Don’t run after someone who already knows where you are

Someone once gave me advice that I have never wanted or been able to forget: do not run after someone who knows where you are, even for a moral requirement. When I asked why I should be so radical with my way of acting, what they answered has served to open my eyes in many moments of my life.

First of all, they told me, “don’t run after anyone, not even after yourself, because no one needs someone behind, they need someone next to them“. Afterwards, they told me: “if it no longer brings you anything, let it go because if it still has something to offer to your daily life, you won’t need to beg it.” That’s why don’t run after someone if you already know where he is.

Don’t run after anyone, not even yourself.

Below we will talk about what happens when you search for someone who is not you without finding an answer, but what if what happens is that you run after yourself? It seems strange, but it can happen to you. Many times we feel better when we flee from what happens to us or we let everything flee around us.

When we run after something that is no longer there, we are running after ourselves and that is never good. It is necessary to always look ahead, pursuing something that we do not know where it is and that we want to find as our future. If we run after what we were and are not, we will never surpass ourselves.

On many occasions we do not dare to stop dead because we are afraid to look into space and reflect on it. However, We will never find emptiness as long as we accept that it is us who should love first and to love ourselves we have the obligation to improve ourselves day by day. This same thing happens when we think about our relationship with others.

If they need you behind, they don’t need you

Surely you are thinking that saying all this is very easy, but that in our lives there is that small group of people that we want to be or continue to be there, even though they do not want us to be. It is not easy, for example, to accept how it seems that we can be removed from another person’s life after having shared it.

However, as complicated as it is, it is very beneficial for us to remind ourselves that to keep a relationship alive the greatest ingredient needed is interest. If there is no interest, there is no relationship, because what keeps us united is the desire to get to know each other., With all of that implies. So don’t run after someone who already knows where you are.

We can’t feel bad about breaking up with the only thing we have left from a relationship that is over: they don’t need you if they don’t want you by their side complementing life and you really don’t need it either. You just miss something that is no longer and cannot be. understand this, Valuing yourself and not letting yourself be undervalued is the first big step you can take to move forward.

Look inside, you know where you don’t want to be

It’s exactly that. You don’t want to be there waiting for that person to turn around and look at you. You don’t want to be there if you know he’s not looking at you because she doesn’t want to. Look inside yourself and reflect on it, are you sure you don’t want to go at your own pace? What’s the point of going after someone?

Among other things, growing is learning to set your own direction and the speed of your life. You are the one who determines how to cultivate what you have, how to give love: knowing that the one who loses the most is always the one who does not know how to receive it. Share what you have inside with whoever really wants you to, because it is the fairest form of affection known.

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