24 questions that will help you conquer the person you love

Did you know that you can ask certain questions to conquer love someone? After all, the best way to fall in love is to get to know yourself.

A psychologist proved this by having people who didn’t know each other ask each other 24 questions in 45 minutes. The results proved how people can build intimacy with almost anyone else if they want to.

In the summer of 1967, Arthur Aron, then a graduate student in psychology at the University of California at Berkeley, fell in love with his partner Elaine Spaulding.

“I fell deeply in love,” said Arthur, now a professor at the University of California at Berkeley and a research professor at Stony Brook University in New York. “Since I was studying social psychology, I just looked for love research for fun, but things ended up going a little further.”

Aron learned that the quality of our relationships is the biggest indicator of happiness, rather than wealth or success, and it’s a big indicator of health as well.

How can these questions help you win your love?

At first, the questions are quite harmless, but gradually they become more personal. Sharing values, like how you were raised, your life story, or how you feel about your relationship with your parents can create a certain level of intimacy between two people, even if they are complete strangers.

Intimacy involves sharing who we are as individuals and allowing ourselves to be somewhat vulnerable.

Arthur says that people who answer questions can help them fall in love. Part of falling in love is feeling connected, and discussing these issues can create that connection.

Keep scrolling and see the 24 questions couples asked themselves in Arthur’s experience. Why not try?

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1. If you could choose anyone in the world, who would you like to invite to dinner?

2. Would you like to be famous? If yes or no, why?

3. Before making an important call, do you rehearse what you are going to say? Because?

4. What would be a “perfect” day for you?

5. Have you ever sung a song to someone else?

6. If you could live to be 90 and maintain the mind or body of a 30-year-old, what would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret feeling about how you’re going to die?

8. Name three things you and your best friend seem to have in common.

9. What are you most grateful for in your life?

10. If you could change one thing about your personality, what would you change?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having acquired some skill you don’t already have, what would you wish for?

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13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it yet?

15. What has been the biggest achievement of your life so far?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most precious memory?

18. And the most frustrating?

19. If you knew that in a year you would suddenly die, would you change anything about the way you are living now? Because?

20. What does love mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternatively, share something that you consider to be a positive trait of your partner. Share a total of five things.

23. How close and warm is your family? Did you have a happy childhood? Because?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your parents?

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