Throughout life, we go through moments when our behavior in the face of various aspects must be analyzed. These questions are part of our nature and especially, of our journey in search of happiness. Nobody wants to be dragged through life and lose control of what they are or what they prioritize. Therefore, some questions are important so that we know exactly if we are following the path we intended.
This is a process of improvement, which comes along with maturation. Whether our choices are right or wrong, they serve to teach us for the next occasion. One of the good things about life is that it can always be started over. But getting right on certain important issues can help to make your path more efficient and with less possibility of unpleasant surprises.
Female questions throughout life are infinite. The first step is to be able to reason calmly and intelligently. Emotional and rational must be balanced, without ever just deciding alone. See, below, twelve of the biggest questions that accompany contemporary women and that are essential for self-knowledge.
1. Am I following a path that makes me happy?
One way or another, everyone knows more or less what they like in life. If you like to have friends, to live in nature or in the city, to be successful at work… It happens that during our walk we can get lost or follow directions that are not quite what we intended. This is common in the rush and everyday obligations.
That’s why it’s important sometimes to stop and reflect on how much we are deciding about our lives in contrast to how much we are letting events decide for us.
2. Am I a person who makes a difference in my community?
Living in society, each individual has his rights and duties, which defines him as a true citizen. And citizenship is much more than just paying the bills and respecting traffic laws. Everyone’s participation in encouraging good things for their community is extremely important for everyone’s quality of life.
Participating in the issues of your street, building or neighborhood and supporting ecological movements, such as selective collection among other beneficial issues, will make you a dear and protected person, as well as someone who inspires good attitudes.
3. Do I return the kindnesses I receive?
We are often so busy with other issues that we don’t notice the kind moves we receive. When a person is polite, he expects a reciprocal attitude and this response can be decisive for the maintenance of the other’s good behavior.
That is why we must always repay the kindness and help we receive, as a form of gratitude and the creation of a cycle of collaboration. Have you given the attention you should to the good deeds you receive?
4. Do I want to have children or not?
We live in a time when such questioning is possible and very common. With the advancement of medicine and the greater interest of women in matters beyond the family, we can have the freedom to choose whether or not we want to be mothers. Even though this is still the most common dream among women, many have preferred to dedicate themselves to other matters before planning motherhood.
According to the psychologist Pâmela Magalhães, although there is still strong cultural and social pressure that women should form a home and family with children, female behavior in the face of this questioning has been changing: “Not few women have been prioritizing other aspects of life. life, allowing herself to decline the role of mother or even to postpone motherhood until a more opportune moment, respecting another priority”.
5. Do I take care of my body as I should?
Whether you are young or mature, the body always needs some attention. It’s not about being pretty or slender, it’s about your health. Age is relentless, we will grow old and the best we can do is prepare for it. Healthy eating, a minimum of physical exercise and a peaceful heart are enough to keep the body normally healthy.
The problem is that with the daily rush we end up leaving these important factors for later, and sometimes never again. Are you satisfied with the way you take care of your body? The time for that change is now!
6. Am I in the profession I like?
From a very early age, when we finish basic studies, or rather, out of necessity, the pressure to choose which career to pursue begins. The demand coming from all sides, in addition to our own doubts, can make the choice difficult and cause confusion in the face of so many options.
It often happens that we enter an area that is not of our interest or that we keep a job for stability. Despite all the security that a profession gives, following a path that does not satisfy is also not a pleasant situation and can influence all your satisfaction and self-esteem. Try to analyze the pros and cons of staying in the profession you are following and find the courage to achieve your goals.
7. Am I who I wanted to be?
We all know how to point out the qualities we admire in others, as well as the flaws we loathe. But and you? Does it have those attributes that you so much want to see in the world? It is very common to charge others, but we rarely stop to analyze our own behavior. Inwardly we believe ourselves to be good people, but for others, attitudes are necessary to demonstrate their qualities.
8. Do I own up to my mistakes?
Self-criticism is an indispensable factor for evolution. We know that no one is perfect, so how to improve without knowing the weaknesses to be corrected? Not only once, but many times in life we must think about how we are dealing with the consequences of our actions. It is not uncommon for some people to insist on attributing their blame to others. Taking on slips is the easiest way to achieve personal growth.
9. Is this the right man for me?
There are people who throw themselves into relationships without thinking much or planning in any way. But there are times when this analysis is necessary, whether for the purpose of having children or living together, for example. Moments of neediness can also influence us to take on relationships that are not quite what we wanted. A passive posture at this point can end up depressing you in addition to keeping you closed to new options.
“Rare are the women who do not dream of a wedding with a veil and a wreath, and they still dream of that man who will really be the great passion of their life! As much as times change and modernity takes over, women still carry that persistent doubt”, comments the psychologist who specializes in relationships, Pamela Magalhães.
10. Do I pay enough attention to my friends and relatives?
Because they are always there by our side, family members and closest relatives can end up being left a little on the sidelines. This is what can happen when we are sure that they will always be there, which gives us the security that we will never lose them.
11. Is it time to build a family?
We are still a long way from separating the woman from the family. Like it or not, tradition tells us to dream of a wedding, children and a white picket fence. There are those who really yearn for it, which is not wrong. The problem is when we suffer pressure in this direction without being sure if this is what we really want for our life.
This is also a very common question for those who are already in their 30s, as it is a very representative time of passage from youth to adulthood.
12. Am I open to life?
Are you open to the infinite possibilities that life offers you? From opening your heart to a love, meeting new people to accepting invitations to events, trips, challenging jobs. A proven fact is that the more we say ‘yes’ to life, the more it returns to us with wonderful emotions.
If you are one of those who never accepts invitations, whether in the name of comfort, laziness or stress, analyze if you are not letting life go out the window, leaving everything for later. Take advantage of the short time we have on this planet and enjoy everything that is possible to know. Allowing yourself to live the nuances and adventures of life will certainly make you happier and more optimistic.
Thinking about yourself is the best way to be a better and happier person. Try answering the questions above and you will probably be pleasantly surprised about yourself and the direction your life is taking.