Why do men start a relationship without having forgotten the previous one?

Why is it so hard for us to let go? “It’s been six months since I broke up with my boyfriend of three years and I still can’t get over him. It’s ironic!… in the end we got along very badly. However, I must confess that I was shocked when I saw his status on Facebook: in a relationship.”

Was he supposed to be the love of his life? How many promises, dedicated songs, sleepless nights and now…. With other! Why did you forget me so quickly?

For all the ActitudFEM users who still cannot understand why many men change the page so quickly, we share some of the reasons:

Ego

If the woman ended the relationship, the man will feel damaged in his masculine ego. He will seek to recover his virility through feeling desired by rapid female courtship. So if you ended the relationship don’t be surprised if he immediately tries to show off and inflate his ego through multiple conquests.

Left hemisphere

Many times ending a relationship is seen as a failure. Man tends to avoid feeling “crushed and a failure.” It is known that the part that predominates in his brain is the left frontal region dedicated to problem solving. They don’t waste time looking at details and wondering, why? How?, but rather quickly turning around what happened.

Me first than my ex

Something that your ex will avoid at all costs is him seeing you with someone else. As they say, if a woman finds someone, it is her because she has already forgotten him. So to try not to be hurt in his pride he will surely immediately have a partner.

Avoid sadness

Much has been said that sadness and depression are feminine evils. You grow up with the idea that children don’t cry. This conception has led to men hiding behind a mask of hostility or evasion of their feelings.

When the man breaks up, the first thing he will do is talk to some friends and go get some chelas. The woman will stay in her room crying and listening to music that reminds her of him.

They forget faster

Albert Einstein said “Never keep in your head what fits in your pocket.” Men tend to have software where they try to be practical, format, say blank and new partner. They tend to be more efficient and not get stuck in something that no longer has a solution.

Women store all kinds of memories in detail, this makes them process a breakup more slowly. The poet Neruda exclaimed “Love is so short and oblivion is so long.”

Fear to loneliness

When we don’t know where we want to direct our lives, or what our priorities are, we make decisions based on which ones are easier or faster.

To know where to direct our life, the first thing would be to know ourselves, understand what has led us to be this way and what we get from that. Don’t be afraid of loneliness and take advantage of ourselves.

fill a void

We live in a society that seeks pleasure and happiness above all. Normally we are very busy with our friends, looking to look good, the brands, the car of the year… We live in the moment, the here and now.

When a man ends a relationship he will not want to face what is really happening to him, what he wants and what he feels. He will know that losing his partner hurts, a lot. That will create a void that he will not be able to bear and he will want to fill it with something immediate and pleasurable.

Sexual Desire

Their high level of testosterone and their strong sexual desire make them seek sexual relations in an instinctive movement. This is why it is easier for men to have a sexual relationship without involving emotions.

If you want to delve deeper into this topic, Psychologist Helena Lebrija, specialist in emotional therapy and psychological guidance, gives consultations at:

London 75- 401 d Col. Juárez cp 06600, Méx. DF Tel. 55142689 Mail: helenlebrija@hotmail.com Twitter: @helenlebrija

Are you interested in seeking psychological help? Discover a guide to emotional well-being at www.ayudate.mx and find out how to achieve it.

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