10 Reasons We Have Fewer Friends

It often crosses our minds where the people who were once part of our lives and whom we loved very much walk. Some of these relationships don’t stand the test of time, others slip silently and imperceptibly out of our lives, and most get lost little by little in their own routine.

O Incredible. club decided to raise the question that many face. Why is it that as we get older, we have fewer friends and it becomes more difficult to meet new people? Don’t worry; even if the post looks a little sad, in the end you will get an inspiring bonus showing that eternal friendship still exists.

How does this happen? When you’re young, it’s easier to maintain friendships, if only because you’re connected geographically. They go to the same school, live side by side, it’s hard not to cross paths with sports or an art course. But growing up is an unavoidable stage of life and often it is necessary to move house, city or even country. At first it seems that nothing has changed and there is the possibility of communicating from a distance, but the connection constantly wears out whether we like it or not.

Who will you lose? The first experience of separation will take away the people you liked and were connected to in recent years: acquaintances, friends and all those you had contact with in your youth or hobbies in common. But after a while, you may find that you interacted with some people just because they saw each other five times a week.

How does this happen? In childhood, friendship is involuntary: you don’t think about the benefits. You feel good with the friends that are within your reach and this is reciprocal. With age comes experience, which shapes our outlook on life and attitude towards other people. Then we begin to better understand who is close to us. Instead of random encounters on the street, on the playground or at school, there are nights out at a nearby bar. But when your old friend talks about his life, you may start to notice that your paths are heading in the opposite direction.

Who will you lose? At this stage, all the people who once crossed your life in very different circumstances end up being “eliminated”. You begin to understand that they would never have become friends if you had met them now. You’ve changed, grown up, and now you don’t like the same things anymore. Sometimes it happens, but don’t regret anything. Studies say that friendship in adolescence has a big impact on a person’s mental health. If you’ve had a close, emotional relationship with someone, that friendship has protected you from anxiety, depression, and increased your self-esteem.

How does this happen? Basically, what does an adult do for a living? He works and dedicates himself to his family. So if you’ve managed to build a home but haven’t developed your friendships, it will be very difficult to maintain them. In fact, marriage is the most joyous and dramatic event in life. The closest friends are invited and, in general, in this celebration, the end of the relationship with them is announced in secret. In post-marriage life, your friends turn out to be your co-workers as well as the parents of your child’s friends.

Who will you lose? All those you managed to gather during your single life. It usually ends like this: old friends promise to meet, but constantly put off the date, and even a meeting once a year can be a burden. Precisely on that day, family responsibilities can arise that overwhelm the gathering of friends. Singles right now don’t really know how to behave either. On the one hand, they want to see their old friend, but on the other hand, there are no new experiences that can be shared. Interests are no longer the same and friendship is a story that only exists in the memories of both.

How does this happen? You go to the supermarket on the weekend and one of these days you run into your friend who was very close before, but lately hasn’t been able to find any possibility to get together with him. You greet him, tell him a few unimportant things, and the two return to their business. There will only be a strange heartbreak. You don’t spend much time with each other anymore and it is now unclear if you are still as close as before or not. Doubts begin to arise, because they are afraid to express their emotions as before. Conversations become abstract and the two drift further and further away from each other. The conversation ends with a “we need to arrange to meet one of these days, huh?”.

Who will you lose? The people you spent most of your time with in the recent past.

How does this happen? Young people have no trouble making new friends. The first job, the first steps in professional life, can completely absorb you, especially if the company is making a big effort to raise corporate spirit. At this point, it’s hard to tell when you’re exchanging old bonds for new ones.

Who will you lose? People who don’t fit into your new social circle. The different paths of life turn close friends into strangers.

How does this happen? Everyone has experienced this situation: someone brings their friends to an already formed group. Everyone has fun together, shares funny stories, but if they are left alone without a person to connect them, then immediately everyone loses the ability to communicate.

Who will you lose? People you know but don’t feel much affection for. A kind of extra, which before was just a background in the communication between you and your friend.

How does this happen? Your friends are used to you being the soul of the party or, conversely, a melancholy, dreamy person. However, people tend to change. For example, his good mood suddenly gave way to philosophical reflections, but no one noticed his change. And you, in turn, suffer from a lack of understanding and begin to build an invisible wall and distance yourself from your friends.

Who will you lose? The friends who for years haven’t been able to see your hidden side and accept you for who you really are. And when you decided to open up, they didn’t accept you that way.

How does this happen? If you gather your admirers as friends, in the end they will abandon you and switch their interest and attention to someone else. Therefore, you will find yourself in the shoes of your admirers. You are used to attracting attention and now you will have to fight for it. And in most cases, you won’t.

Who will you lose? Those people who fed your ego.

How does this happen? One of the friends often plays the role of a psychotherapist, while the other constantly uses his “services”. Over time, people begin to feel used because relationships are not reciprocal.

There’s a good test to see who is “the main one” in a friendship: find out who determines the mood. For example, friends meet and one is in a good mood and the other is not. After a while, the two are in the same frame of mind. In these relationships, the person whose mood “won” (the bad mood or the good mood) has more authority.

Who will you lose? A friend who has always been a leader and whom you have looked up to all this time. And if at times you feel that you have few real friends, then know that you are right. Studies confirm that half of the people we consider friends are actually not.

How does this happen? Over the years, you often find that fewer and fewer new friends appear. New friendships are formal, and with sadness you remember times when you could play with your closest friends. It used to be easier to open up to someone else, and now you’re tired of telling the same thing to every new acquaintance. Therefore, he prefers to do this on social media and sometimes looks at the pages of his old friends.

Who will you lose? New acquaintances don’t develop into a strong bond, so disappearing from your life won’t cause too many feelings.

Five friends take pictures every five years in the same place, to see how they’ve changed over time. But the years have left no mark on their friendship, which has now spanned more than three decades.

Studies show that friends are important for a healthy and happy life. Friendships in old age play an even more important role than family. The quality of these relationships is also important. These should support you and give you positive emotions.

Friendship can last over the years. For starters, decide who you should say goodbye to now and what kind of relationship can’t be resumed. As for those you have decided to keep in your life, it is necessary to maintain a certain degree of closeness. If you’re far from each other, use as much communication as possible: texting, email, social media, whatever you can.

True friendship lasts a long time and deserves special attention. Enjoy this post and get in touch with your real friends.