Dependence outsources personal fulfillment.

How to let go of a hero? How to take back the reins of your homeland, and save it yourself? How to remove the pedestal that we unconsciously put on our examples of perfect humans, and return them to the ground we stand on?

What a painful task it is to deconstruct what our stubborn projections engineer daily. To see that, at the end of the day, we are all flawed, disposable and replaceable, with no exceptions. What a heartbreaking task it is to abandon the gaze of the “exception”, and shape our thoughts and feelings to have imperfection as an intransgressible law.

This heavy feeling is normal, when we rediscover the burden of reaching our own paradise and fighting our own demons.

It is necessary to color with a neon highlighter the difference between Need and To depend. While the first demonstrates our humanity and fragility, putting us on an equal footing, dependency has as its main objective, to imprison. Prison, whether for the jailer or prisoner, remains a prison.

A relationship that is not at the service of enhancing talents and softening defects, but rather to feed the parasitic fears, which confuse freedom and independence with the so frightening loneliness.

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Dependence outsources personal fulfillment. It is a notarized deed, with the signature of three more witnesses, who grant the other the undeserved privilege of living, and modifying, our universe. As many times as it seems necessary, and when it seems necessary.

And we endure, breaks and remounts, constructions, reforms; in silence. Patients, blindly confident of being one or two steps away from the dreamed of perfection, which fits an external concept of perfection, which does not see and does not respect the limits of our structure, and continues to raise one floor on top of the other.

We remain resilient and confident that our heroes have the love and wisdom to shape who we should be and the day we should be. Confident that addiction, in some language, means “less worse than loneliness”

Deborah Anttuart