What happens if you continue with your partner even if he doesn’t love you?

There is nothing more painful than unrequited love. When someone rejects you because they don’t like you, it’s easier to forget and move on with your life. But when it’s your partner who doesn’t love you, then life can be hell.

Why do we stay in relationships where we don’t feel loved and cared for?

sometimes we fool ourselves and we don’t listen. We know what is happening but it is very difficult for us to say out loud: “he doesn’t love you, get out of there”.We hold on to their promises. It may be that the couple does not have the courage to tell us that they do not love us and may even try to deceive us into believing that they do love us. However, he doesn’t show it or care for us, so it’s not that hard to see that his words have nothing to do with his real feelings. And still, we cling to his words and his promises.We believe that we are strong and that we can withstand so much pain. However, suffering is not free: it has a very high cost for our mental and emotional health. When we want to realize it, our soul is shattered and it’s time to pick up the little pieces to put our hearts and minds back together. It’s time to do therapy and sometimes it takes us many years to heal those wounds.

It is important not to endure or suffer, or expose ourselves to pain for free.

For an ego issue. We believe that our partner at some magical moment will realize how special we are and fall in love with us.

There is no reward for suffering for love

If your partner or partner is not in love with you, they are not going to fall in love. As much as you love them and as much as you give yourself. It’s hard to assume, but the sooner we accept that there is no prize, the better. Simply because, if you don’t, unpleasant things can start to happen to you:

Your self-esteem drops to appalling levels. The lower your self-esteem, the more you tend to think that you don’t deserve love and the more you cling to the person who doesn’t love you.You do not ask yourself why he is with you if he does not love you, or why you are with that person if he does not love you. Generally, what you do is paralyze yourself for the fear that he will get tired of you or go with another person. Instead of making the decision, you prefer to “enjoy” the time your partner has left to leave your side.You learn to live with that fear and generally fall into submission so as not to cause the fatal outcome. You become more accommodating, you avoid conflict, you are more helpful, you throw yourself into caring and at some point you fantasize about making yourself essential so that the other person believes that they need you.You can lose your dignity. In addition to becoming submissive and accommodating, you may also be more willing to lose your dignity, to allow yourself to be lied to, cheated on, and mistreated. And this is dangerous because the more masochistic we become, the more sadistic others become. That is, the more submissive we show ourselves, the more likely it is that they treat us worse.

take the final step

There are many ways to try to prevent your partner from breaking up the relationship even if he wants to get out of it, but none of them work: if someone doesn’t love you, it doesn’t matter what you do to make them fall in love. That is why it is so important not only work self-esteem, but also the ego, and keep in mind that no one is essential, that relationships in which only one invests and gives the best of himself never work.

All relationships have to be based on freedom and not in necessity. It is not fair for someone to take advantage of another person’s need to be loved. Nor is it fair to try to make the other person believe that he will not be happy without her and that he needs her to be well.

A person who doesn’t love you doesn’t care for you either. And the lack of care is mistreatment, indifference is mistreatment. That is why it is so important that you take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself means giving up relationships in which they don’t love us and don’t care for us. Taking care of ourselves means only staying in relationships in which there is reciprocity, sincerity and love with full hands: let’s take care of ourselves!