When a man asks you for a hug, the 15 things that means

Who doesn’t like hugs?

Well, maybe someone who doesn’t want to connect with their emotions. There are many reasons to give yourself a big hug: when you want to celebrate an achievement, when you haven’t seen someone in a while, or simply to warmly say hello to a dear friend.

In addition, hugs have many health benefits. Did you know that we should give at least 8 hugs a day to be able to take advantage of them? Read on for all the benefits of hugging, and not because I think so, it’s proven by science.

But it can happen that a friend has asked you for a hug, just like that. And suddenly it seems a bit strange to you, you don’t know what it could mean.

Well, there are many reasons why men can ask for something like that or even go directly to seek that hug from you.

Let’s explore each and every one of those situations below.

The 15 Meanings Behind a Man Asking You for a Hug

1) He likes you!

A guy who hugs you or asks for a hug can mean many things. While most of them are for friendly reasons (see below), there’s always a chance he might like you.

So how do you know if that’s the reason?

• He hugs you around the waist. That way, when she leans back, she can look into your beautiful eyes.
• Another very special way to show affection is by hugging yourself from behind.
• When he clings to you, you feel him gently caress your back.
• You will also feel the intense pressure of the hug. He definitely likes you when he gives you a big bear hug!

Hugging frequency is another telltale sign. If he needs to be close to you all the time and hugs you every time he sees you, then clearly he can’t get away from you!

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2) He is sexually attracted to you

Depending on what you want, his hug, if you feel it has sexual content, could be a blessing or a complication. If you like adventure without limits, then you can take his invitation as a pass to set yourself free. But if you’re looking for a committed relationship or just a friendship, there’s nothing stopping you from putting a limit on it. You can always decline their invitation, politely of course. The key here is to be honest. Just tell him you’re not looking for that kind of bond. If he’s mature enough, he won’t take it the wrong way.

Maybe you love the boy. So one of those hugs that hold you tight so as not to let you go can melt you. You feel his strength and the desire for him. Hugs can also be passionate so if you like it, enjoy it.

3) He is greeting you

It can be surprising when a guy, especially one you’ve just met, gives you a hug. But before you assign him a romantic reason, you must understand that it may be his way of greeting you.

As the study by Forsell and Åström puts it:

“In the Western world…greeting behavior ranges from a nod to a colleague or acquaintances to a closer greeting consisting of a handshake with a hug (defined as enclosing and pressing the other’s body and sometimes kissing).”.

A big hug for our Latin American readers. This form of friendly greeting is what the authors describe as a “light hug.” It can be combined with kisses on the cheeks. There may or may not be a handshake involved. While hugs (with kisses) are usually reserved for close friends, some approach acquaintances in the same way. Yes, they will hug the people they have just been introduced to.

4) He is saying goodbye

Just as a hug is a way of saying hello, it can also be a man’s way of saying goodbye. Building on Forsell and Åström’s research, the authors go on to say:

“Hugs occur in such situations and are expressed in many social contexts, for example, when saying goodbye after parties.”

So if he hugged you when you arrived, safe to say, you might as well expect a goodbye hug from him!

5) He is happy

Whenever a guy initiates a hug, it’s crucial to study the environment. That way, you won’t jump to the wrong conclusions. First of all, do most people hug there?

For example, you might be at a graduation party where people are constantly hugging and shaking hands. If he asks for a hug or gives it directly to you, he probably thinks the situation calls for it.

And even if not everyone hugs, you should consider the particular situation. Are you in a sports bar and your team won? Hug you, along with some beers, can be their way of celebrating!

6) … or is sad

While most men hug other people for pure pleasure, some do it because they feel sad. Apart from the hug or some indirect request for affection, you will notice other signs of sadness. You may have a shaky or deep voice, or you may be crying if something serious happened.

