What can you do when a man knows that he has you safe?

In the dating world, especially in the early stages of a relationship when you’re getting to know someone, it’s important to allow room for intrigue and seduction.

If everything is too easy, and too fast, the man (and the woman too) feels that there is not much to discover, and without the challenge he could lose interest very quickly.

He does not feel his hero instinct activated and therefore does not develop a true commitment to you.

If you are a very infatuated and romantic woman, you run the risk of letting yourself be carried away by impulses and showing her too much, too soon.

But you could even be very carefree, and not particularly looking for a commitment, but still have attitudes that make him think he has you safe.

At that moment, the man, whether or not he is fully emotionally mature, could feel fear and even panic that you will fall in love with him.

The idea is simple, when he perceives that the risk of a breakup is low, his romantic feelings may also be less.

On the other hand, when a boy is afraid of losing you, he will be aware of you. He will be quite obvious by his attitudes towards you.

That fear of losing you also means that he is really interested in you and probably even in love.

There are things you can do to get that feeling in him and make him do as much for you as you do for him. He will want to avoid losing you. He continues reading to find out more.

The 7 things you must do so that a man does not feel that he has you safe

1) Do not be so available, do a self-reflection

Sometimes, you may not realize how aware you are of your boy. Think about it for a minute.

Here are some red flags to watch out for:

When you receive a message from him, do you reply instantly and wait for his response? Do you always say yes when he asks you out? Do you even change your plans when he tells you to see each other? Do you do everything to please him? Do you write to him every day to hear from him? Don’t you have a social life apart from him? Don’t you put any limit to what he wants and forget about what you want?

These are some attitudes that will generate in him the feeling that he should not try at all to have you.

He will feel that no matter what he does, whenever he wants, you will be available.

And I’m not talking about playing games, or playing hard to get. I would never recommend something like this (although there are many blogs that do).

The most important thing here is that you understand that your time is worth as much as his.

That you can have good moments even if they are not by his side and that you are with him because you choose. Not because you need it.

When you are clear about this, your bond with him will be transformed, I assure you.

2) Reevaluate the relationship

Now is the time to take the time to reflect on him and your relationship.

Do you think he is a person who is really worth fighting for? Or have they reached a point of no return?

Beyond the fact that he feels safe in you, is he a gentle man, who has the characteristics that you want in a partner?

It seems elementary, but sometimes you could get lost in your ego. And only want him because you feel that he ignores you and that you are losing him.

He might not seem very interested, but is he really a person you are interested in?

If he ran after you, would you like it the same?

Just like women who date married men, if they broke up and were 100% for each other, the attraction…would it be the same?

3) Find a life

Have fun on your own!

Remember all the things you did in the time you now spend with him.

I’m sure you didn’t stay home all day.

So, resume those activities that you are passionate about. The art course, the dance classes, the yoga in the park on weekends.

There are so many activities you can do that will surely make you feel good.

In addition to making him see that he is not the only thing in your life, he will make you understand that there are many things you can enjoy without him by your side.

Independent time is essential for couples.

That each one enjoys their individual space with friends and outside the couple is key to a healthy and lasting relationship.

Plus, when you don’t have as much time available, you’ll just stop thinking about everything so much.

Boredom can be a great destroyer of couples, don’t be the one to suffer it!

You will stop asking him where he is all the time, and believe me, he will notice.

4) Put yourself first and set limits

If you are here, it is probably because you tend to put others before you. You want to please everyone, even if it means giving up what you want.

So, something that will not be easy, but that you must do, is to start putting yourself first.

If you don’t mind eating out or staying in, tell him you want to have a different night. You don’t have to impose yourself, just state what you want and maintain a certain firmness.

Don’t give in so easily to pressure, you have as much right as he does to want things you don’t agree on.

And what is fair is that the two commit and give in from time to time to please each other.

You shouldn’t be the one always trying to do what he wants.

And contrary to what you might think, (and probably what he will tell you), it’s probably something he likes.

He will know what the rules of the game are and that will make him feel more comfortable with you.

If they are not clear about those rules, because you have not taken care to manifest them, they will feel confused and will never give you their best.

When you value yourself and are clear about what you want and what your limits are, you help your man feel the same way about you.

5) If necessary, distance yourself

The distance in the couple is something sometimes feared, but at the same time it can result in something strengthening for both.

