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What stops you from being happy? What limits you? What holds you? Or rather, what do you hold? What don’t you let go? What do you make so much question that stays? Who do you want to stay? What’s the problem with letting go? Just go? Accepting that people leave, that things end, is difficult, I know. But this is a learning experience, life teaches us that and we have to learn. For love, or for pain.

Everything ends. The film. The music. The clothes. The call. The text. The message. The letter. The food. The drink. Shaken. The program. The soap opera. The conversation. The discussion. The fight. The declaration. The relationship. Love. The friendship. The hate. The boredom. The grudge. The permanence of people in our lives. The forever… I heard a phrase and I never forgot it: “The forever, always ends.”. When I heard it, I didn’t really believe that sentence. But I learned in the pain that it ends. I’ve never been good at saying goodbye to someone. I suffered a lot in preschool, when I had to stay in class and my mother had to leave. When my grandfather left, it was also very difficult to say goodbye… It’s so bad when people leave. It hurts our hearts. But it ends. Nothing will remain forever in our life. When someone leaves, good feelings must stay and be cultivated in a way that doesn’t hurt us. That everything we spend with someone, whatever the person represented, should be kept as a good memory. In the beginning, we have an immense longing, a desire for time to come back, but we have to transform it into a feeling called affection. Affection for everything. For the person and for all the good and bad things we went through with them. If she hurt you, forgive her. There should be no rancor where there was love. But that’s it, it’s over.

Putting an end to something, to a story, is not easy. But we have to go through the acceptance process. Accept that it’s over and that’s it. It was good? He was. Did you have bad times? Had. Great moments? Yup. But now its over. End of the line. Time to put an end to it, change the book and start a new story. But without that character. You know when you watch a show and in the last episode of the season, the character leaves or dies? And when the new season starts, do the characters continue to live new stories without that character? That’s how life should be. People are leaving, falling behind and we must keep moving forward. Writing our new life, our new stories. What happens is that that person will no longer be there. Participating. But you will meet new people. Live so many other stories. Stories that one hour will end and people who will also leave. That’s life, an eternal Ferris wheel. It spins around, and every hour, someone new will be spinning in it. Life does not stop. And neither should. When she stops, it’s all over. You won’t be able to do anything else. Enjoy as your Ferris wheel of life turns.

It’s time for you to accept that it’s over. Which is no longer possible. What happened, happened. He was. Thank God, for the story you lived, for the person you shared good times with. But now go ahead. It is forward that you walk, that you look and live. It’s time to restart. And leave what has to stay in the past, live in the past. Your right and duty is to live in the present and the future. Accept that everything you went through had to be left behind. And from this story and from this person, you extracted teachings, learnings and a collection of things. Enough now. New life, everything new. Let go, don’t stay behind. Don’t arrest. Unhappy people do that. Do you want to be an unhappy person? Unhappy people hold back as far as they give everything in their life, afraid to let go. They end up turning into people they never imagined they would be. Crawl, they want crumbs. And who lives on crumbs is a bird. If you keep holding someone too much and not releasing yourself, you will become someone unhappy, without self-love and without self-esteem. Unhappy with your life just because someone wanted to leave? Please do not.

Free yourself from these bonds. Erase and forget everything that reminds you of the person. Go be happy. Put your face in the sun with your face and courage. And accept that everything ends. Start over from scratch. Write your new story and your new book. Look, the time is ticking. What has happened so far is in the past. Let’s go on. Put that Ferris wheel there to spin. Happiness is right there in front, see it and face it head on. You will have new relationships. And one better than the previous one. I hope you understand that: Accept. Ended. Full stop.