Over time I learned the subtle difference between take someone’s hand and chain a soul.

Over time I learned that love does not mean leaning on someone and that company does not mean security.

Over time…I began to understand that Kisses are not contracts, nor are gifts promises.

Over time I learned that being with someone because they offer you a good future It means that sooner or later you will want to return to your past.

Over time…you realize that Getting married just because “it is urgent” It is a clear warning that your marriage will be a failure.

Over time I understood that only who is capable of loving you with your flawswithout trying to change you, can give you all the happiness you want.

Over time you realize that if you are next to that person alone to accompany your lonelinessyou will inevitably end up not wanting to see it again.

Over time you realize that true friends are worth a lot more than any amount of money.

Over time I understood that true friends can be counted on the fingers of one handand that those who do not fight for them will sooner or later be surrounded only by false friendships.

Over time I learned that words spoken in a moment of anger They can continue to hurt whoever they hurt, throughout life.

Over time I learned that anyone can apologize, but Forgiving is only for great souls…

Over time I understood that if you have hurt a friend badlymost likely friendship will never be the same again.

Over time you realize that even if you are happy with your friends, one day you will cry for those you let go.

Over time you realize that every experience lived with each person, it is unrepeatable.

Over time you realize that the one who humiliates or despises A human being sooner or later will suffer the same humiliations and scorn multiplied squared.

Over time I learned build all your roads in todaybecause the terrain of tomorrow is too uncertain to make plans.

With time I understood than rushing things or forcing them to happen It will cause them to not be as you expected in the end.

Over time you realize that in reality the best was not the futurebut the moment you were living right at that moment.

In time you will see that even if you are happy with those who are by your sideyou will miss terribly those who were with you yesterday and are now gone.

Over time I learned that to try to forgive or ask for forgiveness, to say that you love, to say that you miss, to say that you need, to say that you want to be a friend…. before a grave…, it no longer makes any sense…

But unfortunately… we only understand this with time.

In addition to time, the inner work

The truth is For certain things time is our great teacherbecause thanks to it we gain perspective and value past mistakes, our expectations and our demands regarding others and ourselves.

However, This does not mean that time tells or heals everything.we are the ones who have to negotiate feelings in our internal dialogue, clearly alluding to our personal conflicts derived from the selfishness of others without hiding our heads.

This means that we must take a stand and assert ourselves when it comes time, without letting others take advantage of us for fear of rejection or confrontation. This is called assertiveness and constitutes one of the basic building blocks of our self-esteem and personal identity.

Learn to give your absence to those who do not value your presence

It is likely that we are aware of this but when push comes to shove we fail to cope with social pressure. In fact, it is normal for a situation of exploitation to hijack our autonomy and our will.

Since it is impossible to recreate a life without risks of this type, The ideal is that we imagine those situations that would be potentially dangerous for us. and how we can deal with them without being aggressive or passive in our behaviors (that is, we carry out training in our imagination).

In this way, when a situation of inequality arises and we notice that someone is trying to take advantage of us or override our will due to their selfishness, we will block ourselves less and we will be able to put what we have imagined into practice. Do not treat those who use and manipulate you as a priority.

It is important that we learn to say NO, to assert our presence and look within ourselves for an ally to confront those relationships based on inequality and selfishness of people who only think about themselves. Don’t treat as a priority those who will end up trampling on your self-esteem. Don’t treat someone who considers you an option as a priority.

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