Whoever doesn’t value you today, misses you tomorrow

Sometimes people flee without further explanation, leaving us devastated by a cruel and unexpected absence that turns our lives upside down. When this happens, we cannot imagine anything worse, more base and more selfish than the offense that has just been done to us. So, after containing the anger and rage at those who do not value you today, we begin to think that we do not deserve it and that it is unfair.

At the same time, a cloud full of sadness and reproach hangs over us, generating a darkness with which we sense that we will have to live for a good season. In that darkness we will know disappointment, disenchantment, deception and disbelief. However, when we fall into that abyss, it means that freedom is close, because if someone has left us that way, they do not deserve our company.

Disappointment is better than living in a lie

When someone who doesn’t value you today just leaves, there is something inside yourself that breaks. It is likely that we will not be able to know what has broken, but, nevertheless, it hurts us a lot.

Nevertheless, Disappointments are less painful if we manage to safeguard our integrity. For this reason, although replacing love of others with self-love is a hard process, the truth is that we will be exchanging an insufferable tyrant for a good friend.

As they say, he who swims does not drown, and if someone has drowned it is because they did not want to swim, because they were not up to our level or because their level of emotional maturity prevented them from seeing that there are millions of better ways to say goodbye or to make amends. things. In short, fleeing vilely is not the brave solution, but the cowardly, bitter, ungrateful one.

What to do when someone disappears from our life?

When someone leaves us in this way, we start an internal fight in which we debate between “waiting for them to come back with their tail between their legs” or “restarting our life and relearning to live with ourselves.” The latter entails endless difficulties that we have to overcome, since we do not know how to do it.

“When someone disappears from your life, you may never see that person again, or you may be able to tell them all the things you have left, that you would like to say to them. You take paper and pencil and write a letter. Which can be eternal or can be a word. You write it to that person who left, but no, you don’t send it, you fold it and put it near a flame and burn it. “The wind carries it away and that way the pain doesn’t stay so deep inside you.”

-Federico Moccia-

It is likely that, in these cases, we will have many things left to say. The pain, the reproaches and all our emotions cannot stay within ourselves, we must get them out somehow.even if it is imagining that we have that person in front of us, even if it is tearing papers or hitting cushions.

One of the best options is to write a letter to the person who hurt you in which you explain how they made you feel before and after they left. After doing this, it is best get rid of it, because doing so will be the best way of liberation.

Whoever doesn’t value you today, misses you tomorrow

After writing our letter and releasing our feelings and emotions, it is our turn to forgive. Giving wings to our suffering will be the only way to not make our body the tomb of our soul.

“When you hold your resentment toward another person, you are tied to that person or that situation, by an emotional bond that is stronger than steel. Forgiving is the only way to dissolve that bond and achieve freedom.”

-Catherine Ponder-

Because behind our courage, our rage and our anger at the flight of someone without scruples, hides great sadness, infinite humiliation and the most painful disappointment. Therefore, freeing ourselves from these feelings will mean for us to stop walking along the edge of an active volcano.

Whatever happens, what we must never forget is that every painful experience contains within it a great seed of growth and liberation. Whoever doesn’t value you today, misses you tomorrow, because many people don’t know what they had until they lose it.

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