We all have a whip of indifference

Being indifferent to suffering is what dehumanizes human beings. Indifference is more dangerous than anger and hatred. Indifference is not an answer, it is not a beginning; is the end. Therefore, indifference is always a friend of the enemy, since it benefits the aggressor, never its victim, whose pain intensifies when the person feels forgotten.

At many moments in our lives we have surely been able to verify these facts for ourselves. People around us who turned their backs on us, did not feel the slightest empathy or who calling themselves “friends”, “partner” and even “family” seemed to feel nothing for us. This can be twice as harmful as anything else.

The pain of indifference

Sigmund Freud He considered that the opposite of love was not hate but rather being indifferent.. If we think about it carefully, we could see that love and hate are so closely linked that, in fact, sometimes they even complement each other. While indifference is defined as “that which arouses neither interest nor affection,” hatred, according to the dictionary, indicates an “antipathy and aversion toward some person or thing whose evil is desired.”

But, Why does it cause us infinitely greater pain to be ignored, or to have no interest in us, than the pain of enduring anger or punishment? Perhaps it is because rejection is unbearable for us, because we are beings who want to feel part of a group and, when they ignore us, they are taking us out of it.

Indifference is worse than anger or punishment because there is no response from other people towards us. It’s as if they didn’t care about us in the slightest, as if we were worthless. This hurts us deeply, because impassivity sometimes even makes us feel that we do not exist for others.

You could say that this situation is much worse than punishment or that it is the most harmful form of punishment. If we are not careful, our self-esteem could be terribly damaged. We all know that when self-esteem is at rock bottom, it is very difficult to raise it again (although not impossible).

The wait that is cruel

When we wait for a message, a call, an appointment and this wait is prolonged, we feel vulnerable, transparent and detached from affection or interest. Disinterest damages us and makes us desperate. However, when we hate someone (ex-partner, partner, family member, etc.), perhaps our mind still finds reasons to be attentive, to dedicate in part, a small gesture or demonstration of feeling or resentment, but, a show of attention to the person. end.

Indifference, when it is real and true, is truly cruel, a sterile feeling alien to all the moral principles that are worth preserving. When we see that in the face of lies, torture, famine and misery, evictions, abuse, damage, suffering, theft, being impassive remains and predominates, it is because the victims of all that pain are dangerously being forgotten.

Unquestionably, only those who have suffered indifference know that it is a deep wound for the heart. That to preserve our self-love, it would be good to apply what Amado Nervo wrote: “I love the one who loves me and I forget the one who forgets me.”

Have you ever felt ignored by other people to this point? How have you reacted and felt when you noticed how they turned their back on you or did not feel or suffer for you?

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