Who hasn’t fallen for the conversation of a scoundrel? If it never fell, it will still fall or not!

The scoundrel is that guy who swears standing together that he doesn’t want to do you any harm, who even without knowing you just in text messages already shows so much affection and so much commitment to you, demonstrates an abnormal “SINGULARITY” of those who have never met in another, it even makes us really believe that he would be the Man of his life. “CAFA” knows how to make a woman delude herself, even those who, like me, swore they would never give morals to a guy like that.

About a month ago I came across a guy of this species, I met him through a social network, he was a charming man, well studied, leading a quiet life, who according to him was looking for a love for his life (lie), so needy and desolate, he had only been in town for a year, far from his family, without many friends… you know that guy who looks almost like Puss in Shrek’s boots (on top of that he had blue eyes lol).

Initially I was reluctant to meet him, you know that man of so many qualities that you are even afraid to meet, exactly, it must have been my sixth sense telling me to run like “run away bino is a trap”, but no, I was like Thomas, just seeing to believe it, so I agreed to go out with him, it was a wonderful dinner in a super elegant place, he was “perfect”, handsome, friendly, he was even talking about dating (it scared me how quickly, but I was enjoying it), how I I thought it was beautiful, those small talk and such, then we made out in the car and at the end of the night he took me home.

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I felt happy, the other day he sent me messages early in the morning and wanted to arrange another meeting, said he couldn’t wait to see it again, and I believed in everything (poor disney girl, believing in conversations of princes charming), spent the days saying that I really wanted to get to know myself better, that I no longer had other contacts, that I only thought about myself (and I all believed). So we set up a second date, a new dinner, and I felt more relaxed with him.

I talked more about myself, and him making (saying) “plans” for both of us, after so much time and believing I was already vaccinated from the bad relationships I already had, he made me think, “WOW I FOUND IT”. Wonderful dinner like the other, we went back to the car, then he came full of silly hands and wanting to go to the finally, making that boring proposal and go to a quieter place, that’s when I stopped and said to him; – hey, it’s not like that, I don’t want to have sex for the sake of it, I want it to be with feelings, I’m looking for something serious and not sex just for one night. He said he understood but still continued to make out, and I believed he was liking me (sweet illusion) and was respecting my opinion, so I asked him to leave me at home.

In the following days he spoke little to me, he changed the way he treated me almost ignoring me, I found it strange because even before I met him in person I made it very clear that I was looking for serious things for my life and I didn’t believe he was ignoring me because of what I said about sex, until one day he disappeared, literally GONE, without even saying goodbye.

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But you know, as upset as I was (I confess that I even cried with anger), I thought it was good, I don’t deserve someone who just wants sex, I didn’t want and I don’t even want to be just a sexual object, I could say it was another sad story in which a man used the confidence and body of a woman, but it wasn’t, I didn’t lose anything, I knew how to value myself until the last moment, I loved myself above all and falling under the charms of a “PERFECT” man, I was proud of myself, I know what what I want and who I want for my life.

Love yourself above all, respect yourself, know what you want, don’t be afraid to set goals, don’t be afraid to make clear what you want/seek, we all want to love and be loved, but at what price? Look for someone who respects you and has the same goals as you, don’t get carried away by good talk, remember, it’s you who have the power to allow people to use you or not.

PS: In the world there are 7 million people, I still find someone with the same goals as me!