Date a guy who is afraid of losing you!

I know you’re attracted to men who are self-confident.

It is not bad. Honestly, it’s good that one of the most important factors that determines your attraction to someone is the fact that you’re a self-confident human being. Maybe years went by when you didn’t feel confident in yourself, and you ended up looking for something to make up for what you thought was missing.

Perhaps you are an incredibly confident person and feel that you need someone who matches that same level. Either way, you’re starting to notice a pattern in the men you’ve dated/been interested in: they all had solid values ​​of trust running through their veins.

You know, I think sometimes we say trust is key. But what if it isn’t?
What if instead of dating a confident man, you don’t look for someone who gets nervous just thinking about losing you?

I know, it sounds weird at first, because it doesn’t make much sense. Why date a nervous wreck when you could date a man who is confident in himself?

If a man is sure of himself, it’s a good thing. However, we can often confuse confidence with arrogance. And sometimes we take a long time to identify them.

They approach you and look you in the eye and say all the right things that make you melt in a puddle, and you know, he makes you feel beautiful doesn’t he? It’s nice to have someone who addresses you and tells you things in such a direct way. However, then comes the swagger, this string of “flirt” lines he shot your way is something that came so incredibly easy for him.

Let me tell you, when someone likes you, then they get a little nervous around you.

Even people who are self-confident feel the jitters and butterflies when they see the person they like. There’s always the hope to impress, the intention to try and say the right things, trying not to roll your tongue. We all go a little crazy when it comes to loving and liking and all that; love is a complicated emotion that doesn’t always let us make our way through smiles.

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So maybe you should date the man who stumbles a little over his words when he talks to you – not because he’s incompetent, but because he wants to say the right things to express himself and doesn’t want to mess things up with you. He goes out with the guy who tries to make eye contact with you, and who does for a few seconds, but then looks down.

When a man is saying everything with ease without even blinking or thinking twice, he can only leave you wondering how many times he’s rehearsed these lines with other pretty girls. When a man makes eye contact with you and doesn’t stop, you imagine his intentional gaze is just to picture you naked.

Honestly, you should date the man who acts like he has something to lose when it comes to you.

That while he’s safe about your feelings for him, he also knows that if he decides to start treating you less than what you deserve, then he knows he’s in danger of you deciding to walk away, and that’s the way he’s going to go. last thing he wants.

He doesn’t see you as something from today that he can easily replace tomorrow – he actually gets nervous and anxious at the thought that you’re not already with him the next day.

So maybe you should date the man who isn’t afraid to admit that you make him nervous, because honey, he won’t leave you for the next pretty girl that comes along.

He will grab you, because he recognizes what he has. And honestly, that’s what you deserve. Someone confident enough to hold on to the good thing they found, but nervous enough to want to keep it around every day.

Because you deserve it, honey. Honestly, it deserves it.

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