7 Deadly Mistakes We Make When Your Child Is Misbehaving

There is no father or mother who has never experienced a moment of tantrum from their children. Only, sometimes the brave (and desperate) dads and moms simply don’t have the strength to deal with their little ones in a good way. And when that happens, there are screams, threats and small punishments, like hiding that toy that the child loves so much or banning video games.

Yes, we know that these moments exist, but we always have to keep in mind that adults are the strongest part of this relationship and that it is up to them to teach and guarantee the emotional balance of children. Every family is unique, but in this post, we’ll show you some phrases that should never be said to them, no matter how nervous or upset they are at any given moment.

O awesome.club hopes that the suggestions below will help parents-readers to remain calm even in the most difficult situations, avoiding harming the child’s psychology with their excessively scolding expressions or attitudes.

You are an indisputable authority for the child and when you deprive him of watching TV, playing and other things he considers important, he will understand that he is doing something wrong. However, crying and morning tantrums are one of the only ways that younger children express themselves (even if they already know how to speak). Therefore, there is a risk that they will understand that if they show their own feelings, they will be deprived of something important. Because of these small punishments, children tend to become adults who keep all kinds of negative emotions to themselves and, as a result, may develop cardiovascular diseases, high blood pressure and even uncontrollable outbursts of anger.

Many parents say things like this believing they are doing good, when in fact they are harming their children. For you, parent, the situation for which the child cries may seem silly. But keep in mind that the world of little ones is different and banal things for us adults can be great tragedies for them. By devaluing their feelings, we make it clear to the child that the situation making her upset or happy isn’t that important. So, in addition to being upset with the problem itself, she also becomes irritated with us for not understanding her problem.

This is another form of threat, albeit a slightly different one. The fear of being alone is one of the most inherent fears of human beings and, by telling your child this, you will be blocking their trust in you, the parent and other people. The message that can be left is that if you do something wrong, the child will be abandoned. Therefore, parents are not exactly reliable people.🇧🇷

Depending on the level of stress, the child can be scarred for life, with shattered confidence in himself and others. This situation can be a trigger for neuroses, anxiety disorders and panic attacks.

If you think a child really understands why they are being punished, we are sorry to say, but that is not the case. She simply won’t remember the “educational” moment, but only the hurt you caused. Or he will be afraid of doing something wrong and will become an extremely insecure person, and may choose, in the future, to model aggressive behavior.

Criticism and name-calling are also a form of emotional violence. The child may not only keep the words in his head and use them in other contexts but, depending on the situation, believe that he deserves this type of aggressive treatment. After all, the words come from the most important authority in your life so far, your parents.

When a child realizes the impotence of his parents, loses a sense of security in relation to everything around her🇧🇷 After all, if the parents, who are her reference in terms of power, strength and tranquility, are not knowing how to deal with their own emotions, how will she, so small, handle everything?

It is difficult for a child to control anger. When they are very young, they are learning to deal with complex feelings such as anger, resentment and fear. Therefore, they manifest themselves in the form of tantrum crises. In these circumstances, nothing worse than when they realize that their parents are not capable of dealing with their own emotions and responsibilities.

This type of threat creates a negative image of professionals on whom many aspects of our lives depend and with whom the child will one day have to relate. This applies not only to the figure of the police, but also to that of garbage collectors, doctors and dentists — often used by parents in the form of a threat. Imagine what a child’s reaction will be when being taken to a hospital when the parents threaten him several times with punishments such as “if you don’t behave, I’ll call the doctor to give you an injection”.

There are also threats linked to characters, such as the big bad wolf and the bogeyman, who could attack the child at night. In these cases, the greatest risk is that the little one presents the so-called nocturnal enuresis (or, in simpler language, wetting the bed) in addition to fear of darkness and tension before going to sleep.

Almost every parent has had those moments when the child gets so sly and irritable that the only way to have a modicum of peace seems to be to hand her a cell phone to watch cartoons. However, by giving in to this type of request, parents end up creating a vicious circle. The child is not foolish and, as he grows up, he realizes that, as the parents cannot bear to see him cry and are willing to “buy him a little peace” by lending him the cell phone, he can get more with a little in the morning. A bicycle, a toy and (why not?) your own cell phone. Don’t play this game. You are the parent and you have a mission to teach🇧🇷 In adult life, your child will not conquer things based on screaming.

Teach your child to express anger in acceptable ways. For example:

hit the pad;

play in an open environment (it can be a playground);

if you see that a scandal is about to begin, ask him to explain how he feels (if he already knows how to speak);

give some play dough or clay and ask them to sculpt how they are feeling;

if it’s a very young child, stand in front of him, put your hands in his, and try to “wrestle” (playfully) a little so that the child can release the accumulated tension.