You are such a complete person that you don’t deserve to be loved halfway.

We are not incomplete beings. We don’t need better halves to be happy. We are oranges, lemons, peaches and countless other fruits rolling around the world at our leisure.

Sometimes we have the good fortune of finding another fruit that rolls at the same pace as us. Then, we begin to take walks together, walks that can last a lifetime or be over in an instant. A peach can combine perfectly with an orange If both are willing to make a life together and they are capable of respecting their differences and their similarities.

“If you love me, love me whole,
Not for areas of light or shadow.
If you love me, love me black.
And white. And gray, and green, and blonde,
And brunette.
Love me day.
Love me night.
And early morning at the open window!

If you love me, don’t cut me off:
Love me all… or don’t love me!

-Sweet María Loynaz-

Love and respect go hand in hand

The great deception of the better half and of Disney loves subdues us to such an extent that We end up seeing those half-hearted loves as normal. To settle for this type of love is to condemn ourselves to loneliness…

When the half measures, the “Now yes, now no” or the “Maybe tomorrow I’ll be interested” They establish themselves in our relationships, a bad outlook. That is to say, If you love, you love fully and giving everything that is healthy for us to give of ourselves, not halfway…

This is not only a question of principles, but also of respect and consideration for ourselves. It is neither fair nor healthy to give love without receiving, at least, something that makes us feel good.

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We agree that love should be selfless, but that doesn’t mean it should be foolish. That is to say, if you suffer because they give you one of lime and another of sand, it is time to think about abandoning the game and building a good castle.

“To wall off your own suffering is to risk having it devour you from the inside.”

-Frida Kahlo-

The love that we all deserve is a love in its fullness

It’s not that others have to adore every part of you or every quirk, but whoever truly loves you will not try to change or manipulate you. Every small gesture makes our being and our world something exceptional that deserves your consideration.

“You deserve a love that loves you disheveled, with everything and the reasons that wake you up in a hurry, with everything and the demons that don’t let you sleep.

You deserve a love that makes you feel safe, that can take on the world if it walks hand in hand with you, that feels that your hugs go perfect with its skin.

You deserve a love who wants to dance with you, who visits paradise every time he looks into your eyes, and who never gets bored of reading your expressions.

You deserve a love that listens to you when you sing, that supports you in your ridiculousness, that respects that you are free, that accompanies you on your flight, that is not afraid of falling.

You deserve a love that takes away the lies, that brings you hope, coffee and poetry.”

-Frida Khalo-

We must let our companion love us as he wants and not as we wish, but always flying with the wings of freedom. This means that no one has the right to violate us or play with us.

In this sense, we cannot let ourselves be carried away by our needs or our conception of ideal love, but rather we have to establish the foundations of respect, acceptance and reciprocity.

We don’t deserve to be half loved. We deserve to be shown that they do it and, for that, it is essential to deactivate selfishness. Because, simply put, true love does not take advantage of anyone, not even a situation.