What to Do When Your Partner Wants to Break Up But You Don’t?

The reasons for the birth of love between two people are many. Some of them we will never understand. Likewise, a relationship ends for various reasons, which, in part, we cannot fully understand. The tricky thing happens when one of you wants to break up, but the other doesn’t.

It’s a complex situation for both. Especially for those who don’t want to finish. However, don’t panic or start acting desperately. This is the first thing to do: stay calm. Do not speak and do not act on impulses.

You have to examine the reasons why the other person wanted the relationship to end. Make sure you are indeed in a final phase. And then make decisions and act. But let’s see this in more detail.

Did the relationship really end?

A healthy relationship doesn’t end out of nowhere. You should then start by classifying your relationship. Was there a commitment already established and accepted by both? Or was it an indefinite connection, which alternated signs of approach with gestures of distance? In the first case, it is worth examining what happened. In the second, better not to waste your time.

When a relationship ends, there are always signs that announce it. Basically, there are three aspects that define if the bond is strong, or if there are already signs that the love is over. These three signals are:

1. The appointment. It has to do with the willingness to share life with the other. It means time, interest, listening and availability. If one is not on the other’s side, if they are no longer sharing moments, or the other’s life does not generate interest, it is a sign that everything is ending.
2. The intimacy. It refers to mutual trust, communication and acceptance. When one of these aspects is broken, it is a sign that the relationship is coming to an end.
3. The passion. Passion means a healthy, satisfying sexuality for both of you. It also includes physical displays of affection. When this is not present, the relationship is in trouble.

If you examine your relationship and find that there are difficulties in all three aspects, the best option is to acknowledge the fact that it’s all over. As difficult as it may seem, it has reached a point of wear and tear that makes it very difficult to find solutions.

When only one wants to end

Sometimes it also happens that the relationship has problems, sometimes serious, but they also survive in many aspects. Despite this, one of the two wants to end it, while the other, objectively, sees that there are still possibilities to rethink things and move on. What to do in this situation?

in a relationship, there is nothing better than dialogue. Nothing replaces that. It may be, and often happens, that this is precisely the aspect that is missing. Communication has been broken, but love is still there. However, one of the two may be less tolerant of this situation and want to end it all.

Under these conditions, it is necessary to choose appropriate circumstances so that they can talk calmly and without pressure. Don’t try to solve everything at once, but rather, in the beginning, simply regain the ability to speak. A special dinner or a walk is a good time.

What if there’s nothing else to do?

Sometimes, although there is still love and even if all means of dialogue are sought, the other insists that he wants to end it. There’s nothing else to do. You can’t pressure him to see things differently. This creates distances and leads to unnecessary wear and tear for both.

The time has come for you to focus only on yourself. Do not blame yourself. Just worry about taking care of yourself and doing the things you love most. Invest in the friendships you forgot, change your routine. The love of your life will come again.

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Translated from lamenteesmaravilhosa.com