Are you or do you know a boring person? |

It’s just boring who wants it? Not always. People often become boring and don’t realize it. Identifying a bore is not very difficult, but the bore himself does not realize that he is becoming one or even that he is such a person.

Usually people who are or are annoying don’t look at their behavior, they don’t notice. They are so absorbed in their universe that they are unable to notice how others react to their presence. A few phrases heard from friends or colleagues can be a hint that you are or are becoming a bore. Note the not always so subtle tips:

When you arrive in the circle of friends, is there an awkward silence in the air? Do people make frequent excuses to hang up the phone? Are you no longer invited to all programs with friends? When you reach out to people are they too busy to pay attention to you? Do you hear comments like “hey, here she (or he) comes?” When playing with you, do people imitate your favorite phrases?

It is possible that these and other events occur from time to time, but when they become frequent, they can signal that your way of being is not welcome, that it is bothering you in some instance.

Boring has some characteristics that are worth listing. Even if he has good friends, these people are often embarrassed to point out his annoyance. Some even try to speak in a more subtle way, but usually it doesn’t work. Boring people tend not to pay much attention to subtleties.

You become a boring person when:

Wants to always be the center of attention Chooses a subject, talks about it all the time (breakup, politics, religion, diet, football, work, etc.) Frequently interrupts what they are talking about with inappropriate comments, with inappropriate laughter or changing the course of the conversation He talks all the time and explains everything in detail, without giving a chance for dialogue He criticizes everything, nothing is good, he just complains about life and people He thinks he is the owner of the truth, the absolute master of right and wrong wrong, is judgmental Always in a low mood Trying to convince others of his point of view on an issue at all costs

Obviously everyone has their moments, but the real bore is predictable, it brings with it that personality trait that ends up pushing people away. The boring is “over”, it lacks balance.

types of boring

There are several types of boredom. Check below six types of boring and identify if you are or know any of them.

Nasty annoying – makes unsympathetic comments, like noticing dry skin, dull hair, extra pounds, etc. Always loud and with no sense of discretion. Inconvenient boring – asks about health issues or about a particular problem, because you want to feel intimate, you want to show that you have certain information about the other. Aggressive annoying – arrives disqualifying (in the “joke”) your clothes, your opinions or any other characteristic of others. Unlike the nasty bore, this type makes more offensive comments, such as: “so, have you already abandoned that stupid idea of ​​yours to open a store?”. Pleasant bore – he is always smiling and agrees with everything, repeating what has already been said, because he thinks that this will be accepted by a certain group. Insistent annoying – always asks the same questions, always suggests the same things and insists on reviving a certain subject. This type likes to keep insisting on the same opinion, which is usually contrary to his own. Boring know-it-all – usually tells you what you “have to” do. Use phrases like: “you have to change jobs”, “you have to date”, “you have to go to my dentist”, “you have to change your way of dressing”. This type thinks he’s great at managing his life.

boredom has a cure

We already answered at the beginning of the text that even those who don’t want to be boring can become one. The good news is that it is possible to stop being boring. If you identified yourself as one of the modalities above or if you know someone like this, know that anxiety, the difficulty of accepting the differences between people and their points of view, a slight depression, nonconformity and low self-esteem can be behind endless talking and inappropriate behavior.

Many times, the individual develops beliefs that it is always necessary to have an opinion on all matters, or he thinks that everything that escapes his understanding is wrong. Out of sheer insecurity or for personal reasons, he does not see color in life and takes his black and white vision to the groups, or he feels inferior and needs to be paid attention to. Behind a boring person there is a person who has difficulty looking at himself and being self-critical. It could also be people who are going through a difficult period or have gradually crystallized their way of being as a form of defense.

If you can’t discern enough to know whether or not you’re a boring person, ask a sincere friend. Give him the freedom to tell you without reservation what he really feels and perceives about you. So look at yourself and try to understand what makes you act in a way that is identified as a boring person. If you can’t find the way to get rid of this personality trait, know that a therapeutic process can help you a lot to find the balance so that your relationships are more sincere and healthy, without you getting that feeling of being left out, being inconvenient. or, worse, being rejected in some way.

When you discover the thread of the story, the reason why you started to behave in a way that made you a boring person and resolve this issue in the cause, little by little you manage to rebuild your relationships on a more balanced basis and believe me: everyone will notice the difference in your change!