You need to learn to let go

Letting go is perhaps the most selfless act anyone can take in a relationship.

As with everything in this life, in love you also have to know when to stop. Letting go is perhaps the most selfless act anyone can take in a relationship. After all, what good is a presence that deep down wants to be absent?

If you get used to getting crumbs, that’s what you’ll have for the rest of your life. Crumbs don’t feed anyone. Demand more, deserve more. Fighting for the attention of someone who prefers not to see you is a mistake. If it’s to fight, let it be so you can see better, yourself and the world around you. So forget this story that what the eyes don’t see the heart doesn’t feel. This is just an excuse for people who like to close their eyes, believing that this way things will be easier.

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• Forgiving doesn’t mean having to live

People are not half oranges. Nor are they pot lids or any other bizarre metaphor that is used around. They are whole and the sooner you understand that, the sooner you will stop trying to “find yourself” in someone else. Projecting is one of the most common mistakes in relationships, because when the dream period passes, not always what is left of that projection is enough to continue.

No one is born a pair, a pair is made through everyday experiences, beers at the corner bar, bedtime stories, fights for banal reasons, postponed commitments, lies we choose not to tell and painful truths. It is in everyday life that the miracle of good will is present.

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• I’m not lost, I’m just enjoying the journey

And even after a pair is made, separation may be necessary. Nothing under the sun was made to last forever. People come, people go. Affections are renewed or destroyed like a straw house in the midst of a gale. It’s not just up to you, believe me.

It is necessary to make eternity fit in every minute and every hour that we are together with those we love. Say goodbye and keep the best that happened, the lessons learned, the new insults, the new books, the new bands, the new habits. It is in the small acts that the greatness of sharing your time with someone resides. So it makes no sense to wear yourself out when what you need is to understand that letting go is a greater act of love, for ourselves and for the other.

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• The End of Dating Isn’t the End of the World

Respect departure in the same way we appreciate arrival, that’s what we need.

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