10 Reasons You Keep Attracting Toxic Partners Into Your Life

I’m sure most of us have been in a toxic relationship that left us confused and wondering what the heck happened and how we got involved in a situation like this.

Well, if these 10 things below apply to you, then your behavior is probably drawing toxic people to you without you even realizing it.

1. You are very kind and understanding

You are always understanding and agreeing with everything. You are very kind, caring and compassionate. Perhaps you are someone who tends to justify toxic behavior by making excuses for it. Therefore, you may find yourself saying things like “Oh, he/she is so busy” or “He/she has been hurt a lot in the past and that is why he/she behaves like this”. This makes you a perfect target for a toxic person who will use you and take advantage of your empathic nature.

2. You are always ready to help

You are the type of person who likes to help people. Especially the toxic ones. You are used to always being there for people, no matter how unpleasant they are. You say things like, “If it weren’t for this… things would be better between us.” The problem here is that toxic people rarely (if ever) change. They always expect you to invest more in the relationship and do what they want.

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3. You give the benefit of the doubt

You always try to see the good in people. You’re adept at finding good traits even in toxic people (or at least you want to believe they have those traits). You give everyone the benefit of the doubt, even when these people catch you lying to your face.

4. You are not valuing yourself

You don’t love yourself enough and don’t have much confidence in yourself, which makes you the perfect prey to attract a toxic partner into your life. You have low standards that make you put up with this wrong behavior and that is the ultimate goal of a toxic person – to have someone who will put up with everything and not say a word.

5. You are a hope for change

You are a decent, quality person who leads a healthy, quality life. This is something that attracts toxic people, especially those who are aware of their bad habits and want to change them. They think their good nature will make them a respectable person, or that’s what they want.

6. You are a great listener

If there’s one thing toxic people like to do, it’s talk about themselves. They can talk about themselves for hours. That’s why they’re so drawn to great listeners like you. People who are willing to give them the time of day and really listen to their pride.

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7. You have no healthy boundaries

You are always giving yourself to other people and you have become their martyr. You live taking on everyone else’s drama and problems and offer help while neglecting your own needs. This is also what is making it easier for toxic people to come to you. Your lack of boundaries makes these people take advantage of you.

8. You are very calm and carefree

You’re the kind of person who doesn’t want to pressure others or demand anything from them. You feel that if you put pressure on the relationship, you will lose your partner. So you take a relaxed approach and let him/her take charge of everything. You go with the flow and tend to turn a blind eye to situations where a toxic person is pushing their limits.

9. You stay in bad situations longer than necessary

A toxic person usually does their homework when it comes to figuring out how much frog you can swallow until you decide to walk out of your life. They will test your limits, and if they discover that you are not capable of letting go of a bad situation and cut ties with people who treat you badly, they will use this information to their advantage.

10. You’ve given up on love

Toxic people don’t want to be with a partner who has a healthy approach to love, because they know the individual will quickly cut their way through and waste no time with them. They are very smart when choosing their victims and they usually choose those who seem to have given up on love completely and are in a frustrated stage of life.

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