After many years, some people comment on their decision not to have children.

Traditionally, society treats childless couples with suspicion and misunderstanding. Let’s face it, in a long-term relationship and especially after marriage, it is customary to have children. But in the modern world there are more and more people, who for some reason, refuse to follow this rule and live happily only with their partner until old age. Or is it not so?

A Reddit user posted a question about how adult couples who in the past refused to have children are feeling now. And some answers were controversial, and the reasons and decisions made were very different.

O awesome.club believes that this information will be very useful both for those who still do not understand the point of view of a childless couple and have a wrong stereotype, and for those who are now in a difficult situation and are afraid to make such an important decision as That. After all, the stories of real people sometimes end up being the best example for you to think about.

We’ve been married for 21 years and at first we tried to have children, but we found it wasn’t that simple. My wife was heartbroken at first, but I felt some relief. It’s a lot of responsibility and your life changes to accommodate a child. Over the years, my wife has said a few times that she was glad we didn’t have children because we couldn’t have gone on the adventures we did. I feel it was the right choice and we are better off without kids. © grahag

It makes me sad and I think my husband does too, when I see that incredible love from friends for their children, I understand that this is something I will never have. The 2 of us have built an excellent career, we have a wonderful life, but at the same time, we feel alone and without a family. All our brothers and sisters live far away, our parents have passed away. In my opinion, our entire lives are dedicated to ourselves and, deep down, I think this is wrong. © brotherRod2

I’ve always said that I’m afraid that one day I’ll regret my decision not to have children, but that’s not the same thing as wanting to have children, and that’s the big difference. I have my reasons for believing that I would be unlikely to be a good father. Yes, sometimes we are worried about who will take care of us when one of us dies or becomes disabled. But this thinking is only the result of our decisions, not the basis for changing our opinions. Also, the presence or absence of children is not a guarantee that someone will take care of you, even if the first option increases your chances. © Oenonaut

We 2 are over 50 years old. I don’t think I could have dealt with the worries of having a child, especially in this horrible reality. Our mothers are in a nursing home. We continue to take care of them, so that they feel good, but there is no one to take care of us. Sometimes I want to ask my wife if she’s sorry we didn’t have children, but I don’t have the courage. If she says yes, this will break me. © teeb46

I’m afraid to answer that question. I’m ambivalent about children. But I will never forget when I held a man’s hand on his last day in the asylum and he said to me, “My God, I wish I had a child.” He was married to a woman for nearly 50 years, and was a teacher for nearly 40 years. His room was filled with cards and pictures of alumni, friends, and relatives. It’s impossible to tell if he was sane, but the regret in his voice was heartbreaking. © MediocreProstitute

I am over 50 years old, married, no children. We have a good life. Our money and time are ours. I have a large number of nieces and nephews, not to mention being an “uncle” to many of our friends’ children. In their teens and beyond, they trusted us when their relationship with their parents was strained. From time to time, we help them out financially with a nice vacation or buying a used car. Yes, we don’t have blood children, but other people’s children think we’re cool. © NonTransferable

I wanted to have children, but I couldn’t find the right person. I’m really glad I didn’t have children with my previous partners: they would be terrible mothers or we just couldn’t be a healthy couple. A while later I found a perfect woman and she even got pregnant, but we lost our son to Dandy Walker syndrome. And now we’re too old to try again. I feel like I won’t have children, but at the same time I don’t regret not having children with someone other than my current wife. © shapeofthings

I worked with a nurse who never regretted not having children, but she loved children so much that she wanted them in her life. That’s why she became the “big sister” on the TV show “Big Brother Big Sister” (free translation: Big Brother, Big Sister), so she was able to give love to a child who needed it, but without being a mother. © mydadisindianajones

I change my mind all the time. My girlfriend has some serious mental issues and obviously I will have to deal with the emotional difficulties of raising a child alone. Sometimes I worry a lot about what I’ll do when I’m old. I’m an introvert and I don’t have many friends, I’m not very friendly either, so I’ll probably be alone. I just hope that there are robots to take care of me and that I die before they revolt against us. © Doctorjimmy

We’ve been married for 20 years, I’m 50 years old. None of us wanted to have children in our family. But just yesterday I had a wonderful day with my 16 year old niece. We talk about her boyfriend, we pick blackberries and we find a clam that lives in a mud puddle in the woods and we call him Fred. That was magical. I have a great affection for her. In my opinion, not wanting to have children is also normal. Zero regrets. © piskie

I’m 36 years old. My wife always wanted children, unlike me. We came to an agreement: “whatever will happen, will happen”. After 13 years of marriage she became pregnant. After so many years I thought she had won, but no. A few weeks ago he turned a year old. I never wanted to have children, and even after hundreds of people told me that what I would feel for my child would be different from how I feel for other people’s children, I was not convinced. But in the end they were right. I love this baby. I’m always tired and I barely have time to do the things I want, but playing with him and seeing him smile or hearing his laugh is worth it. I admit I was wrong when I said I didn’t want children. © xJeffmanx

I have no regrets. Not everyone wants to have children, and if you’re not sure, the best option is to wait. Parents who have a contradictory (or even worse) attitude towards their children have a negative effect on their self-esteem. © pterelas

I, being an unwanted child who was raised simply because it is customary to have them after marriage, say: please do not have children if you are not 100% sure of your decision. Children must be wanted. © nyxloa

I’ll add this… I had similar concerns about having kids. I would have less time, less money, less freedom, etc. But I discovered that everything changes and… I like having my children. I enjoy spending time with them, I enjoy teaching them new things, I enjoy (sometimes) spending money on them and I just love these little brats. To me, they are like my little friends, who sometimes drive me crazy, but mostly they make me happy. Whether other people have children or not is their decision and it doesn’t affect my relationship with them in any way. I’m never going to take a guess at anyone’s life, about who should have children or not. I can tell you why WE decided to have children and how they affected US, but nothing more. The decision to have children or not is up to you and no one else. © ClownfishSoup

We ask that you share your experiences as well, regardless of whether you have children or not. Tell us, what were your reasons for making such a decision? What feelings about it do you have over the years?