7 things you should stop talking about in your relationship

“Sticks and stones can break bones. But words… ah! Words can kill the soul”

Words have the power to cut someone to the core.

When it comes to your relationship, your mouth has the power to bless or curse your courtship/marriage.

It’s okay to have the occasional disagreement or have a bad day and say something you regret — followed by a sincere apology, of course.

But if you or your partner fall into the bad habit of saying aggressive or hurtful things to each other, your relationship could be heading towards an abyss.

Some of these harmful things come to your relationship in the form of “normal communication”.

You might think, “But everyone says that or talks that way!”

However, these cursing and cursing words can deeply harm or offend you or your partner to the point where the relationship becomes irreconcilable.

Read on and see the 7 things you should stop talking about in your relationship:

1. Keep threatening your partner that you’re “going to break up” (even if it’s a joke)

Do you really mean it? Do you really think breaking up would be a good idea?

If you’re just using this as a threat, you need to stop!

This is a childish and manipulative tactic that is absolutely useless when it comes to cultivating a healthy relationship.

2. Saying hurtful things about your partner’s family

No matter how irritating some of your partner’s family members may be, you need to think carefully before saying something bad about them.

Family is family—and there’s a special bond in it, no matter how annoying some people are.

Even if your partner agrees with you, don’t do it!

Because? Because your partner is bound to have some fond memories about them. You don’t have it and that’s okay! But, let him/her keep those few good memories in peace.

If you need to say something, choose your words wisely. Don’t fall into the trap of gossip and toxic negativity.

3. Keep using the words “always” and “never”

“You always say that to me!”

“You never do anything to help me!”

These statements are “absolute” and leave no room for exceptions.

Saying these things to your partner immediately puts him on the defense because you are accusing him of something very serious.

He will be hurt and offended by your statement and will likely remember all the times he did or did NOT do what you are accusing.

In other words, it’s an offensive and pointless argument!

Instead, carefully choose the right time to discuss a problem with him/her. Directly after he/she gets home from work is not a good time!

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4. Keep saying your partner “can’t do this”

Ummmmm…yes he/she can!

And stop treating your partner like a child!

Telling him/her that he/she can’t do something he/she does means that you have authority over him/her and all his/her decisions.

The problem is, you don’t have authority over their choices and saying that will make them XYZ even more!

You need to choose your words wisely when you feel your partner will do something wrong or harmful to your relationship.

He/she should be your best friend and the happiness of the relationship should come first. Choose an appropriate way to deal with problems.

Don’t let the heat of the moment allow you to say something that will make him or her angry!

5. Apologize the wrong way

The following statements NO are true apologies:

• “I’m sorry, but that’s how I am.”
• “Sorry to have offended you.”
• “If you think I meant XYZ, I’m sorry.”

These “apologies” are not sincere, honest, or helpful. In fact, they only make the problem worse.

If you or your partner apologizes in this way, your relationship will likely not be a safe place.

A true apology declares the mistake, accepts responsibility, and comes along with a sincere apology.

Without true forgiveness, healing will never happen. Your relationship growth will stop and your love will cool off.

Love is kind and selfless. He apologizes and truly forgives. Work on it and you will find yourself in a happy and healthy relationship!

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6. Commenting on a person you found attractive

If you think looking at other people and commenting on it is harmless, you’re wrong!

By saying this, you’re sending the message to your partner that you love to admire someone else’s physical qualities — not theirs!

If you don’t believe me, just ask a random group of men and women what they think. Better yet, ask your partner what they think.

Next time you see someone attractive, don’t say anything!

There will always be attractive people in the world. But you didn’t choose them to live your whole life. You chose the person who is walking beside you and who loves you. So please respect her!

7. Choose not to say anything

The lack of words can do a lot of damage too! The good old “Silent Treatment”!

Silence is typically used as a passive-aggressive tactic to annoy the person you’re talking to.

This tactic is often used by narcissists to make their victims pay for not doing what they wanted.

Don’t be childish and refuse to talk about things, simply because you are offended or hurt. It is natural to react when you feel personally attacked.

However, you must fight this urge to “be silent” and try to end the conversation. If necessary, take a little time to calm down.

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship!

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