7 best lessons that Carrie Bradshaw left us about life

Many people say that “like the first youth, nothing.” Everything tastes like sugary gum, the sun is sunbathed without protection, the first kisses lead to nights of endless dreaming, receiving a message and running to see it is a sign that the bills are not yet in your name, that first love elevates you. to a unique heavenly feeling and it seems that you are the only person in the universe. Little do we remember the whole days crying from not receiving a message back, from being a single woman, from the endless exam periods, from buying clothes with your mother’s permission, from the “mental cocoa” about who we are and the limits of our relationships with others. .

Carrie comes to claim in her well-known series “Sex and the City” that true youth arrives at 30. Your friends are the ones you have chosen, the others have fallen by the wayside, an unanswered message is a “what’s up today girls” or a “he’s missing out”. We present some of his “transcendental teachings” below.

1.That you don’t go out to “hook up”, but to have a good time and that’s when the most interesting things can happen…

Acting interesting so that some guy approaches you? Women in their 30s already know how interesting they are (not that they weren’t before, but they didn’t quite believe it), so if they can take the initiative, they do it… but in a way that doesn’t radiate desperation, but rather with the desire for a good conversation that the night is young.

2. Writing is therapeutic

Carrie is a little neurotic (her head doesn’t stop spinning) but her whirlwind of ideas seems to make sense when she sits in front of her computer. It seems like a somewhat impersonal relationship, that of a woman with a screen, but it is her moment of reflection, of peace.

After observing what happens, she tries to give a conclusion, but not exemplary, or similar to a recipe book of modes of conduct. She writes about what happens to her trying to connect with the reader who reads her every week in her famous column. If she manages to connect with him, it is because she has done it before with herself at that moment.

Nothing seems to be so chaotic written on paper or on a screen, when it is done with human sincerity and without hiding any ideology, the feeling that is established with readers is automatic. Therefore, she teaches us that we can be fragile, human and messed up, and at the same time; turn out wonderful.

3. It’s not the heels that make you wonderful. It’s your way of wearing them

Carrie’s fascination with “her manolos” may seem purely superficial and materialistic. But it is much more than that. Carrie has a metaphor with her life in her shoes.

She tells us that being single is not easy, so we have to try to make it fun, stay away from the drama. Putting on good shoes is a good idea, since single women travel a lot alone and should feel good about themselves.

So walk tall and strong, you may not have a man by your side to catch you if you fall, but a single woman must find her own ways to stay upright without help. For her, “her manolos” are not just a luxury, it is a way of believing that the path she has left to travel can be done alone and without effort. And with a lot of style, of course.

4. The search for love is hard. But is it worth it

She doesn’t pretend when she’s in love, nor when she’s devastated. But she considers it a worthy price to pay to lead a full life. She does not use strategies, she does not look for shortcuts, she makes mistakes, she is impulsive, but she believes in the magic of love, the one that is not chosen, but the one that is felt. and with whom you later decide to stay with all your reason and your heart.

She is a brave woman, she does not settle for the first boy who falls in love with her if she thinks he cannot reciprocate in the same way. For her it is loving by being yourself and without expecting anything in return, just feeling fulfilled by giving it away.

5. With friends the sorrows are less, and they are eternal loves

Many studies say it and the facts contrast it, friends heal, good friends are the reflection of what we unconsciously value, they are our other self, seen from the outside. Sometimes friends fight, they distance themselves, but A good friend is the best medicine when the soul is sad.

6. Don’t try to change, don’t diminish your passion to seem right for your man

When Mr. Big (nickname of Carrie’s great love in the series) is going to marry another woman, Carrie has doubts. Her and her friends begin to theorize about whether she is too complicated, that she should be a different type of girl in order to get married.

At that moment, Carrie decides to go to the end of her lover’s connection to seek answers. She doesn’t pull them off convincingly, but she throws her blonde hair around and before her they all appear before a wild horse that seems displeased with being tamed.

7. The relationship you have with others is exciting. But the most exciting one is the one you have with yourself.

In the end of the series we can understand all the previous seasons. Carrie Bradshaw is a woman in search of love, but above all, in search of herself. A single woman…

And what did being a single woman teach you?

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