Criticizing makes us unhappy

We all do it: criticize from time to time. Sometimes it is even necessary, it allows us to establish a distance and make a judgment from which to make a decision.. It is often said that the best criticism is the constructive one, that is, those that can allow the person receiving it to obtain clear and direct information about the situation.

Personal criticism that leads to nothing tends to remain in the air and sometimes even in the ear of the person who receives it. They are a way to vent feelings and thoughts through an offense to a second person.. Sometimes they hurt and can cause damage that not all of us are aware of.

Destructive criticism and unhappiness

Recently, a study from Wake Forest University brought to light something that we probably already intuited. People who know how to put things into perspective and who are used to focusing on the best in their peers are usually the happiest.

Instead, Those who live criticizing not only third parties, but also every aspect of what surrounds them, are generally profiles that tend towards negativity.to unhappiness and even depression.

If we habitually show a positive perception of other people, we generally tend to demonstrate a fairly balanced personal satisfaction. This is at least what this study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology tells us.
You also don’t have to worry if from time to time you launch a needed criticism. Sometimes, as we have indicated before, it is necessary. We criticize to establish distance, to defend ourselves from something. Of that work situation in which we are immersed. From the politicians who govern our country. About that person who hurts us and to whom we have to let them know.

All of this is, in essence, constructive criticism. They have a clear purpose and serve to defend us from something specific, but also to make us think and sometimes even to unite us as a group. Criticism sometimes highlights the needs of a specific group, people who need to react against something..

Be careful with criticizing, it can do a lot of damage.

Now, it is common that on many occasions we are affected by destructive criticism. How should we face it? It is best to avoid falling into a dispute. Time and energy is wasted. Pride can blind us without getting anywhere. It would be advisable to face negative criticism by sharpening a good positive response..

Always with temper and balance, more balance than the person who tries to harm us. We will try to be sincere, direct and always looking for an appropriate reaction that does not further complicate the situation.

The ideal would certainly be to allow the other person to be aware of their personal limitations and problems. Of that need to do harm. In turn, issue constructive criticism with which said individual in particular can make a small and subtle act of “constriction” and self-analysis.

But we must remember, most of the time criticism is a reflection of our personal voids, of our desires, of those hidden desires that we see in other people and that bother us. Of those problems that have not been overcome and that we do not know how to face.

Before criticizing someone, ask yourself why you do it. If you consider that criticism is necessary, let them know in person so that it is something constructive, so that it has a specific purpose. Continuous criticism ends up filling our environment with a tense negativity where little by little, it will be difficult for us to breathe.. Open windows and be consistent.

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