5 secrets of a happy relationship

Traveling, tidying up the house, having a baby… The dream of building a life together founds a couple. Throughout the marriage, the two change and so do dreams. The big challenge, at any stage of the relationship, is dealing with the desire of the other, which implies enduring frustrations and delays or simply having to manage unexpected differences. Check out our tips and see how to keep your relationship getting stronger every day🇧🇷

1. Assume the family

In marriage, partners take home a legacy of values, beliefs and myths from at least three generations, but they are not always aware of this baggage. Therefore, taking on a new nucleus means not only prioritizing a program with her husband, but also preparing to deal with the meeting of two different cultures, which brings wealth and also friction.

2. Become friends

But not much! This step requires caution. Who doesn’t want to be friends with great love? It’s great to live with a good partner, root for him, give and receive support and lap; be solidarity; laugh together. All of this is delicious because feeling part of the same team is one of the faces of passion. But it’s not worth being friends too much, otherwise you end up becoming a brother.

3. Learn to fight

A good fight is one in which all opinions are legitimated. Maybe the couple doesn’t reach a consensus, but it’s important that the differences are manifested, that both can put themselves together without pretending that everything is fine when it isn’t. A productive fight is very different from screaming and cursing, being silent and sulking or even insisting on eternal complaints, which only wear out and dampen the conflict, when the fundamental thing is to face it.

4. Make deals

Time and money are the two most valuable currencies of our time. In couple dynamics, they trigger emotional issues. Every relationship has an invisible ledger, where the questions are: who is in debt? Who is giving more or less to the relationship? When this quotation is unbalanced, the needs – of attention, sex, support, affection – and subjective appeals of all kinds can present themselves in the form of demands for time, money and services. Therefore, the first attitude is to try to find out what bothers you. Where do you both feel hurt, burdened, robbed? That way it will be possible to make fairer agreements.

5. Cultivate eroticism

Never abandon the small rituals – having a glass of wine or a bath together, going out to dinner, taking a getaway together. Without these precautions, the risk of being swallowed up by domestic matters is enormous – you cease to be lovers and become great “taskers”. The affective exchange is impoverished and the libido does not resist because sexuality is not restricted to what happens in the double bed. It feeds on every situation where you can admire each other; having fun together, exchanging confidences and also setting the clock straight, because accumulated hurt cools down any story.