Loving someone is often letting them vent all their anger on you. Not because you’re an emotional punching bag, but because the two of you agreed to be there for each other, through the ups and downs.

It’s about being stronger than usual when your partner is feeling fragile and doing whatever it takes to get them through this turbulent time. So no matter where you are or what’s going on, you’ll always be there for your person because you promised you would.

Loving someone is knowing that their person will have flaws, peculiarities and habits, but that despite this, you will be by their side for whatever comes. Because there is no perfect relationship, and when we let go of our needs, we can embrace the whole of someone.

Loving someone is spending three hours cooking just to see that person happy. Chop the spices, chop the vegetables, and stir and taste until you’ve created an explosion of love and nourishment in a bubbling pot on the stove. Not because you necessarily like to cook, or want to impress your sweetheart, but because you want to take care of him.

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You deserve someone who will do EVERYTHING to show you how much you are loved.

To love someone is to let go of what happened in the past and live fully in the present. Forgiving each other for what you said or didn’t say, for old wounds and mistakes. Because you know that holding on to the past will add fuel to anger and rage.

To love someone is to be the steady hand that will catch them when they fall, cleaning their scrapes and cuts. And giving him the confidence to lift his head and walk boldly, without worrying about who might have seen him fall.

Loving someone means growing – as individuals and as a couple. It’s saying, I see what you’ve just done and I’m proud of you, but I dare you to go further, because I believe in you and your potential, and it’s about time you did too.

To love someone is to be sincere with all your heart, even when it seems impossible. It’s telling the other person how you feel at any given time, without fear of being judged or causing pain. Because you know how suffocating it is to keep things inside, and how freeing it is to have someone you can let go of.

Loving someone is being grateful for that person every day. Even on those days when your world is upside down. Because you come home to that person, and you snuggle under the duvet with them, and you wake up with another perspective just by being next to them. And do you have any idea how many people would like to have that too? So remember to hug your lover, kiss him and tell him you love him often.

To love someone is to take care of that person when they are sick. Holding your hair while you throw up, bringing glasses of water to the bed, and sneaking into your room every hour just to make sure you’re okay. It’s not wanting to leave your lover’s side when you’re in the hospital, even if you haven’t showered or haven’t slept in days.

Loving someone, and I mean REALLY loving someone, is loving even on the hardest days. When all the odds are against you. When neither of you is at your best.

That’s what it’s really like to love someone. And I don’t want it any other way.