5 keys to managing a couple’s commitment

In the puzzle that makes up a relationship, Independence and commitment are sometimes two difficult pieces to fit together. It is increasingly complex for the bond that two people create to be maintained over time, whether due to fear of committing more, by their own decision or due to any other circumstance. And as the sociologist Zigmunt Bauman would say, we live in the age of liquid relationships.

The couple’s relationship must promote a positive evolution of its members in which love and trust are reinforced, but also the commitment to oneself. That is to say, a relationship does not imply giving up what we are, but rather maintaining it and creating, in turn, a bond of affection, support and affection. To do this, you have to learn to manage the relationship appropriately. Let’s dig deeper.

What does a couple’s commitment consist of?

Any lasting relationship, whether work, business, friendship or any other type, requires a commitment on the part of those involved. The same thing happens in a couple: Love alone is not enough, it requires the establishment of an agreement, of that something that shows that you are willing to invest effort in your relationship.

Once the falling in love stage is over, you begin to truly know the other person, through a more objective look. Expectations stop playing a role and the blindfold that we had that, in some way, prevented us from seeing the essence of the other person falls away.

From there, that’s when HE It tests the existence or not of real love. If this exists for both, you can go one step further to reach a commitment as a couple, that agreement that provides stability and confidence in the future of the courtship or marriage.

This type of commitment demands take into account the other person’s needs and not just your own; as well as taking care of each other, spending quality time together, pursuing the well-being of both and, above all, loving each other.

How to manage a couple’s commitment satisfactorily

The psychologist and director of the Center for the Family in Transition Judith S. Wallerstein states that to manage and reinforce the couple’s commitment with the aim of achieving a common future, the following keys and recommendations are essential.

1. Let the couple be the support in the face of adversity

It is impossible to avoid the discomfort or discomfort of everyday life. Stress, excess responsibilities, problems at work or an accumulation of worries cause situations that influence us in a negative way.

Therefore, having your partner to share how we are feeling or vent is beneficial. This way, Supporting each other and taking refuge in their affection in the face of daily adversity is recommended.

From this perspective, The couple is that union that promotes that both members listen to each other, support each other, care for each other and comfort each other. May they be that relief and rest, that calm that, sometimes, we need so much. The oasis of peace to which you can always and want to return. The ray of light between the darkness and the color on cloudy days.

To do this, it is essential:

Listen actively.Let the other person speak.Feel empathy.Establish effective means of communication that allow you to express opinions. Avoid offending the other person when you transmit your opinions to us.

2. Properly manage couple crises

Crises can sometimes be inevitable and sometimes even necessary. They usually imply that the couple is in a process of evolution without remaining stuck in phases that should have been overcome, but it is very important to know how to manage them to keep the commitment intact.

Thus, managing the crisis in a couple can be done through patience, assertiveness, empathy, understanding, communication and mutual support. Yes indeed, It is important to keep in mind that there will always be differences and that each of the members will carry a backpack full of influences from the past.

However, properly managing crises will allow adaptation to new and changing circumstances.

3. Respect yourself

Mutual respect translates into embrace the individuality of the other person and accept them as a being that complements you and not as someone who should think and act the same as you.

Respect for the decisions and way of thinking of others, enriched by the encouragement and value given to these decisions, fosters this commitment in an important way.

4. Be honest

In a healthy relationship, lying is usually not the best idea. We all have our secrets and we don’t have to tell them; But it is quite different to intentionally lie and not be honest with the other party.

Therefore, make use of honesty and maintain one’s own authenticity with sincerity, while valuing the way of being of the otherwith defects and virtues, is essential.

5. Maintain balance in the relationship

The compromise must be equitable for both parties. If one person always invests more in the relationship than the other and sticks to the commitment, while the other person tends to ignore it, the relationship will become very difficult.

That’s why, Decisions, commitment and offering to the other must be reciprocal, without forgetting to appreciate and value what one does for the other.

As we see, Couple commitment is essential if we want to maintain a long-term relationship. Love, empathy, effort and communication are those fundamental pillars that can help us. What do you think?

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