12 Truths We Don’t Want to Accept (Until Life Shows Us)

When we are children they always treat us with great affection. However, when we least expect it, our childhood ends and we need to face the harsh reality. In adulthood, other rules appear and no one touches our head anymore or keeps talking about how wonderful we are after performing good deeds. In addition, we come to realize that we are just one person among many, and in the end, we are all the same.

The Incredible.club gathered some truths that sooner or later we must all learn about the harsh reality.

Have you ever heard the phrase “I do everything for you and I get nothing in return”? In general, those who say this usually receive a nice answer from a cold shower in the form of “And who asked you to do it?”

Let’s be honest: our sacrifices are not necessary for the people around us to like us. Often, people are bothered by some problem they have, no matter what we do. The exception is a codependent behavior in which two people take pleasure in this dynamic.

They say that the donkey is the one who works the most on the farm and never becomes a boss. Sooner or later, you’re going to face an unpleasant truth: your bosses and colleagues will understand that you can push yourself to do any kind of work. When your health is badly damaged by a heavy workload, they will be sitting in front of social networks or chatting over coffee. Or did you expect the bosses to congratulate you on your beautiful work, like kindergarten teachers did?

Little care with personal hygiene turns a person into someone unpleasant and not someone who is free and positive with their own body. This happens through a relationship of respect towards others and the acceptance of one’s own and other people’s appearance.

Behind statements like “I love my extra pounds”, in general, laziness and unwillingness to exercise are hidden, that is, an irresponsible attitude towards their own health.

You can talk all you want about the richness of your inner world and the beauty of your soul, but the way people look at you does influence the way they treat you. In job interviews, not only professional skills are valued, but also the candidate’s appearance and ability to communicate well with other people.

At work, people don’t have to treat you well because you have pretty eyes, you have three kids, a mortgage, and a lot of bills to pay. First, bosses are always interested in results. If you don’t bring benefits to the organization, be sure that sooner or later another employee will appear with more energy, much more efficient.

As time passes, we stop taking our parents’ words and actions as absolute truth. Childish enthusiasm gives way to the understanding that our parents are normal people, like the rest of us. They have flaws, habits that aren’t necessarily pleasant, and their judgment isn’t always smart or correct. Also, they may have made a lot of mistakes when they were young. It’s sad, but at some point children understand that their parents are not superheroes.

Modern technologies develop so quickly that perhaps in 10 or 15 years your profession will no longer exist. This means that you must always be prepared to master new roles. Furthermore, it is always important to become professional in order to become a unique ‘piece’, that is, an expert in what he does – and therefore indispensable.

Making an offended face so that everyone comes running to you is a strategy that only works in kindergarten. In adulthood, no one is interested in running after anyone. Sooner or later you will find yourself in a situation of total oblivion. Also, people will start to think that you are not interested in them.

It makes no sense to draw your desires and visualize dreams as a beach house full of coconut trees and luxury cars. All these things stop working the moment you start working actively. Furthermore, these ‘visualizations’ that are proposed in courses are dangerous because in general they teach us to manipulate other people.

Many men who take courses on how to conquer a woman go on to collect love victories, but at the same time the feeling of loneliness remains the same.

Did you do a beautiful manicure and your colleagues didn’t say anything? Spent half your paycheck on a new suit and get no compliments? Maybe you should stop to think about when was the last time you were glad that someone you knew bought something new. But calm down, we have good news: few people will notice a torn sock. Of course, you don’t have to put on a show and draw attention to her.

In reality, this is very simple. The only person responsible for your actions is you. If you don’t know English, you haven’t made the effort to learn it. If your boss yells, you’ve allowed it. It’s nobody’s fault if you didn’t finish college or if you didn’t take the risk and move to another city to get married. Accept that you are in charge of your life, for the good things and for the bad things.

The most painful blow to self-esteem is when we understand that in this world there are people ‘better’ than us. Yes, we can flirt and try to look eternally young, but wrinkles appear and our bodies change, that’s natural. Men struggle to hide their baldness and belly and women do their best to keep their skin youthful.

The only thing left for us to do is accept that we are who we are. And yes, young or old, we are all special. After all, we all like to be who we are, don’t we?

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