Why my ex hates me, if he broke up with me, 15 possible reasons

Why is my ex so mean to me? What have I done?

You may have wondered this if you are reading this article.

Exes can be muddy ground, especially if it’s difficult to deal with them, post-breakup.

For women it can be especially confusing, when they start behaving badly.

Even more so if they decided to break up with you. Instead of ending things well, they seem to have been seized by a sudden fit of hatred towards you.

Things between you two are over. So why is he acting that way?

It’s time to stop wondering what you did wrong.

Usually, you are not the problem.

He is the one who has some pending issue to resolve.

Let’s see 15 reasons why your ex hates you, if he broke up

1) He still has feelings for you

A big reason why your old partner is mean to you is because they still have feelings for you.

You may be thinking that this doesn’t make any sense. Even more so if he has ended the relationship.

But if you think about it carefully, it’s very common for guys to come up with feelings for someone, to whom you can no longer express your emotions.

Many times it happens that they want what they no longer have.

It can also happen that after a breakup, they realize what they have really lost.

He feels emotions he doesn’t want to feel, so he takes it out on you, because they think you’re the one to blame.

He could also be angry, because you moved on with your life and you are not reacting as he expected.

Maybe he left you waiting for you to ask him to please stay together, and since you haven’t, he gets angry.

This is when resentment is born.

Also, he may be angry with you, because his passion for you hasn’t gone away and he still feels a special connection to you.

Maybe all this makes you rethink if trying again might be a good option. Are there still unresolved issues between you and do you think you can resolve your differences?

If you decide to try again with your ex, the most important thing is that they do not repeat the same mistakes and repeat the same routine. That can only end as it began. Evil.

You have to make both of you forget all the bad things in the relationship and leave it behind. May he long for the good things they shared.

There is a new method created by Samantha Sanders where she teaches you to enter your ex’s subconscious to make him accept his mistakes.

Once you apply it, you will make him completely change his attitude and you can start creating a new relationship together.

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What you will achieve will not be repeating the same relationship they had, but creating a new, much stronger and deeper bond.

Here is the link to the video once again.

2) He is having a very bad time

He imagined that they would be together forever and had big plans in his mind.

He is angry because he feels betrayed by promises made in the past. Angry about everything that didn’t work.

Instead of telling you how bad he is having and his true feelings, he prefers to react by hating you.

You are using your anger to protect yourself from your sadness. She thinks it’s the best way to get over you and lessen her pain.

Think of it this way. He cut off the relationship with the person who was supposed to love him the most.

That hurts, regardless of whether he broke up or you dumped him.

He’s still attached to you and just doesn’t want to lose you.

The cause could also be due to a past trauma or the reason for the breakup.

If you hurt each other, you may not have gotten over your anger about what happened yet.

This explains why he’s still mean to you, even after your breakup.

3) Has serious psychological or emotional problems

I have experienced this situation firsthand. Despite having always had very healthy relationships, I have also run into some particular guy with whom we simply could not understand each other.

He may have been very sweet and loved you very much, but he just couldn’t live without conflict.

And then at the end of the relationship he kept thinking that it was all your fault and that you didn’t love him and that spite makes him treat you with hate.

This can be very frustrating because surely you also see his good side and want to end things well.

But sometimes you just have to accept that he needs to see you as the “bad guy”, the one to blame for everything. No matter how hard you try, this will not change.

You know what the truth is and what its limitations are. Don’t spend your energy trying to get him to see you in a good light. That does not depend on you but on him.

If you are lucky with time you will be able to see things more clearly.

4) They want to get your attention

He wants you back and you have decided to hit the “delete contact” button for good.

So your ex could be trying to get your attention by treating you badly, so that you will interact with him again.

He may think that the longer he stays in your life, the more you will reconsider getting back into a relationship with him.

For this, he is making himself noticed, through contempt, so as not to lose contact.

He could also be testing you, as responding to his behavior would show him that you still care about him.

He is analyzing what you do or how you feel, when you talk to him again.

Also, most likely I miss you.

He’s losing the attention you gave him, so he’ll do anything to get it back.

Even if it means being mean to you.

