4 tips for dealing with an insecure partner

Is your boyfriend jealous? Doesn’t he like you to wear short clothes, go out with your girlfriends, keep in touch with your male friends? Okay, in the right measure, jealousy can even work as a spice for the relationship, but in excess, it ruins any love. And it gets worse when one of the two begins to investigate the other’s life, distrusting each step taken by the partner and judging him as a potential risk of betrayal.

Although it is common to go through situations similar to those mentioned, dealing with the insecurity of the person with whom we relate is tiring and can, in fact, hinder the future of the relationship. If you don’t want to continue facing an insecure boyfriend, try following the tips below, which can help to put an end to the problem.

1 – Praise

It’s not just women who like compliments to make themselves feel loved, men can’t even guess what you think about them if you don’t say so. Subtle compliments, such as “that shirt looks great on you” or “your hair looks great like that” make a huge difference in the guy’s self-esteem, who becomes more confident about his feelings towards him.

2 – Pay attention to the way you act

Okay, you had a life before you met your boyfriend and you shouldn’t give it up altogether, because you never know when a relationship will end, but be careful not to tarnish the shine of your relationship with your actions. Keeping your friends close is healthy and even necessary, but it won’t have a positive effect on your partner if you keep throwing yourself into the arms of the guys you hang out with or if you always leave him aside to go out with them. Measuring the kind of attitude you have is the key to reducing unnecessary stress.

Also, pay attention to the kind of comments he makes, both about him and the other men you hang out with. If you tend to praise others while “putting them down”, it is possible that this is a source of insecurity.

3 – Try to understand his story

If your partner has had relationships in which he was cheated on by his partner, he is likely to feel insecure in a new relationship. Talk to him about any negative experiences he may have had, demonstrating that you are different and will not act like your ex. Everyone has a past and the “ghosts” that remain get in the way – and a lot – of the present.

4 – Invest in communication

Open communication between the couple is the secret to solving 99% of the problems that a relationship can bring. If insecure, tell him he can talk to you about his woes and jealousy. Stay open to dialogue, to understand your partner’s motives and to be able to help him overcome the difficulties he has of trusting you. Believe me, as boring as a relationship discussion seems, in these cases it is still much better than putting up with your sullen boyfriend without even knowing what happened to make him so. Talk, talk and talk.