Do you face or deal with problems?

We often encounter problems and negative situations that bring out the worst in us.. Because of them we fight, we shout, we rebel, we act without thinking. Ultimately, we lose control.

However, Is not always that way. When the right circumstances arise, those same difficulties and problems to which we react so inadequately, we begin to see them from a perspective that generates more calm for us, from which we can breathe.

These two ways of reacting to difficulties are not only a product of circumstances, but have their precipitant in an internal, sometimes unconscious, decision that we make. Without knowing it, we choose to face and, at other times, face adversity..

Two options that will determine, in the absence of other variables such as chance, our success or failure in solving these difficulties. Whether you face or confront problems, both choices will mean your success or not.

Facing problems requires significant emotional exhaustion

Facing problems increases the risk of losing control

Our emotions take control and we let ourselves go. However, This kind of emotional liberalism is usually accompanied by a consequence: regret for what we have done or said without thinking.

Without realizing it, we find ourselves in the middle of meaningless quarrels and disputes. that only bring us great emotional wear and tear, sometimes even physically. In fact, when we manage to see this situation from another perspective over time, we realize that we have made real mountains out of simple grains of sand.

Have you ever reacted impulsively to something and forgotten what you said? When this happens, it means that you have given free rein to that first protective instinct. Although, if you think about it coldly, it’s not like you were really in danger. Sometimes your impulse comes out in defense of your own ego..

Face what comes at you as a threat or an enemy, instead of as a challenge, it makes you intolerant, it blocks you, it prevents you from thinking clearly and on many occasions it leaves you spinning around in regret.

However, there is another option that requires practice, which sometimes requires a lot of effort, but is worth it. What if we changed facing for facing?

Facing difficulties allows you to grow

Facing problems does not make you stronger: You release a large amount of energy without directing it intelligently. You let yourself be carried away by your most primal instincts without any control, which prevents you from managing the situation in the most appropriate way.

when you face you grow, you become stronger, more matureeffectiveness

When adversity confronts you, you know how to stop and breathe to see things more clearly and make the best decision. Did you know you can take your time, it is not essential to react or give an answer now! Thus, rushing the response, when the situation does not demand it, can be the first mistake, the first reason why you pull your hair out later.

You are aware that, although there is true chaos around you, When you are calm and relaxed you think intelligently. With this breath, with the breath that you do not allow yourself to lose, the solution to the situation is closer.

Besides, Facing problems prevents you from hurting others unnecessarily. By expressing yourself in a clear, cordial and respectful manner, your point of view will be clearer and the criticism you make of others will not be taken personally.

Up to you

As you have seen, facing or coping with problems are two completely different things.. With one you lose control, you are not able to manage your emotions and regrets will hover over you. With the other you will gain assertiveness, you will know how to solve difficulties effectively and you will take them as an opportunity to grow, mature and learn.

Adversities always contain an opportunity: they allow us to learn. They are not a disgrace, they do not make us victims. Thinking like this will make us face them, not confront them. Trying to tear them down is not the same as overcoming them, integrating them into our history and keeping the learning they give us.