It doesn’t have to be something very serious and formal.

Perhaps there is a trip that you have wanted to do alone for a long time, but since you are in a relationship, you have suspended it.

This may be a good time to pick it up again.

Having time to miss each other and reconnect with yourselves can be very nourishing for the couple.

This way you will also give him the opportunity to notice all those small details of yours that he is used to and that perhaps he no longer values.

There’s a reason they say you don’t value what you have until you lose it. Maybe you don’t have to go that far.

6) If all else fails, ignore it

If you’ve tried everything to let him know something is wrong and you don’t feel valued, but he doesn’t acknowledge receipt, then it’s time to be more radical.

Stop answering him and answering his calls for a while. I might get upset and ask you what the hell is wrong with you. But at least he’ll know that something has to change if he wants to stay with you.

I’m sure you don’t like putting yourself in a place of constant claim either. And let’s be honest, it doesn’t work if you have to be asking for each other’s attention all the time.

Men are more responsive to action, so if you stop talking to her, delay your responses, and send her a couple of monosyllables, she’ll know something’s up.

Maybe then he’ll decide to listen to what you’re feeling.

7) Let him take the initiative

I know this will be difficult, surely you like this boy a lot and what you want is to spend all your time with him.

But if you feel that everything will fall apart the first moment you stop talking to him, then it’s no use.

Leave him the space to go on your search. Men need to feel challenged and that they have something to accomplish.

If he is treating you as his option B, show him how it feels. He starts making plans on your own and saying “no” more.

I know this terrifies you because you feel like you’re going to lose him, but believe me, if that happens it won’t have anything to do with your attitude but with his lack of interest.

The sooner you understand it, the better, you will not waste your time with someone who does not value you. And if he really cares about you he will react.

Read here the 32 honest signs that a man has had enough of you.

3 Tools so he doesn’t take you for granted

1) Write the reasons why you feel that he is not afraid of losing you

This is useful if you are the impulsive type, finding it difficult to articulate your thoughts.

It gives you time to think and re-evaluate your thoughts and attitudes.

Review them the next day and then the next and think about how to transform them.

2) Focus on yourself

Since you already suspect that he is not afraid of losing you, make a vision of what you want from your relationship. Think about how you would like the man next to you to treat you.

Make a vision of what you want your life to be.

3) Talk to him

Most of the big challenges in relationships can be solved with good communication.

Tell him what you really feel and what you want in a relationship. Establish your limits with him and tell him that you will not be there every time he wants it.

If he doesn’t want to lose you, ask him if he’s willing to do the job. If he wants to walk away, don’t stop him or chase him.

It hurts when you know a man isn’t afraid of losing you, but don’t hurt yourself more by chasing him or waiting for him to come. It probably won’t happen.

Something has to change. And if he can’t make changes for you so that you feel loved, then he can change yourself.

You deserve the kind of love that makes you feel irreplaceable.

Continuing with the reasons why someone might take you for granted, here are 10 things that could be happening that you may not have recognized.

10 Very Obvious Signs That A Guy Is Not Afraid Of Losing You And Doesn’t Love You Anymore

You may have doubts about his feelings for you, but perhaps you didn’t realize that the problem is that he is taking you for granted.

Sometimes you will be able to do something to change the situation, but in others it will be better to face reality so that you can step aside and continue with your life.

Here are several signs that could confirm if this is what is happening with your guy.

1) You’re doing most of the work from the start

It takes two to tango.

For your relationship to work, the two of you must make the same effort, or at least almost the same, to maintain it.

Maybe you are the one who always takes the initiative, because otherwise he will never try to talk to you.

You are the one planning the dates, giving the gifts, and cooking the meals.

Deep down you feel that if you stopped trying, your relationship would slowly die.

There’s a chance he’s just a lazy guy (and actually scared of losing you), but if he’s not going all out, then chances are he’s just not that interested in your relationship.

2) He is not afraid of hurting you

When you love someone and are afraid of losing them, you will do everything you can to avoid hurting them.

In any case, seeing your loved one suffer in some way would hurt you twice as much.

If he is not afraid of hurting you, either physically or emotionally, then you need to take a step back and think.

Put aside any emotions you may have for him, because it is a sign that you could be in an abusive relationship.

If he keeps hurting you and you don’t see him trying to change his ways, he just doesn’t love you, even if…