You may already know what you’re looking for in a partner, but have you ever stopped to think about what you’re definitely not looking for? We all have values that we cannot override in the name of a relationship.
In addition to observing if the person next to you has the characteristics that you most admire, it is also essential to assess whether he or she exhibits any behavior that is completely contrary to what you expect or believe.
As much as you like him or her, insisting on a relationship with no future is sure to be a source of a lot of suffering. Keep an eye out for some facts that may indicate that your relationship doesn’t have much of a chance of moving forward:
1. The partner is always distracted
You try to talk to your partner and he is replying to someone on WhatsApp. You dress up and he doesn’t even bother because he was more interested in the Tanzanian 4th division football game.
Well, it’s a little difficult to maintain a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to realize you’re there and doesn’t really care about “wasting time” with your partner, right?
2. The partner lives far away
Of course, there are long-distance love stories that have worked very well, but it must be admitted that the chances of a relationship like this going forward are not very great. Unfortunately, without concrete plans and without a date for you to be close to each other permanently, frustration can end up taking over and making the relationship unfeasible.
3. He or she does not take care of their own health
Maybe you’re not a totally fitness person, but with a little knowledge about health you know you need to get a handle on fried foods, sweets, cigarettes and alcoholic beverages, right?
Therefore, you may be upset if the person next to you simply switches all meals for packaged snacks, thinks soda and water are the same thing, doesn’t keep vaccines up to date and refuses to make a medical appointment. After all, you’re not in the mood to be widowed early, are you?
4. Hygiene is not strong
You may even forgive your partner not being a big fan of vegetables or taking the car even to the corner bakery, but it’s very difficult to live with someone who doesn’t care much about their own hygiene.
If the person doesn’t bother to show up clean and fragrant to meet you, that’s a sure sign that he doesn’t give a damn about this relationship – and you’re not the one who needs to fix it!
5. He or she is allergic to your pet
Then it gets hard. If you’re super attached to your pet, there’s nothing and no one who would want to come between the two of you. After all, you simply love your baby and you’re not willing to part with him (how cruel!).
If your partner is allergic to animals, you may be able to go to his house, but he won’t be able to go to yours. And, of course, this would become a big problem if one day you decide to move in together: even if the partner is not to blame, you would not be happy to distance yourself from your pet.
6. You don’t have chemistry
Physical attraction isn’t everything in a relationship, but it’s an incredibly important part. So it’s very difficult for a relationship to move forward if you feel like the kiss doesn’t fit or that you’re not very comfortable touching each other.
Worse still, if you find yourself running away from your partner’s affections, you can be sure that this relationship doesn’t have much of a future.
7. The past is never left behind
You are going out or dating to get to know each other better and, who knows, have a future together, right? So ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends need to stay behind.
In fact, in relationships that become more serious, it is normal to end up talking about your previous experiences, whether they were romantic or not. However, when your partner brings his ex into your life all the time, it can be a sign that he is not over his last relationship and is not ready to move on.
8. You are not treated as you deserve
If your partner acts rudely, interrupts when you’re talking, and brings you down with showers of criticism all the time, you have more to be glad that this relationship didn’t work out.
You don’t have to waste your time next to a person who hurts you, no matter how much you have good feelings for them. More than swearing love, it is necessary for the partner to really show all this devotion through their attitudes.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. However, if you find that there are more negatives than positives, don’t be afraid to break it. You deserve to be with someone who adds to your life and who values the wonderful person you are.
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