From the outside, some people’s relationships are amazing! They always seem happy and their relationship seems easy to maintain.

But I can say with absolute certainty that no relationship is perfect! The fact is, it takes intentional consistency to keep your relationship happy.

The important question is, “Do you think your relationship is strong?”

You may wonder what defines a happy relationship. To answer your question, read on for 9 signs your relationship is STRONGER than you think:

1. You always make decisions together

Many, many couples make the big mistake of seeing their relationship as 50/50 when it comes to making decisions.

What’s good for you doesn’t mean it’s good for your relationship. It doesn’t matter what the decision is!

Getting a new credit card, taking a trip, getting a promotion, changing jobs, etc.

Big or small, it’s always a wise choice to consult with your partner before making a final decision.

Your decisions directly impact each other’s lives. Talking about life’s decisions is a great indicator that your relationship is built on a strong and respectful foundation.

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2. You always work as a team

To keep your relationship strong and connected, you need to have a common goal and both of you need to work together towards it!

It’s okay for one of you to take the lead in certain circumstances—not least because you both have strengths and weaknesses.

You are willing to always balance the relationship and strengthen each other and that is great for your relationship.

3. You always say, “how lucky I am to have you in my life”

Nothing is worse than someone who says, “I could have anyone I want! He/she is lucky to have me!”

If you think like that, you need a beating to your ego or maybe you shouldn’t have dated or married the person you’re with in the first place.

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BOTH should feel incredibly blessed to have each other.

Have you ever found yourself just looking at your partner and thinking, “Wow, what a wonderful life I’m going to have with him/her. I am very blessed.”

With this mindset, your relationship will always stay strong!

If you’re always thinking negatively about your relationship, sit down and write a list of things you’re grateful for.

Life would be so lonely without your love. If necessary, see a relationship therapist. Therapy is nothing to be ashamed of!

You two need to feel “lucky” to have a good relationship! It’s worth the work and investment.

4. You love to have fun together

While humor can’t keep a relationship going, it will certainly help you get through the hard times!

If you both find pleasure in the little things and the boring moments (which are unavoidable), you will live a happy life together.

Laughter is great for the health of your relationship. If you’re not in the habit of having fun together, invest in it!

Think about what you used to love to do at the beginning of your relationship and invest in the fun times again.

Your relationship will be stronger because of it!

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5. Your relationship has a strong sense of trust

Trust is the foundation of every successful relationship. Without her, no relationship works.

If you trust your partner, your relationship is already stronger than most!

What areas do you trust? What areas do you not trust?

In topic 2, we discussed the “teammate mindset”. To have a successful team, you must trust each other.

Think about it. If one of you had to make a life-changing decision without consulting the other, would you explicitly trust each other to make the right decision?

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Life choices happen every day. Do you think about each other before creating them?

Or do you make a decision first—and then think about the consequences?

If you don’t trust each other, you need to sit down and have a long, deep conversation. Tell each other your doubts, suspicions and insecurities.

Make sure you’re both on the same page when it comes to trust issues. Often, a conversation is all it takes to discover problems and have a solution to them.

This is the only way to learn to meet each other’s expectations and create a relationship of trust.

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6. You know arguments are unhealthy for the relationship

“Wait… what?! Are you saying arguing is unhealthy???”

NO! Arguing is rarely healthy for any relationship. Approaching and solving problems respectfully is the key to a happy relationship.

If you and your partner have already done this, CONGRATULATIONS! Each couple argues in a different way.

Maybe your partner is dramatic. Or maybe he gets quiet and nonchalant when he’s upset with you. Or maybe he’s direct, stern, and ruthless.

You have to realize that your partner is very different from you and he needs a chance to have his opinion heard in a respectful way — even if you think he is dead wrong!

Maybe you feel the need to speak up right away! You and your partner will have to learn whether this method works for you or not.

7. You know each other’s love language

Yea! This is really one of the most useful things to know — no matter how long you’ve been together.

In short, each person feels loved differently.

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The five most essential ways are through physical touch, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, and words of affirmation.

Most of us love all these things! But there are usually one or two of them that mean more to you than the others.

Do you love holding hands and snuggling? Do you love when your partner does some housework? Or would you rather I bring you a nice gift when you get home? Or maybe you love it when he tells you how much he loves you.

See how each of these “love languages” can mean more to one person than to another.

8. None of you have a history of cheating

Have you ever heard the phrase “Whoever cheats once cheats forever”?

While people can change, there’s definitely a greater chance of cheating if it’s been done before.

Statistics have shown that people who have cheated before are 350% more likely to cheat again.

Second chances are wonderful and can give people the opportunity to show that they have changed their ways. However, the probability of never cheating again is not so encouraging.

If you’ve never cheated or been cheated on, your relationship already has a huge advantage! Keep up the good work and invest in each other!