10 Stories of Modern Women Who Decided Not to Marry

It is believed that all girls dream of finding their prince, getting married and living happily ever after like in fairy tales. However, today, fewer and fewer women are looking to take that big step in their relationship. For example, in Europe, from 1965 to 2015 the number of marriages per thousand people decreased from 7.8% to 4.3%.

This trend is also observed in the rest of the world. Each year, the number of single women, many of them living with their partners under the same roof, is increasing.

O awesome.club decided to find out why modern women are not in a hurry or, in general, do not want to get married. Our team also consulted well-known single women for their stories and opinions. Follow below:

My partner and I have lived together for just over 15 years. We met when I was 28 and he was 30, and this was our first serious relationship. Neither of them wants to have children; we love dogs, we have no religious differences, we choose the same movies and in restaurants we order the same dishes. When we’re asked why we haven’t officially formalized our relationship, we simply answer, “What for?”

We believe that the marriage certificate will not make us happier and will not signify a new level in our relationship. All these years we lived in rented houses, we recently bought an apartment and that means much more than a signature on the marriage certificate.

Theresa, 44 years old.

I’m one of those people known in society as a “super-prepared professional”, although I don’t consider myself so competent. I can’t say that I have a very high position, but my work requires a lot of dedication and consumes a lot of time; however, this is something that doesn’t stop me from really loving him. I have a companion that I meet up with on the weekends (since he’s just as much a workaholic as I am) and we’re satisfied.

Also, I am sure that a family must have children, but I do not consider the family to be a mandatory condition for happiness. If I got married, I would have to quit my job and dedicate myself completely to my family for a few years. But I’m not ready for that yet, as it would cancel out all my achievements at work and now I have a real prospect to get a high position in a few years. Will I ever get married? I don’t know. If it doesn’t hurt my career, I don’t rule out the possibility.

Adriana, 30 years old

Everything is simple for me: I want to be free. Do what I want, go where I want, be friends with whoever I want and not account for my actions to anyone. My mother says that when I am old enough, it will be difficult to be alone, but my father supports me: he believes that a person should live as he wants if it does not affect others. As for the future, I prefer to live each day and not think about what will happen tomorrow, because in the last 10 years I have managed to live in five different cities and I am not sure that in a month I will continue where I am now. the work of freelancer allow it. It may seem to others that I’m immature and fickle, but I’m happy. And that’s the most important thing!

Mary, 31 years old.

I was married once. It was when I was 20 and it was because all my friends did the same and I thought if I didn’t follow in the same footsteps at that moment I would end up a spinster. We had a completely normal relationship, each loved each other in their own way and we didn’t even fight. When we argued, it was only over trifles. Until one day he confessed that he had met a girl at work and that he was completely in love. Without thinking twice, I agreed to the divorce.

As time went on, I met a guy I live with now; he asked me to marry him a few months after we met (I think he did it just to show his serious intentions), but I declined and proposed that we first live together. I believe that somewhere, on a subconscious level, I am afraid that a future marriage might end up like the first. That’s why I’m in no rush to go to the registry office, even though we’ve lived together for four years.

Hope, 28 years old

Several years ago I was about to get married: we delivered all the documents and there were three weeks to go to the civil registry office. That day I had to pick up my wedding dress from the tailor shop, but when I woke up I realized that I didn’t want to get married. This thought literally stunned me, and for three hours I sat on the edge of the bed in the same position, not thinking about anything; only that I didn’t want to become anyone’s wife. The phone calls from my mother, who was waiting for me with the seamstress, were the only things that got me out of this stupor. I asked her to take the dress and do what she thought was best with it, but not to show it to me. So I called my fiancé and told him everything. The next day I simply went to another city.

Since then I’ve been in that same city, living here for over 12 years. I’m not married, I don’t have a boyfriend, two years ago I adopted a three-year-old boy, after overcoming many obstacles. And we are both very happy.

Nadia, 38 years old

I am 61 years old and have never been married. No, I don’t hate men, I’ve had several relationships and I have a son. They’ve even asked me to marry them three times, but I’ve always refused. Because? Because I’ve always valued my freedom and the right to live as I want. During my younger years, getting married meant becoming a complement to the husband, and I had many examples of this before my eyes, particularly my parents. I have my own apartment, a wide variety of hobbies that I share with my son, and I’ve always felt self-sufficient.

My son lives independently and my acquaintances often ask me, “What is it like to be alone at such an advanced age?” But I don’t feel like I lack anything: I have a job I love, hobbies, friends and I don’t think I would be very happy married.

Olivia, 61 years old

During my 20s and 30s, I wanted to get married; however, I didn’t find what would be considered a suitable person and I definitely didn’t want to marry the first one who came my way. Coincidentally, my career took off in my 30s and I didn’t have time for anything other than work. Now I’m almost 40 years old, I have my own property and investments that give me income. I can’t imagine sharing everything I’ve worked so hard for with anyone or paying off someone else’s debts. In a few years, I plan on giving birth to a child, and if I don’t, I will adopt one.

Cecilia, 39 years old

As long as I can remember, I never wanted to get married. When all my friends of the same age were walking their dolls in the strollers and inventing a husband, I would build LEGO cities, read my brother’s astronomy books, and sometimes tried to destroy the apartment with the help of my “chemical kit for children”. While I’ve mostly made friends with boys, I’m pretty sure I’m not what’s commonly known as a “kid” and I’ve never wondered if I’m a girl or a boy. I just do what I like.

I left high school with an honorable mention, finished university and got my master’s degree; I am now doing a PhD in chemistry. Until today I have not felt like getting married and I intend to dedicate my life to scientific research and, who knows, one day to obtain a Nobel Prize.

Mariana, 27 years old

I don’t want to get married, because I don’t want to have children. Of course, I could find a man with the same vision, only it’s not so easy. I have friends who also don’t want to have children and it seems they’ve managed to find like-minded men. However, after marriage, guys start saying it wouldn’t be a bad idea to have a child and women sometimes end up giving in to pressure.

My decision not to have children is conscious and impulsive, I am convinced of that. Nowadays, it seems to me that contemporary men are more interested in having children than women.

Isabella, 32 years old

I consider the institution of marriage to be obsolete and it’s time to put that in the past. For me, marriage is firmly linked to oppression, perhaps because I grew up in a country where women are always in the background. I can’t imagine being subjected to someone and practically ceasing to be an individual. Although today I live in a society where equality reigns, at work and in the social sphere, I often come across women placed in the background in their families. My boyfriend and I live apart, and when we go to the movies or the restaurant, we each pay our bill. For me, there is nothing worse and scarier than depending on someone else. So wherever I am, I try to avoid that.

Daniela, 31 years old

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