5) He has a hurt ego

Another reason your ex may be acting hateful is because you haven’t tried to get him back.

This has hurt his pride and he does not accept that it is you to go on with your life without him.

Your former partner treats you badly to preserve his self-respect and pride.

In this way he does not want to show what he really feels.

In addition, he may “blame” you that the relationship did not work out because of you and not because of the responsibility of both.

The reality is that a couple is built by two.

Don’t worry, this resentment will last for a while, but it will eventually go away.

If you’re lucky, he’ll find another partner and everything will be a thing of the past.

6) He is in the “anger” stage of grief

There is no exact order of how people should move on after a breakup.

Everyone has their own pace and ways to get over a breakup.

There is a concept called “the five stages of grief”.

This is used to label the different phases of recovery for someone who has been hurt.

Maybe your ex is mean to you, because he is in the “anger” stage of the cycle.

The five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

Although they don’t necessarily have to be experienced in that order, it is common to experience at least one at a time.

You can even go back and forth between the different phases.

Maybe your ex treats you so badly, because he is trapped in that cycle of resentment, due to the breakup.

Also, you may be angry with yourself.

Maybe because things didn’t work out and he left you. He thought you were the love of his life and he blames you for how bad everything went.

It is also possible that he is angry, because he has realized that he deserves more than one relationship.

The reality is that there can be many things that he can be angry about, and he expresses this through being mean towards you.

7) You have treated him badly

Have you treated your former partner badly during your relationship, either psychologically or physically?

So it’s perfectly normal for him to harbor resentment towards you.

Especially if the break is very recent.

Have you not respected him and have you definitely devalued him?

When there is no respect in the couple, the most natural response is usually rejection and hatred.

8) He envy you

Another reason why your old partner hates you is because he is envy and jealous to see you well.

He does not tolerate that you are happy with one or more areas of your life.

For example, you may find out that you have an excellent relationship with your new boyfriend and you didn’t.

Also to see that you are doing wonderfully well in your work and he is not, among other things.

This can happen even if it’s been a long time since your relationship ended.

9) He is jealous

If you are dating someone new, there is a high chance that your ex is mean to you, because he is jealous.

At the time, you two might have thought you’d be together forever. Now that you’re showing him that you’ve moved on, the flames of betrayal are being reignited in him.

He’ll also want to get over the person you’re dating, to show you that he was actually the better choice.

And if that doesn’t work, he has even more reason to get angry and mean to you.

10) Everything is very recent

The relationship has just ended.

All emotions are running high and you may feel depressed or confused. It is understandable that he treats you badly!

You must know that, even if he wants to return to your side, his pride will not let him; he will not call you to apologize.

On the contrary, he will choose to despise you.

It is clear that none of this justifies mistreatment.

If your former partner is crossing the line, it’s a good idea to walk away or stand up and set your limits.

11) He is pretending to have forgotten you

This is a classic tactic for forgetting about a girlfriend after a breakup. If he’s mean to you, he may be trying to show you that he’s over you.

The reality is that it has not.

He’s trying to avoid having any lingering feelings for you, when in truth he can’t stop thinking about it.

To make up for not being able to forget you, he’s acting like he’s angry.

He might even be mad at himself, because he knows he’s just pretending to get over you.

Stop for a moment to think about his feelings and you will understand.

Seeing someone you love walk away can be very hard, I’m sure it has been for you. And chances are if you’re here it’s because you’re wondering if you should get back together. So, if you really want him to come back, you’ll have to act smart.

When you live a break everything seems to collapse. And many times, by acting from the wrong place, we make mistakes that cannot be removed.

I’ve already mentioned relationship coach Samantha Sanderson. She has created a method through which she helps women get their ex-partners back.

In it he combines his years of experience in the field of love and develops intelligent techniques to activate the unconscious instincts of man. He gets them to see the mistakes they made and can work on creating a new relationship.

Here is the LINK to a short presentation of this method that will surprise you.

12) He is stressed about the breakup

There is also the possibility that you are not directly the reason why your ex treats you badly.

It is possible that he is simply stressed by the set of things to solve, that…