Even if he doesn’t share what the problem is, a quick hug can make him feel better. After all, hugging can trigger a rush of “happy hormones,” like:

• Dopamine, a “feel good” hormone that can make you feel happy
• Serotonin, a hormone that improves mood by controlling feelings of loneliness.
• Oxytocin, a hormone that conveys warm, fuzzy comfort

7) He is a good friend

Men and women don’t always have to pursue romance, they can also be good friends. And for this friend of yours, hugging may be his way of being a good friend.

So how do you know it’s just a friendly hug? According to Forsell and Åström, it is something like

“a hug from the side, with arms around each other’s shoulders”.

And if he hugs you from the front, when he’s friendly, he may only use one hand. I might give you a quick pat on the back.

A “buddy” will keep your upper body close, but move their hips away from yours. He doesn’t want you to take him into his embrace as something romantic or sexual.

The length of the hug is also a dead giveaway. It is often very brief, unless you haven’t seen each other in a long time.

8) He is grateful

Maybe you had a small gesture that he longed for or you gave him just what he was needing. Maybe you gave him some advice that helped him get a new job. Whatever you’ve done, asking for a hug may be his way of saying thank you.

As Forsell and Åström put it:

“Extraordinary gratitude can elicit a handshake and hug from the recipient.”

Think of it this way: if a guy gave you something or did you a favor, you would hug him out of the blue too!

9) It is his way of congratulating you

Congratulations! You finally got the promotion you so deserve. To your surprise, an office mate walks up to you and hugs you out of the blue. Romantic? No. he is married. Also, it was very fast and he only used one hand. Nice? Maybe. But he is more of an acquaintance than a friend. You only talk to him when it comes to work matters.

If you have checked both premises, then there is only one possibility left: his hug is his way of congratulating you.

As psychologists Forsell and Åström explain:

“The congratulatory hug style…is based on the strength of emotions associated with the matter at hand.”

In other words, he’s happy for you and that you finally got what you deserve! He is a good friend.

10) It’s part of their culture (or psyche)

You may be used to men who shake your hand or greet you from afar as soon as they meet you. It’s understandable that it’s confusing when a guy hugs you without warning.

What you need to understand here is that hugging can be an integral part of their culture. Going back to Forsell and Åström’s study, some cultures embrace. This habit is often seen in Russian and French men, even when they interact with men. The same goes for Latinos and southern Europeans, who hug people as usual.

One other thing to keep in mind: You may have been raised in an environment where cuddling is the norm. So don’t be surprised if he hugs you, especially if he does it with a lot of people. It’s the way he’s brought up!

11) He wants to reassure you

You may be concerned about certain things. So if she asks you for a hug, and gives it to you with a little pat on the back, it could be her way of reassuring you.

Hugs are comforting, after all. According to a report, it’s a great way to show empathy. Think of it this way: His hug is more of a comforting pat on your shoulder. It is telling you: You can do it. You’ll be fine. Whatever your worries, his hug should make you feel better, even if it’s just for a while.

12) Wants to help you cope with a situation

Whether it’s your crush or a trusted friend, their hug can be their way of helping you cope. You could have a conflict with him or with another person. Or you could feel sad because a loved one has passed away. He knows that with a simple hug, he can help ease what you’re feeling. Of course, you are right to do so!

Research has shown that people who get hugs at least once a day feel better, even if they’ve faced a lot of problems. Those who didn’t, however, felt bad, until the next day.

Again, this is proof that hugging, a form of affectionate contact, can improve a person’s well-being. And while he may not say anything as he hugs you, his long hug is worth a thousand words.

13) You are trying to relieve your stress

A man who hugs you doesn’t always do it for you. He may be doing it himself too. As Forsell and Åström have stated in their study,

“A brief hug… greatly reduces the damaging physical effects of stress.”

The same study suggests that hugging can lead to:

• Elevated levels of oxytocin: This hormone helps you calm down, thus reducing your stress levels. It can also positively affect your mental and emotional health.
• Better norepinephrine levels: Bursts of this hormone can make you happy, even euphoric!
• Manageable cortisol levels: Cortisol helps regulate your blood pressure. That’s why people who hug (and get hugged) often have lower blood pressure.

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