Anyone who has read half a dozen of my texts knows that I am probably the most passionate person in the world. Maybe Jorge and Mateus will beat me, it’s true, but I must be in contention for third place alongside Adele, Michael Bublé and Roberto Carlos. The race is tough, I know, but I think I beat Bruno Mars, Xororó and even Pablo easily.

Jokes aside, I admit that I’ve always been kind of inconsequential when it comes to feelings. I was never one to shield myself, retreat or hesitate. I like the delivery and I confess that sometimes I avoid thinking. I like flirts, crushes and great loves and I give myself equally to all of them. I think life gets better with emotion. I surrender myself. No fears. No fear.

That’s my essence, there’s no way around it, but I have to admit that all this delivery has already cost me a lot of setbacks. I’ve cried as much as I smile and as there are certain lessons that only pain teaches, I think at least one thing I learned: I learned that I can really surrender. I can give myself up because if it hurts or hurts, with a little effort and common sense, it’ll pass. I just need to try.

Disappointments are natural in anyone’s love life. Disappointments and disagreements are part of the natural cycle of life and I would venture to say that they are an important step in our evolution as human beings. What is harmful is to insist on the error even after it is wide open. “Shit happens”, but no one dies of love, as the sayings would say. Yes, the two thus crossed.

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What I mean is that there is no such thing as disillusionment insurance. Indulging in passions also means taking the risk of suffering and disappointment. This happens in everyone’s life; it’s almost impossible to avoid. The only thing that doesn’t make sense is to stop using reason after the disappointment has already happened. It makes no sense to insist on suffering. This is toxic and we need to and can avoid it.

We have every right to be visceral, it’s true, but we need to be aware that the reality is that nobody needs anybody; much less from someone who doesn’t do well. I say this because I observe people who are disappointed and suffer for someone, but insist on feeding on memories of the person as if by magic, alone, the pain would pass.

Overcoming requires commitment. To overcome a pain it is necessary to dive into it, it is true, but to emerge and finally breathe it is essential that we have the courage to walk away. It’s no use wanting to forget someone, but keep insisting on seeing, following and monitoring. Overcoming requires distance, whether physical, emotional or virtual.

So if you have to, block, delete and move away. Understand once and for all that it’s no use being wrong. You are the protagonist of your happiness. You have to work hard to overcome it.